My brutally honest folks...

[OfTheCross]

How do you get over feeling like a jerk or hurting someone you like/love?

I got some shyt to tell people but I don't want to hurt their feelings.

I'm also horrible at sugarcoating so I'm definitely gonna come off like an a$$hole.

How do y'all cope with keeping it real?

 

[Dwolf]

By being honest with people that care about your opinion.

 

[Larry Lobster]

Details?

 

[MAKAVELI25]

How do you get over feeling like a jerk or hurting someone you like/love?

I got some shyt to tell people but I don't want to hurt their feelings.

I'm also horrible at sugarcoating so I'm definitely gonna come off like an a$$hole.

How do y'all cope with keeping it real?

Dont confuse lacking tact for "being real". Failure to consider how your words will affect others before they're spoken is a liability not an asset.

 

[Stir Fry]

How do you get over feeling like a jerk or hurting someone you like/love?

I got some shyt to tell people but I don't want to hurt their feelings.

I'm also horrible at sugarcoating so I'm definitely gonna come off like an a$$hole.

How do y'all cope with keeping it real?

Spit the facts and don't get emotionally elevated. You're allowed to feel the way you feel

 

[The 2020 New Member]

Just apologize. For your shortness, not your message.

 

[OfTheCross]

Dont confuse lacking tact for "being real". Failure to consider how your words will affect others before they're spoken is a liability not an asset.

That's my issue. I have a great friend who's pointed out how tactless I am on numerous occasions.

She's made me try and be more tactful but ultimately I revert to my ways.

I like @Bret Easton Ellis point...do you apologize before or after you shyt in individuals?

I feel you too @MAKAVELI25 . that's why I don't always tell people stuff. But honestly there's no sure way for me to know how ppl are gonna take what I tell.them.

I got a high tolerance for criticism but others may not

 

[The 2020 New Member]

That's my issue. I have a great friend who's pointed out how tactless I am on numerous occasions.

She's made me try and be more tactful but ultimately I revert to my ways.

I like @Bret Easton Ellis point...do you apologize before or after you shyt in individuals?

I feel you too @MAKAVELI25 . that's why I don't always tell people stuff. But honestly there's no sure way for me to know how ppl are gonna take what I tell.them.

I got a high tolerance for criticism but others may not

Always before with chicks. Say it even if your point isn't even rude.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

How do you get over feeling like a jerk or hurting someone you like/love?

I got some shyt to tell people but I don't want to hurt their feelings.

I'm also horrible at sugarcoating so I'm definitely gonna come off like an a$$hole.

How do y'all cope with keeping it real?

Basically, just get used to making friends with thick-skinned people.

 

[OfTheCross]

Basically, just get used to making friends with thick-skinned people.

Breh.. That's part of the plan.

These softies around me are gonna get

 

[plushcarpet]

brutally honest = everyone around you thinks you're an a$$hole

 

[PeridotPuss]

Accept your opinions are not that valid and powerful.

Accept there are almost zero situations is it appropriate for you to provide your unsolicited opinion, especially if it is negative.

Only say something if it's directly affecting you. Be direct, brief, use a pleasant tone, and present a solution if appropriate.

The guilt you put on yourself, it's imaginary. Speak ur piece and let the chips fall where they may

 

[OfTheCross]

Accept your opinions are not that valid and powerful.

Accept there are almost zero situations is it appropriate for you to provide your unsolicited opinion, especially if it is negative.

Only say something if it's directly affecting you. Be direct, brief, use a pleasant tone, and present a solution if appropriate.

The guilt you put on yourself, it's imaginary. Speak ur piece and let the chips fall where they may

Don't underestimate the power of your opinion to someone in your circle of influence.

You're right that I don't have to share any unsolicited negative opinions. But what I'm thinking about is more fact than opinion. And it may be received negatively by the individual but be to their benefit long term (I.e. money advice, weight advice, work advice)

Agree 100% with focusing on things that directly affect me. That's great advice for us all to follow. But I'm not with all that time shyt. That's part of my tactlessness.

I don't like that "chips fall where they may" talk... Like I said..we can't underestimate our influence... Mothefukkers be suicidal over shyt you tell them. We don't know who's crazy and who ain't

 

[CrimsonTider]

Brutally Honest = live in a glass house

 

[jeh]

Yeah,