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weakness and insecurity for example marriage:
This is how most people "fall in love": Person A, who is insecure and has issues, goes on a quest to find Person B (who they believe to be "the one" that they will fall in "love" with an get married, etc). Person A, due to this society which shields people from being brutally honest and introspective with themselves, thinks they're perfect and flawless just the way they are, blames everyone else when there is a problem, and continues on hoping they'll find their "perfect match". Bad relationships? Bad break-ups? All the exes' fault, of course.
Then Person B comes along, and they mesh. Person A is jealous as fuk, controlling, well, it just so happens Person B thinks jealousy = love, enjoys being controlled, and is used to being abused. Person B is very attractive and accomplished, but has a very low self-esteem, and thinks they deserve a POS troll loser like Person A. They "complete" each other. They feed off each others insecurities and issues and form a tight bond of trust that they will work to protect their fragile egos together, because alone, they are weak. Even if they are completely incompatible in every other way, they stick together, out of fear. Fear of abandonment just like how daddy left them as kids, fear of loneliness, fear of rejection from others, fear that they can't do better, whatever fears they have stemming from their own unresolved issues.
Then one day, bam, marriage, now both of them have a feeling of stability, of security, and finally feel accepted, for "who they are". However, this alone does not create a solid foundation for a relationship, so over time, it all crumbles, and the result is yet another divorce statistic. They do some soul searching, improve themselves, or get worse, change, and then, magic, "irreconcilable differences".
Nobody these days works on themselves. Nobody cares to do so. Everyone is perfect just the way they are and everyone's a winner. If anyone says otherwise to them, they're a "negative person" or in modern slang, a "hater". It's rare for someone to be completely secure, confident, with a healthy self-esteem and self-awareness, who has also addressed their issues. It's even rarer for this person to find another person who is the same way, but who also shares similar values, beliefs, interests, passions, to actually form a solid basis for a relationship. Hell, once you hit that level, and don't "need" someone to wean you, you're more likely to just stay single until someone who is really worth your time comes along.
This is why I roll my eyes whenever most people say they're "in love". Yeah, right. One nutcase found another nutcase to pacify them. Sure sounds like "love" to me.
This is how most people "fall in love": Person A, who is insecure and has issues, goes on a quest to find Person B (who they believe to be "the one" that they will fall in "love" with an get married, etc). Person A, due to this society which shields people from being brutally honest and introspective with themselves, thinks they're perfect and flawless just the way they are, blames everyone else when there is a problem, and continues on hoping they'll find their "perfect match". Bad relationships? Bad break-ups? All the exes' fault, of course.
Then Person B comes along, and they mesh. Person A is jealous as fuk, controlling, well, it just so happens Person B thinks jealousy = love, enjoys being controlled, and is used to being abused. Person B is very attractive and accomplished, but has a very low self-esteem, and thinks they deserve a POS troll loser like Person A. They "complete" each other. They feed off each others insecurities and issues and form a tight bond of trust that they will work to protect their fragile egos together, because alone, they are weak. Even if they are completely incompatible in every other way, they stick together, out of fear. Fear of abandonment just like how daddy left them as kids, fear of loneliness, fear of rejection from others, fear that they can't do better, whatever fears they have stemming from their own unresolved issues.
Then one day, bam, marriage, now both of them have a feeling of stability, of security, and finally feel accepted, for "who they are". However, this alone does not create a solid foundation for a relationship, so over time, it all crumbles, and the result is yet another divorce statistic. They do some soul searching, improve themselves, or get worse, change, and then, magic, "irreconcilable differences".
Nobody these days works on themselves. Nobody cares to do so. Everyone is perfect just the way they are and everyone's a winner. If anyone says otherwise to them, they're a "negative person" or in modern slang, a "hater". It's rare for someone to be completely secure, confident, with a healthy self-esteem and self-awareness, who has also addressed their issues. It's even rarer for this person to find another person who is the same way, but who also shares similar values, beliefs, interests, passions, to actually form a solid basis for a relationship. Hell, once you hit that level, and don't "need" someone to wean you, you're more likely to just stay single until someone who is really worth your time comes along.
This is why I roll my eyes whenever most people say they're "in love". Yeah, right. One nutcase found another nutcase to pacify them. Sure sounds like "love" to me.
