Man listen. You want a convient place that isn't too bad and not too far from cool places.
Check out Union County
Elizabeth- Rahway
Or Woodbridge is cool is you're looking for a sub par suburb experience and smash jump offs from Perth Amboy..
Shop at Woodbridge and Menlo Park mall and still be 35 minutes from Manhattan
If you're looking to be up north a lil, F Bergen, its tight and anything worth while is expensive.
Try Bloomfield or Montclair
Going more south Try New Brunswick, College enviroment. Cool lounges, mad Indians