Kool-Aid I think was the (or one of the) first male invited. When MSW heard a complaint from another poster, she made a thread and poll. He was winning and then another poster objected to his membership.
At the same time, there was a thread asking how we wanted the group to be run and how to decide male membership. Voting or guidelines. Guidelines won.
From then MSW, chose mods and the mods discussed who would join and who would stay. Because we wanted to make it a safe place for women, if anyone felt uncomfortable having a male in the group, the male would get the axe.

So you literally had to have had NO objections from the women of the coli to join.