Moving to a new city has made me realize the value of having a social circle

[TELL ME YA CHEESIN FAM?]

Team nofap

You're an addict

 

[Ciggavelli]

In Houston now?

I am. I don’t like it that much, but I’m up in Spring, so it could be that.

If you’re in Houston, you should be eating decent. It’s more of a younger crowd tho and it’s very social there so I can see how you would feel out of place

I have an additional concern though. I got sober last year and I don’t wanna be around anybody that drinks. So, I’m limited.

I’m not a religious person either, so I’m not meeting people at church or some shyt.

I go to AA, and a couple of people are cool to smoke cigs with, but I don’t wanna hang out with them outside of meetings

 

[Doobie Doo]

Women ain’t checking for me bruh. Having nikkas who introduce you to women who introduce you to more women is so invaluable

I’ll never cold approach and catch a harassment charge

Most of my homies were into hoodrats so I had to roll dolo for my p*ssy.

 

[Kwabena]

Most of my homies were into hoodrats so I had to roll dolo for my p*ssy.

Yikes. Hood nikkas that don’t eat?

 

[Ohene]

Women ain’t checking for me bruh. Having nikkas who introduce you to women who introduce you to more women is so invaluable

I’ll never cold approach and catch a harassment charge

you disappoint me chale

 

[Doobie Doo]

Yikes. Hood nikkas that don’t eat?

I didn't fukk with hoodrats.

 

[iamduval]

I am. I don’t like it that much, but I’m up in Spring, so it could be that.

I have an additional concern though. I got sober last year and I don’t wanna be around anybody that drinks. So, I’m limited.

I’m not a religious person either, so I’m not meeting people at church or some shyt.

I go to AA, and a couple of people are cool to smoke cigs with, but I don’t wanna hang out with them outside of meetings

The game has changed quite a bit for us 80’s babies. You aren’t going to meet a lot of attractive women outside of a social setting like a bar or church anymore. Especially for my 30+ brehs. You’re going to have to get creative and come out of your comfort zone. Maybe religion is the answer? Jumping from city to city won’t bring you happiness. Houston is a nice place to settle down and live.

 

[Knowledge]

This nikka need help to get ass
Glad I'm handsome gang and ain't gotta be like, "aye breh can you put in the good word about me to ole girl".
nikka get your confidence and appearance up and you won't need a social circle to rely on

 

[WesCrook]

Life ain't always about bagging random women G, get you a hobby or a nice career. Last thing on my mind in a new city would be if women there like me or not.

This leads me to believe that the OP is coming kinda thirsty.

These women pick up on that quickly. As you said, he just needs to focus on himself, and them women will come from all directions. Just from doing random shyt like buying gasoline or waiting on your order at the rib shack.

 

[phcitywarrior]

Nah G, if you're under 30 in a decently sized city this shouldn't be a problem. There are so many social groups online to meet new people (Group Me, FB Groups, MeetUp). It'll take some time to feel certain people out but real always recognize real. If you're a person of value then you're good. Just gotta put yourself out there.

 

[Coli Bot]

Women ain’t checking for me bruh. Having nikkas who introduce you to women who introduce you to more women is so invaluable

I’ll never cold approach and catch a harassment charge

There's an app called 'meetup' which helps connect people in your situation looking for like minded people to hang out with. Look it up.

 

[MikelArteta]

Hinge

 

[SPACE IS FAKE]

Go to a bar dance then EAT

 

[Geechiedan214]

I move around every couple of years. The older I get, the harder it is to get into another social circle. I’m 36, so everybody is pretty much married with kids. I have neither (why I always move for better job opportunities).

I dunno if moving around anymore is tenable any more.

Basically, my last 10 years have been:

Phoenix
Indiana
Chicago
DC
Houston

And prior to that, it was CT, OK, Dallas, NC. In like a 8 year span

I’ve been interviewing with a company in Boston, and I might take the opportunity if the pay is right. It’s a lifestyle

Hey man quick question I'm in Dallas I'm born & raised here..ive only stayed here, Houston & Seattle but ready for change. How is Phoenix & NC?

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

Was the exact opposite for me. Didnt know anybody here except for my girl. I hit the ground running . I guess you moved to a small town and not a major city. Most women love dudes thats not from their area.

This is the biggest problem, bar none. I moved to a small town on the opposite coast and region. I've met a lot of girls and have gotten ass these last 2.5 years. I met some brehs here and there to hang out with, but none really wanna hang out like that. Unfortunately I met most of the people I know through the bar scene . For whatever reason I don't fit in with that scene in terms of personality, though I'd say I know a lot of people. I'm an introvert, deep person, nevermind a good looking black breh (less than 1 percent blacks in this state), that happens to be a professional and have multiple degrees, with no children or spouse. The people I meet work in the service industry or aren't really professionals at the level I am (not saying I make a shyt ton of money or that I have the most prestigious job). The truth is I am not built for the small town vibe. I go everywhere and see at least someone I know, which is super rare where I come from. Funny, I've eaten a little bit here, but no telling what my social life would be like if I lived in Portland, instead of living an hour outside of Portland