see quote and my answer below
Yep exactly, if I like a chick I pretty much know we're compatible right away.....
Probably within 2-3 meets / conversations, I know if I'm taking this chick seriously or stringing her along for fukk buddy material.
Men of the Coli, what REALLY makes difference when choosing to commit to a girl or not?
- Thread starter Slimwithafatgirlsappetite
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Probably within 2-3 meets / conversations, I know if I'm taking this chick seriously or stringing her along for fukk buddy material.
ThrobbingHood
“I’m Sorry for 2025”
Compare celebrity relationships to 99.999999% of the non-famous population brehettes.
ThrobbingHood
“I’m Sorry for 2025”
Sorry. I felt inspired by @AZBeauty . I’m only bigging my brehette by copying her behavior.
Also pointing out your lack of logic.
btw, I’m not angry. Pointing out your logical fallacies doesn’t make me angry.
So the truth is, Usher probably never saw future with her. He was just comfortable with her. I've done this before. I stayed in a relationship for two years with a chick because I was comfortable with easy access to sex and conversation. When ever she would try to bring up kids or marriage, I'd just roll eyes inside and then reply like this:
But deep down inside, I had zero intention of being with someone like her long term.
For me it’s simple, what does she add to my life? A lot of times people think committing to someone is suppose to complete you, that’s not true and how relationships become toxic easily. If I’m committing to a woman she needs to be complete and I need to be complete, when we’re together we should at +200%.
Thanks for this response- out of interest, how do you usually quantify what a woman is adding or bringing to your life early on?
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So the truth is, Usher probably never saw future with her. He was just comfortable with her. I've done this before. I stayed in a relationship for two years with a chick because I was comfortable with easy access to sex and conversation. When ever she would try to bring up kids or marriage, I'd just roll eyes inside and then reply like this:
But deep down inside, I had zero intention of being with someone like her long term.
This is sad but I think this is something even most women know feel down.
Is this the same girl, out of interest that you mentioned before? If it’s a different girl, what was it about her that you knew wouldn’t work for you in a marriage?
If it’s the same girl as you were referring to before, no worries. Again, all this input is FASCINATING. Honestly it’s all stuff we know deep down but don’t want to admit.
GreenGhxst
Veteran
edited my post after reading the OP
Some women are really good at doing one thing and okay at doing something else.... and you placed a lot of value on what she was excellent at.. at the beginning of the relationship
But that one thing that she does really well is no longer important to you, and something that she is below average at is what you really need
You sort of grow comfortable and complacent until you reach an impasse where you have to either be all the way in or all the way out and nikkas wait for that time to dip,because they love her, can be themselves around her and they're having sex... but they also know that it won't work for whatever reason.. but again they are so comfortable with said woman that they'll still be around her when full commitment aka marriage isn't being pushed
Also men just wanna fukk other women, all the time
Some women are really good at doing one thing and okay at doing something else.... and you placed a lot of value on what she was excellent at.. at the beginning of the relationship
But that one thing that she does really well is no longer important to you, and something that she is below average at is what you really need
You sort of grow comfortable and complacent until you reach an impasse where you have to either be all the way in or all the way out and nikkas wait for that time to dip,because they love her, can be themselves around her and they're having sex... but they also know that it won't work for whatever reason.. but again they are so comfortable with said woman that they'll still be around her when full commitment aka marriage isn't being pushed
Also men just wanna fukk other women, all the time
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Typical Simp
Chivalry is alive!
...OR rather, are men truly random when it comes to commitment?
...is it really mostly about timing and the right girl at the right time or is it something more specific?
I say this because I often hear girls confused as to why a man chose to commit to another woman and not to them, especially when on paper the other girl may have been a ‘better’ catch etc. maybe looks wise, career wise, personality or a combination of all of those things.
OR you’ll see a dude string a woman along for years and not make a commitment and then commit to someone that seems very ‘random’.
Anyway, honest question, what makes a difference to you when choosing to commit or not?
ESPECIALLY if we take out the superficial aspect i.e physical beauty. Beyond that, what is it that makes you commit or not? Is it just the girls vibe, the timing, where you are in your life...a combination of those things?
I’m really interested to know because I feel like this question really mystifies a lot of women, myself included.
As long as she is a woman a man must commit. If he doesn't then he is not a real man.
No one is obligated to commit to anybody in my book. I’m just interested to know what makes men chose one woman for another because a lot of women really drive themselves over the edge with this stuff. It’s interesting that most posts agree that it’s kind of random and out of our control on some level and really mostly about where the dudes mindset is.
...OR rather, are men truly random when it comes to commitment?
...is it really mostly about timing and the right girl at the right time or is it something more specific?
I say this because I often hear girls confused as to why a man chose to commit to another woman and not to them, especially when on paper the other girl may have been a ‘better’ catch etc. maybe looks wise, career wise, personality or a combination of all of those things.
OR you’ll see a dude string a woman along for years and not make a commitment and then commit to someone that seems very ‘random’.
Anyway, honest question, what makes a difference to you when choosing to commit or not?
ESPECIALLY if we take out the superficial aspect i.e physical beauty. Beyond that, what is it that makes you commit or not? Is it just the girls vibe, the timing, where you are in your life...a combination of those things?
I’m really interested to know because I feel like this question really mystifies a lot of women, myself included.
She needs to be a partner, as invested as i am, willing to sacrifice as much as i am and willing to grow.
Commitment is huge for men because when we commit its.usually very serious. If we commit to someone who doesnt seem to be really down in the mud with us, then why commit?
My wife is absolutely down for me. I wouldnt have put a ring on her finger if she wasnt, period
Its not random and its not out of your control. With all due respect most dudes on here are not married or in relationships and find the idea of commitment stupid so you even asking this question here is a bit if a lost cause.
If you dont know what it would take for your man to commit to you, you probably dont know your man that well.
Typical Simp
Chivalry is alive!
A woman is to be cherished and loved. A real man knows this. If I meet a woman it is my obligation and job to look after her and cater to all her needs even if I don't know anything about her. That is how my mother raised me and that is what I will always do.