Moving away from Home and everyone that Loves you for a Career, nice Car and Home...

[Stuntone]

Myself and many others grew up in cities with not a lot of career opportunities available to us. Many of us go off and build a nice life financially, but in an isolated. Many of us don't feel any connection to our new location. We don't know any of our neighbors or who the mayor is. A few of us find a decent mate, but it doesn't work usually bcuz deep down we know trying to build a family with no family around isn't ideal. So many of us men just stay player, took me years to realize this.

I know many women that moved to DC, Houston, Dallas and Atl. They have good jobs, but no man, no kids, just a few friends in the same situation. Some of these women were fortunate enough to get a house precovid. But the people earlier in their careers are going to catch hell trying to get purchase a home. I think from here on out, you're going to need 2 decent earners to afford a home. We're going to have to learn to work and live together, this gender war shyt is going to have to end.

I just moved back home and realize I rather live a regular life and get to see my family and friends daily then to live in a nicer home and drive a nicer car while isolated in a foreign city. Let's not forget the cost living. I guess some people are wired and raised differently, some people don't car to visit home ever.

 

[murksiderock]

On the inverse, I'll probably be done visiting California for awhile after I head home in October. It's not that I don't miss it, because I do....but the reality is I've built an entire ecosystem for myself on the East Coast. My children are here, my career is here, I'm comfortable here, my money goes further here...

My steparents and my older brother live in NC, but that's it. I have two brothers, a sister, and my mom in different parts of Georgia. Out of those 7 people not a single one of them is from the East Coast originally and I don't see or speak to any of them daily or even weekly for some...

Most of my people are still in California but as I said, my life and lifestyle have been established here. And I'm okay with it...

 

[Sad Bunny]

I would kill myself if I had to grow up and live in my hometown forever

 

[The BasedFather]

I love my fam, but I want out of bum ass Michigan. Ain’t shyt to do and it’s cold af. I’ll holla at them on FaceTime

 

[MR. SNIFLES]

FAMILY IS THE REASON I STAY IN DETROIT. I CAN'T IMAGINE LIVING SOMEWHERE THAT DOESN'T HAVE ANY OF MY FAMILY CLOSE BY. THAT SOUNDS LONELY.

 

[Wig Twistin Season]

That’s a tough one OP. While I have plenty of family here in San Diego, I left the south because i didn’t want my future children dealing with the blatant racism I dealt with growing up. The trade off was, there aren’t many black people here, so while my kids are doing well and making the right moves, they don’t get the full cultural experience here. However, I don’t regret my choice.

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

Op damm near 50 and posting like he 18! shyt pathetic

 

[2 one 3]

I moved back to Cali to be closer to family. But honestly, my money went a lot further in Oregon.

And it does get lonely without having your people nearby

 

[jerzboy]

Myself and many others grew up in cities with not a lot of career opportunities available to us. Many of us go off and build a nice life financially, but in an isolated. Many of us don't feel any connection to our new location. We don't know any of our neighbors or who the mayor is. A few of us find a decent mate, but it doesn't work usually bcuz deep down we know trying to build a family with no family around isn't ideal. So many of us men just stay player, took me years to realize this.

I know many women that moved to DC, Houston, Dallas and Atl. They have good jobs, but no man, no kids, just a few friends in the same situation. Some of these women were fortunate enough to get a house precovid. But the people earlier in their careers are going to catch hell trying to get purchase a home. I think from here on out, you're going to need 2 decent earners to afford a home. We're going to have to learn to work and live together, this gender war shyt is going to have to end.

I just moved back home and realize I rather live a regular life and get to see my family and friends daily then to live in a nicer home and drive a nicer car while isolated in a foreign city. Let's not forget the cost living. I guess some people are wired and raised differently, some people don't car to visit home ever.

Don’t let the comments in here bother you. I grew up in an era where everybody wanted to get out of the state. Everybody pretty much isolates their family where you have different siblings and cousins living all throughout the states. I’m slowly seeing a shift, amongst those with kids. A lot move closer or wish they could. Feel like I grew up in a time where everybody thought you had to move out of the state of to a big city to make money. A lot of people are seeing that not as the case, especially those with kids. A good portion of my crew and old friends that stayed home are ‘very’ well off. Less stress than a lot of those that moved around.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

I’m nomadic by nature. I knew I didn’t want to stay in my hometown. I love my family but going to college and tasting independence was like a drug. I couldn’t go back home after that despite coming from a loving stable environment.

I don’t understand how there are families that spend 3/4 generations in the same town. Probably explains all the inbreeding. There’s a whole world out there and you want to die where you were raised?

Hell no! I love going back to visit because I appreciate how far I’ve come. Thankfully my lady feels the same way. It’s great when you have someone on the same page who doesn’t get homesick either.

The only downside is once we decide to have children, we are potentially considering moving closer to one of our families. Again, considering because I’m not hot on that idea.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I moved away and I am very gladI did

 

[ORDER_66]

moving out and away is something adults do...

 

[murksiderock]

That’s a tough one OP. While I have plenty of family here in San Diego, I left the south because i didn’t want my future children dealing with the blatant racism I dealt with growing up. The trade off was, there aren’t many black people here, so while my kids are doing well and making the right moves, they don’t get the full cultural experience here. However, I don’t regret my choice.

One thing I think about pretty often is the lifestyle I want to create for my kids. That includes location of where they grow up...

The reality is when our kids grow up they can make the choice for themselves about where they want to go and raise their own children, so where we choose fir them as youth, as long as our hearts are in the right places, it's all good...

I moved back to NC in 2019 because I wanted my then-2 year old and then-7 month old daughters to be able to grow up around family (their mother and her family are from here). I bounced around alot growing up so I didn't initially care if I raised them near family----->until I did...

There are plusses and minuses to every decision but overall I'm okay with my choice for them, even if I wish it was different for me...

I’m nomadic by nature. I knew I didn’t want to stay in my hometown. I love my family but going to college and tasting independence was like a drug. I couldn’t go back home after that despite coming from a loving stable environment.

I don’t understand how there are families that spend 3/4 generations in the same town. Probably explains all the inbreeding. There’s a whole world out there and you want to die where you were raised?

Hell no! I love going back to visit because I appreciate how far I’ve come. Thankfully my lady feels the same way. It’s great when you have someone on the same page who doesn’t get homesick either.

The only downside is once we decide to have children, we are potentially considering moving closer to one of our families. Again, considering because I’m not hot on that idea.

If I'm not mistaken, you grew up in Atlanta, right? Why did you want to leave and how did you choose where you went when you left?

I moved away and I am very gladI did

Same question to you, you grew up in Arizona if I recall correctly? How did you decide you wanted to leave, that led you all the way to the East Coast?

 

[Sad Bunny]

Op damm near 50 and posting like he 18! shyt pathetic

Wow

I moved around a lot. My family will be fine without me. My sister and brother are still in the same area they grew up in. Couldn’t be me

We can FaceTime and catch flights

 

[Sad Bunny]

I moved back to Cali to be closer to family. But honestly, my money went a lot further in Oregon.

And it does get lonely without having your people nearby

You didn’t make friends in college or at work? Ain’t got no bytches?

Do all y’all family and friends live in the same ass city?

I’m so confused…..I’ve always been able to make friends or build a network near me