^^this^^ It's absolutely pathetic, black female insecurity is truly legendary I've truly never seen anything like this you don't see even see Asian men complain this much (and they complain a lot) when Asian female starlets get with White men.
Let's be honest here if Michael B Jordan was a struggling actor with a part time job at Burger King no black woman would be checking for him. However black women think as soon as a black man makes it he is obligated to date, fukk and procreate with them if not then you're a c00n, traitor, uncle tom and all of the other shaming words they use.
Why don't they spend their time trying to police black men who are Doctors engineers and lawyers instead of celebrities? fukking clowns man....
Well for one, I'm sure asian men feel some type of way(and I do believe they complain) but black people in general tend to be a lot more vocal about our issues, than other minority groups. Amongst themselves, asian men probably make similar complaints as BW do, in the same frequency, but Asian culture is different, and from observation they seem to be more private about discussing their issues publicly and calling each other out, whereas obviously black people have no qualms about it(even though we should) and black people have no problem calling people out.
Black people in general(BM and BW) are insecure people, but there are differences in where and how the sexes are insecure, for women it's tied to all the things that we've been taught make a woman desirable, and for men the same. When we think about the residual impact of racism on both sexes, it makes sense that even in 2018 a lot of us are still lost and seeking validation that we see our white and nonblack counterparts receive, and still feeling hurt when we feel like we aren't receiving it from our own(we know deep down that whites and other nonblacks won't validate us even though some of us still try to get it, but we expect our own to, and even feel like we need our own to, since others won't). I feel like a lot of BW want to be the main choice for the best BM, and honestly this is no different for any other women(white, latina, etc--a lot of groups feel entitled to have the best of the best of their own, that's why WM get upset if they see a BM with a really good looking WW, they believe that WW is theirs) the difference is that because of our history in this country, theirs more emotions tied to it. If that makes any sense.
As for the bolded, I feel what your saying, but on the same token, the beautiful WW that Michael B dates wouldn't be checking for him at Burger King either... He didn't pull the caliber of women that's he with right now, right away, and he certainly wouldn't have if he was broke. This is true for the majority of actors and starlets--most of them wouldn't be able to pull the people they do, if they were broke, or if they weren't famous. This is why I don't really get why that argument is applied specifically to BW... Kim wouldn't have checked for Kanye if he was at Burger King, either. Like I said, it makes sense that BW want the BEST BM to procreate with, and marry. The same way it makes sense that most WW, want the best WM to procreate with and marry. But WW, and other nonbw don't react the same emotionally, when they see the best of their men with other groups, because they don't have the same history in this country as BW. Not to mention, the majority of the time, the best WM is with the WW, so even when there are WM marrying asians and others, WW still see a large number of their "best" men with white women. There are also more of their men that are starlets, so despite the representation of WM with AW, they still see a large number of WM with WW.
I feel like, if there were more black starlets, in the same number as we see for WM starlets for instance, and the history in this country wasn't what it was(therefore making it so that a lot of black starlets feel the need to go white to progress in this industry) we'd see more representation of the best BM and best BW together, so it would almost offset the number of BM and BW starlets that are with nonblacks. JMO though.
As for the rest, personally I agree--I understand WHY bw get so disappointed and tied into who these BM starlets date and marry, but these men are strangers for all intent and purposes, it's unnecessary to be so emotionally invested in what they do with their private lives. And I think it's ridiculous to keep making his dating choice a conversation. At this point, we know what he likes, it is what it is. Either they can support him, or not. But continuing to bring it up, to get upset--it's unnecessary.
