MJ dropping knowledge on Black relationships

[Indiglow Meta (R$G)]

oh youre talking about dating out?
me too.

You can't concede anything. I mentioned it in the sentence right afterward "Dudes are corny for that, too"...You ain't gotta correct my quotes.

 

[kayslay]

You can't concede anything. I mentioned it in the sentence right afterward "Dudes are corny for that, too"...You ain't gotta correct my quotes.

t aint that serious i just like adding color and feminizing to quotes now.
you are serious about grammar were you an english major?

 

[Indiglow Meta (R$G)]

t aint that serious i just like adding color and feminizing to quotes now.
you are serious about grammar were you an english major?

Nope.

 

[Michael9100]

how many blacks dudes want* a regular boring chick though?

 

[mamba]

I am more offended when Black men actually believe those narratives and follow that line of thinking....

Rather than someone who characterizes the lunacy...

Yesterday @mamba told me the best thing for an intelligent Black man was a non-Black women.... ....

And he believes it.... That shyt is offensive.....

Wait a minute. You're putting words in my mouth.

I said that it's better for young Black men, without a strong male figure in the home, to be considered attractive/cool by non-Black women. If he's attractive to young non-Black girls at an early age, he doesn't feel the need to try to live up to the hood nikka and other hypermasculine stereotypes young, Black girls are brainwashed into desiring.

Simply being Black is "hypermasculine" and "hood" enough for the typical young, non-Black woman. A young, Black male doesn't have to be extra hard and a walking caricature to impress them.

It's a fukked up thing to say, but it's the truth.

Migrating it over to this thread. @Colicat

 

[mamba]

Advice from a white man to a wench.

How Do I Get Men Outside My Race To Commit To Me?

I have a question that I don’t think you’ve been asked before! I’m a slim and attractive, successful black woman who only dates Caucasian men – but I can’t get one to commit! It’s so frustrating, I seem to be a curiosity. They all say, “I’ve never been out with a black women before” as if all my bits are going to be different to any other woman on this planet. If I’m lucky, they’ll date me briefly, but it’s purely about the sex! (I haven’t had many sexual partners. I’m 36 and have slept with under 10.) I’m extremely fussy who I “put out” for. I’m on two dating sites: eHarmony and Match Affinity – both USELESS. I don’t find most men on them attractive and, of the ones that I do, they don’t like me! Anyway, I’ve just read your newsletter. You must be a mind reader as yesterday I was thinking of closing both accounts!

So here’s my question: men clearly find me attractive, but how do I get a Caucasian man to commit? My sister gets men to commit but you wanna see the state of them – I have higher standards! I’ve spoken to my guy friends (all Caucasian) and their feedback is: it’s rare that they meet black women (let alone attractive ones) and while they’d date one, they would never settle down and have children! Is this because most people picture their future from an early age and mixing it up doesn’t quite sit right? I’m so sick of the “you’re really attractive, why are you single” comments because I don’t KNOW why I’m single. Even the men I have dated think I’m great – so why am I not great enough to settle down with??? In the UK, Caucasian women have no problems dating black men. It’s not uncommon to see this type of couple – however, flip the coin and you’re in a different realm. The only men I attract are the ones I don’t fancy or have a different agenda to me! So I realise that in this ever decreasing dating pool, my numbers are even smaller than most women as I don’t and won’t date within my race. I just don’t find black men attractive! So what to do – am I living in a dream world and need to maybe just get into my head that I’m meant to be single? Thanks, from a rather frustrated and almost desperate Jae!

Dear Jae,

Yes. You’re living in a dream world.

To understand why, I need to pick apart your letter, line by line, and hold a mirror up to you, so you can see what I see.

First of all, your question, “How do I get a Caucasian man to commit?” sounds as silly to me as, “How do I get a black woman to commit?”

You’re a black woman, Jae. How would you answer that question if I told you that my black girlfriends always dump me?

If you were smart, you’d tell me one of these three things:

1. You can’t MAKE anyone do anything, Evan. Therefore, any question like “How do I make Jae love me? How do I make her want to change her behavior?” is pointless.

2. If black women are attracted to Jewish men but don’t want to marry us, there’s not much I can do about it, is there? No more than some guitarist can complain that women are attracted to him but don’t want to marry a 40-year-old guy who plays for tips in the subway. It may not be fair, but it’s reality. So if a black woman doesn’t see herself having mixed race Jewish kids, you’re probably not going to be a good fit for her life, Evan – even if you’re both nice, attractive people. That’s life.

3. There’s no difference between black women and other women, Evan. They’re just “women”. So the question remains: why would any woman dump you?

That leads us to the next part of today’s tough love post: “Why would any man dump you, Jae?” (Note to other readers: this a good thing for you to contemplate, too, since humility and self-awareness are the keys to any long-term relationship.)

From your email, I’ve learned a few things:

You have a big ego.

You don’t find most men attractive.

You won’t date within your own race.

You look down on the commitment-oriented white men who fall for your sister since they’re beneath your standards.

Do I even need to say anything else as to why you’re still single?

No, I do not.

If you want to find love, just undo everything I restated above.

Get over yourself. You may be attractive and successful, but quality men care more about your kindness and character and humor than how much you make.

Learn to give men a chance, even if they’re not your type. After all, don’t you want a bunch of Caucasian men to give YOU a chance even if you’re not THEIR type?

Open up to black men, since that’s the most obvious pool of candidates who’d be interested in you.

Stop looking down on nice guys who want to commit to you. They’re better long-term relationship bets than the white men who are using you for exotic sex, don’t you think?

I appreciate your frustration and thank you for your letter, but you’re completely focused on things you can’t change (white men!) instead of the only thing you CAN change (your perceptions, actions and reactions.)

http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/da...do-i-get-men-outside-my-race-to-commit-to-me/

"Learn to give men a chance, even if they’re not your type. After all, don’t you want a bunch of Caucasian men to give YOU a chance even if you’re not THEIR type?"



@Emperor_ReinScarf

 

[mcdivit85]

whats wrong with black women wanting a man with swag? At least she's not being materialistic. Having swag doesn't mean having a large income and expensive shyt.

Because swag is of no substance of the attraction phase. Swag is basically personality and style. Well, those things are good in a vaccum but neither pertains to the crux of the larger issues within a marriage such as:

- paying bills
- raising children
- dealing with extended family
- making financial decisions for school, debt, college savings for children, retirement, buying homes, etc.

And this is not coming from a dude on a moral high ground or from a dude whose sitting on the sidelines with a chip on his shoulder with women. I've cheated on most of the chicks I've dated in my life, but even I can admit that "swag" is only beneficial in a select few instances.

Peace

 

[mcdivit85]

Reading over the first few pages, people are consumed with swag and what it is. Swag is not just confidence....because there are plenty of confident lames. There's confident nerds. There's confident tricks.

Swag is about the impact you have on people, namely women, around you. Here's a few ways to test if you have swag:

1. If your girlfriend has no fear, none at all, of you cheating on her. You sir, have no swag.

2. If you're beginning to date a new chick, and she does not assume you're dating other women besides her. You sir, have no swag.

3. If your girlfriend is totally comfortable with you having female friends and hanging out with them without her. You sir, have no swag.

4. If you and your girl are at a social spot, like a club or bar, and doesn't make her presence known by keeping her hands on you or some other form of lo-jacking you. You sir, have no swag.

5. If you and your girl are at a social spot, like a club or bar, and she doesn't make any comment about some chick noticing you a little too much for her liking. You sir, have no swag.

6. If you've never had a girlfriend(s) go through your phone, social media or email. You sir, have no swag.

7. If you walk into a spot like a coffe shop and not one chick notices your presence. You sir, have no swag.

8. If you always have to text or call first. You sir, have no swag.

9. If you have to pay for everything....all the time....you're a trick. And you sir, have no swag.

10. If your chick never buys you stuff just because. You sir, have no swag.

These are just a few. But if you answer "Yes" to one or more of these, then you have no swag. Doesn't mean you're a virgin or don't date or don't have a girlfriend. Doesn't mean you don't have confidence. It just means you have no swag.

Peace

 

[Warren Moon]

Reading over the first few pages, people are consumed with swag and what it is. Swag is not just confidence....because there are plenty of confident lames. There's confident nerds. There's confident tricks.

Swag is about the impact you have on people, namely women, around you. Here's a few ways to test if you have swag:

1. If your girlfriend has no fear, none at all, of you cheating on her. You sir, have no swag.

2. If you're beginning to date a new chick, and she does not assume you're dating other women besides her. You sir, have no swag.

3. If your girlfriend is totally comfortable with you having female friends and hanging out with them without her. You sir, have no swag.

4. If you and your girl are at a social spot, like a club or bar, and doesn't make her presence known by keeping her hands on you or some other form of lo-jacking you. You sir, have no swag.

5. If you and your girl are at a social spot, like a club or bar, and she doesn't make any comment about some chick noticing you a little too much for her liking. You sir, have no swag.

6. If you've never had a girlfriend(s) go through your phone, social media or email. You sir, have no swag.

7. If you walk into a spot like a coffe shop and not one chick notices your presence. You sir, have no swag.

8. If you always have to text or call first. You sir, have no swag.

9. If you have to pay for everything....all the time....you're a trick. And you sir, have no swag.

10. If your chick never buys you stuff just because. You sir, have no swag.

These are just a few. But if you answer "Yes" to one or more of these, then you have no swag. Doesn't mean you're a virgin or don't date or don't have a girlfriend. Doesn't mean you don't have confidence. It just means you have no swag.

Peace

Passed all ten

 

[J-Nice]

No one said the guy needed to make millions. Stop making excuses. U guys get mad when you fall short. I can understand some frustration. Times are hard but women need to have security. Just like they say men need sex.

I was gonna type a response to this but nvm.

 

[SpacedOutGeek]

:popcornMJ::popcornMJ: @ this whole thread.

We all know truth tho. .

Most girls of any race go for the bad boys ,thugs,athletic , and playboy types.

and then some girls truly dig nerds with social skills

 

[Hugs]

The chick at 0:53 has a good bit of 'rat in her. Probably has had her fair share of prison penis.

She sounds a bit like Pam from Martin.