Met with my ex earlier this week. Maybe shouldn't have.

[Donald Trumps Twitter]

Don't do it

 

[SheWantTheD]

Actions speak louder than words.

Now just let the tax payer clean up her stupid decisions.







nikka a LOT of times I am more vicariously mad FOR yall too, making these dumb mistakes but then again I have the advantage of 3rd party objectivity



preach negro



I can respect that. Too bad 90% of American women can't even manage that.



@SheWantTheD !!!!!! (OP )

huh?

 

[Reginald Noble]

huh?

You missed the joke huh

Re-read your username and the context

 

[Denzel_Saucegton]

Females do that all the time...especially if they've went and had kids with a nobody. For some reason they feel like their value goes up once they have kids or have slept with many men. I knew a female that had two kids and she kept feeling depressed day in and day out about how things would have gone if she didn't. This day and age there's way too many avenue's to find single women which are hard to come by in the first place cause these females are outchea with any and everything. Just had a female try to explain her body count which I mentioned in another thread being past 30 and how she wasn't a "hoe". She even broke it down to a numbers game "if you meet 4 different guys in a year" bullshyt. She came back to you because you're single and yall had memories.

 

[Reginald Noble]

Just had a female try to explain her body count which I mentioned in another thread being past 30

Pause

Her Age?

 

[Denzel_Saucegton]

Pause

Her Age?

32

 

[Reginald Noble]

32

That's 2 guys a year minimum on average since age 15.

No thank you ma'am

I don't consider Women for long term if they've had more than ONE dude every year MAX

Age 32 a healthy number would be 5-6 add 5-6 because they usually under-exaggerated by 50%.

So old girl in your case has likely been with 60+

 

[iBrowse]

Breh you're doing good for yourself...stay away from old shyt....you never know who you'll find next....move forward and prosper

I couldn't agree with this anymore OP

 

[Phoenix Rising]

The devil is a liar man.

You're a great point in your life. At a beautiful point where your future is about to explode. When you are about to meet the real love of your life (cuz it's out there for you) and in walks your past to remind you what hurt you just in order to hold you back.

Now you're talking about her again. The past. Remembering the old pain.

Future to bright to turn into salt by looking back.

Grab you life and tell her to kick rocks and never to contact you again.

 

[Denzel_Saucegton]

That's 2 guys a year minimum on average since age 15.

No thank you ma'am

I don't consider Women for long term if they've had more than ONE dude every year MAX

Age 32 a healthy number would be 5-6 add 5-6 because they usually under-exaggerated by 50%.

So old girl in your case has likely been with 60+

Breh she said she stopped counting after 30 guys I guess

 

[karim]

Sometimes people genuinely miss you breh. Think about it. Life is so big and there are so many people in our lives. These people are special because their comprise our experiences on earth- our own little microcosm of human relations. You
Are a Part of her and she is a part of you, no matter how small. She wants to connect with you because you bring some good feelings from
the past to the surface. I can't say that she's gold digging or being wishy washy about her past decisions, but to think that's how she is is way too cynical. Sometimes people just want to see old Friends.

Hi @AdvantageSouthpaw , I'm @StarGirl - the resident voice of reason. I know you only wanted to vent, but allow me to throw my hat into the ring.

I think you should evaluate what made you even let her contact you/ what made you respond to her. You have great things going for you- but I think they may not mean anything to you. Whatever you're searching for, and I do sense that you're searching for something, you won't find it in her.

She was with you when you were broke- cool. I'll assume she was broke as well. What is the great accomplishment of a broke person dating another broke person?

The sex was good. Cool. Things are better in our memories. There's a million freaks running around here. Trust me, my generation was raised on freaky porn. Freaky has become the norm.

She disrespected you with the "I'm not that easy anymore" comment. When did she decide this? Before or after she had kids? So she was once easy and now, after multiple children, she is hard to get.

But after all this, it still won't matter, because it's not really about her- is it?

You wanna know how often I think about my ex? Never. Because I'm happy where I'm at now.

Don't look for something other than disappointment in the unhappy.

 

[ViShawn]

I'm frankly still perplexed as to why my ex was telling me about her dating life after her divorce. It wasn't anything explicit...She mentioned one guy was great but was too short (she's 5'10"), she also dated a smart guy but there wasn't much attraction and I think another one but she was concerned of a culture clash.

I mean I kept it cool and no need to be jealous because I had my dating life since then and I told her about it but very briefly about it but it was almost like she rubbed it in my face.

She also texted me a few weeks ago saying that I'm glad I was single and that she wanted me to visit her. Of course I never agreed to any of of that nonsense.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

Because that ish brought a bit of confusion as to why she wanted to meet up.

Basically she broke up with me in 2012 and moved to upstate NY. I was wanting her to move to TX with me when we both lived in Atlanta because I had a job opportunity there.

Nope she broke up with me and moved with an ex of hers that was in NY. Got married, had kids, was still in school, got divorced, now a single mom of two.

Meanwhile the breakup certainly did hurt me a lot, but I did a lot while in Texas and took all that negative energy into positive things. I improved my career a lot, now making six figures when 2011 I was around 45K. I trained MMA for a while and competed. I dated a bit, started a 2 year relationship but we aren't together now. Traveled, learned from my past and stuff. I'm relocating to a city more desirable for me at the beginning of the year in Austin TX. Life is good.

She hits me up out the blue and says she thought about me. This is early Nov so I'm like a bit given she has given me breadcrumbs in the past.

So she is in Atlanta this week. I meet her and her kids...it was spur of the moment. I had drinks at this place her brother bartends. It was really platonic.

She was sexual with me over text, taking to me like old times, saying she was excited to see me. But when we met the two times it was super platonic and very dry, sterile conversations about life. I kissed her once and she was like "I'm not that easy anymore" Which I sort of laughed at. Then she later makes a sexual joke about me giving it to her every day when we were together.

It wasn't totally off. We had laughs and stuff but I just am curious as to why she contacted me. To check up on me? Ego boost? She told me some of her dating follies and it seems between her work and kids it's totally different. She's calmed down too. I wish her the best and I know she has felt guilty about the break up and contacted me more than once but I admit it made me a bit frustrated the past day or two.

Amazing...I guess i'm not the only one.
I had an ex...first love...first everything, that I hadn't seen in over 12 years, contact me out of the blue last year.
Pulled the same BS routine as your ex...

Spoiler: ex bullshyts

(dated since college, wanted to marry her...she wouldn't, cheated on me, I dumped her, moved on with my life, built up my skills and money, got successful, got married, got a family, stable wealthy and happily married, meanwhile she married who her family had arranged for her, old boy beat her up, cheated on her multiple times, used her for money, gave her a kid, they divorced, she moved to the west coast to avoid her ex stalking, contacts me to tell me how miserable her life has been...lol)

Well, she tells me her horrible life story since we broke up and the whole time she's dropping hints and being sexual and all this bullshyt. Then she tells me she's moving to california to get away from her abusive ex and would like to see me before she leaves. I'm like whatever.
So I meet up with her and she's all handshakes and old-friend like...which is way far from the bs she was kicking on the phone (just like I thought).
Told her how happy I was in life and how great things have been and how much money I have and how awesome my wife and son are and how I love my job and how I bought a huge house with plans to buy more and EV-ER-Y fukkING GREAT THING I COULD THINK OF...just to rub it in her face how she fukkED UP!!
So she gives me a hug like a friend and tells me to keep in touch. In my head I'm like "Yeah right".

She does the same shyt too. Sends me random texts about how she misses me and misses when we were together and how I took care of her and treated her like a queen. One time I called her out about that shyt and laid into her about why if that's the case she didn't wanna spend her life with me.
She got all upset and shyt...I didn't care, it's the truth!! Now someone else is in that prime spot and enjoying it like the queen she is (My love, my wife).
If she thought I was gonna toss my pearls to swine and chase her ass...she's a bigger fukkin fool than she seems.

Since I called her out, she does the usual thot move where they send you a message once a month and if you reply they don't answer back for days...
All bullshyt to feed their sick pathetic female egos. This bytch sent me a happy new year picture of her a few days back...I check the metatag data on the photo...the date on the pic is from fukkin 2013.
bytch...please.

I don't even respond anymore.
People don't fukkin change...once a liar, always a liar.
Cali will eat her alive.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

Sometimes people genuinely miss you breh. Think about it. Life is so big and there are so many people in our lives. These people are special because their comprise our experiences on earth- our own little microcosm of human relations. You
Are a Part of her and she is a part of you, no matter how small. She wants to connect with you because you bring some good feelings from
the past to the surface. I can't say that she's gold digging or being wishy washy about her past decisions, but to think that's how she is is way too cynical. Sometimes people just want to see old Friends.

Let me tell you a story.
A story about a lil predatory Philipina chick named "Melinda" (Name changed to protect the predatory).
Melinda lived in the philipines and worked in a bar as a stripper.
US Military guy Arnold saw Melinda in the bar and melinda noticed him. She sauntered over to him and gave him the lapdance of his life, even sucked his dikk in the back room!
Arnold couldn't believe that this sexy lil philipina girl thought he was attractive.
Arnold proposed to her and planned to bring her back to the states.
Melinda told her family the good news while Arnold was back home getting things ready for his new bride.
Meanwhile, Arnold's military buddies told him he was fukking up...but arnold wouldn't listen.
Arnold went back to the philipines and married melinda and brought her back to the states.
And wouldn't you know it, melinda wound up getting pregnant shortly after arriving in the united states.
Well, it turns out that things weren't going so well with arnold and melinda.
Arnold wasn't making melinda happy anymore for some reason and didn't have enough money to give her (so she could send it to her family back in pinay-land).
Melinda wasn't happy being a stay at home wife, so melinda got with some of the local pinay females and learned all the bad things that foreigner military wives could do!
As things got closer to her delivery date, melinda listened to the other pinay wives more and more.
And when the baby finally arrived, melinda had her plan to get all the happy money from arnold that she could...ready to go.
Melinda waited around another year and a half to make sure her plans were in order, and when she saw that they were...she claimed spousal abuse!
Arnold lost his rank and got put in jail for a week for something he never did.
Meanwhile melinda filed for divorce, spousal support and child support and her lawyer told her that she would probably get around $3000 a month from arnold after all was said and done.
Melinda only wound up getting $1500 a month from arnold after her plan was enacted and her family back in pinay-land was not happy...oh no they weren't.
They told Melinda that the only way that they would be happy is if they moved to the states and she got more money.
So melinda moved her family into the house that she and arnold once shared and helped them secure their visas and citizenship.
Melinda needed more money because her family now ate up all the money she got from arnold every month.
So melinda decided to find someone to run the same plan on...
And sure enough, she found a guy she could trick into knocking her up and giving her more child support money!
Now that she was receiving another $600 a month for her second kid, she could do all the things she wanted to AND stay at home without working!

Now this is someone I know personally...on FB and in the real world.
I know that her money has once again run out.
I know that she's a predatory hoebag from another land run by her lazy foreigner family.
This predatory hoebag wants to come visit me sometime.
She knows how wealthy I am and how stable my life is.

You think I'm gonna let this evil chick come to see me!?

fukk NO!!!

If you let evil people like this in once...they will ruin you. They're demons!!
Snakes!!!
And snakes weren't made to be cuddled!
nikkas need to remember that!

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

Hmmm well I don't harbor any resentment like I once did during the breakup and at the end of it all I think it's wasted energy to be upset about things in the past. Like I said I needed to experience breakup. Like anything in life you need to experience loss in order to grow.

When she met me she was a college girl. I was 27 and she was 21 but I suffered a huge setback during that time and I think I recall her not caring about all that

Maybe the easy part was the time I saw her a few years back after we broke up and she contacted me NUMEROUS times for about six months and I completely ignored her until one day I answered a call from her. We hung out and we had sex many times when her and I were in town. No idea.

In my life now I wish I found the right person for me. In some of my exes I wish things were perfect. My last one that lives in Texas really wants me to get back with her because she feels I'm perfect for her. I saw a lot of problems and differences in us that I didn't want to pursue, but part of me WISHES that things were "happily ever after".

I really have not found that in my life in another person. After many dates, rejections, broken friendships, failed relationships I have not. I have had success in other aspects of my life. I can goal set and accomplish things. Right now I can buy almost anything I want, travel, answer to nobody. Just currently I haven't found the right partner - and I know that she was and never would be that for me. I guess if I was 'happier' in that respect I would have responded with nicities but not have met her.

I'm trying to be more emotionally honest and vulnerable this year and man it's killing me typing this

Props to you breh, we all appreciate the honesty. It's the only way to get to the core of the issues at hand.
You have it all, most of all...your freedom.
Do not let the expectations of this society burden you with wants you don't need.
Women are great...love is great...but neither are mandatory.
Date females...have fun...enjoy their company/sex/favors/benefits.
Date enough to keep yourself busy and never lonely...
BUT DO NOT SETTLE DOWN WITH JUST ANYTHING!
You know my story, After I left that ex...I was single, celibate and happy for a good 3 years.
I learned so many things with my free time. I dated...A LOT. But I didn't give up my heart or money to any female. Some understood it...some didn't.
When I saw the woman that is currently my wife, I knew she was something special.
With all I had, I had to STILL improve myself to get on her radar. I had to improve myself as a person to earn her. Just falling for her made me a better man, dating her made me an even better man, and marrying her has made me an amazing man. She has made my life better in more ways that I can publicly put out on this board. The reason why i'm making triple what I made when I met her is because of her seeing the real value in me and her showing me how I wasn't fighting in my weight class.

A good woman will expand your life in every way.
Yeah, there will be rough patches...but you will know that she is devoted to you and you only and only has your best interests at heart.

I wish you nothing but peace, happiness, continued success and the woman that will be your other half breh.

Sincerely,
Behind-The-Wheel