take home pay for $100k in oakland - 5900/month (pre 401k and healthcare contribution)
401k @ 10% - 800 - you need to save for retirmenet because nothing is waiting on you, pensions are gone
health care - 200 - this is a lowball estimate, you're doing good if you only have to contribute 200/month for your healthcare
Now we're at 4900 take home
Avg 1bd - 2500
Utilities (gas & electric) - 200
Water - 100
Internet - 100
Car note - 400
Insurance - 150
Gas - 250
Cell phone 100
Groceries - 300
Credit card - 250
you're at 4300 right there and i didn't give this person subscriptions (spotify, netflix, etc) or cable, student loans, clothing allowance, child care/school expenses, savings, etc
people really are out of their minds to think $100k can't possibly be paycheck to paycheck, no one said $100k is poverty or a shyt life, but it's not some amount that means you've got excess in your checking account at the end of each month