For those that are...I have nothing but respect and admiration.
My dad has 7 kids.....
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May I ask why did your first marriage not work? Thank you.
Wife was lazy and wanted an immigrant husband, who bought his 1st house at 23 to work 2 jobs (as well as hustled online, flippin sneakers or whatever, and affiliate shyt.... and said "she didn't need me". So I left.
Now I have a woman with the same drive for work as me, matter of fact Im working from home in the office and she is on the couch on her laptop working also.
Everyone from sohh days kinda knows my shyt, Im open breh.
Also 1st wife family (Italians) got real racial post my 1st son being born... some racial flare ups. We both didn't see people until we were separated. (No cheating involved)
Thankfully I only dated black, latin women after that. New wifey reminds me of old Bria Myles. Ex gained a bunch of weight... (she was 19 when I met her, 36 now, and fell off). And that's what me even liking some chubbys in the past"
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Im really sorry to hear all that. I am happy that you have found a woman that completes you...marriage is truly partnership. You deserve a round of applause. ..seriously
because someone else told you this is how children should be raised. One dad one mom couple kids. if you look into African history and dont use European structures as the "right way" you will see African family structures differed greatly from European ones
GiGi
Slaying Bed Bucks™ since 1981
We are not talking about plural marriages in which man has multiple wives which he supports financially and emotionally (as well as his children). My comments were made as a result of reading some of the posts by Coli members who stated that their fathers had multiple children by different women (many OOW).
Perhaps you did not read through this thread but the MAJORITY of those who stated that their fathers had secret children, illegitimate children, etc. indicated that they either did not know their other (half) siblings, did not have a relationship with them or that the other children fathered by their dads were not necessarily living the best lives.
How do you view this as "ideal"? Is this a family model that black Americans should aspire to? Do not attempt to say that a spattering of children all over the country is a part of "African" culture because it is not.
Not to mention that it is not practiced by all africans. And even if it was does not mean that ot is ideal...lots of issues with the poligamist lifestyle in African cultures. I am personally against that tradition...creates too much internal conflict and family rivalry.
NaijaProdigy Redux
Veteran
My life is so normal and boring compared to some of you all....
Now I understand some of the contributing factors to the odd personalities around here
Now I understand some of the contributing factors to the odd personalities around here
*Angel*
Frozen Flames Goddess
My Rastafarian Ba has 8 by five women. Two of my brothers were born three months apart. The rest of us are in steps two years apart. Im his oldest daughter. We're all fb friends and met at some point, but we didn't grow up together.
*Angel*
Frozen Flames Goddess
We do, its just normal at the same time, and for some its easier to accept than fix.
My father was not there for any of his kids. He was actually married when he met my mother (who was divorcing my sis abusive drunk father) and got them both pregnant at the same time. I was their second child, his only daughter at the time and my moms baby. The others are right under me, but one thing they all mostly share is a strong resentment for my father. Its not deep for me. 2 of his sons followed his footsteps in having mulitiple kids with diff women, but the rest of us are in monogomous relationships or married already, trying to not duplicate the mess we were born in.
Respect
I think this thread should be inspiration for anyone to work to stopping the cycle. I respect all the brothas and sistas creating a stable family home for themselves and their loved ones....round of applause
Davin Black
Rookie
Four total. Dad had me and my brother, divorced my mum, had two more when he remarried.
Used to feel some kinda way about it (my bro still does), but I have dinner with them every week and watch the youngins every now and then. It's not ideal but it worked out better than it does for most
Used to feel some kinda way about it (my bro still does), but I have dinner with them every week and watch the youngins every now and then. It's not ideal but it worked out better than it does for most
Since posters don't like me and want to trash ny threads..
.no hard feelings... can someone create a spinoff of men and women getting into successful relationships despite their upbringing. I think it would motivate a lot of people.
.no hard feelings... can someone create a spinoff of men and women getting into successful relationships despite their upbringing. I think it would motivate a lot of people.
My dad has ten kids including me; I'm his next to last. I'm my mother's only child. I'm the only one who is American-born; all the others were either born in Antigua (where my family is originally from) or in England (where he went to school). I met one of my older half brothers for the first time last October; I'm Facebook friends with my younger half brother and one of my older half sisters.
Scotch Hall
All Star
you the breh that got kicked out of mcdonalds and sent your kids to get your food
32 on paper.... about 20 more probably.. (rumors Ive heard)
Used to think I was the baby boy of 2 kids ...
Around age 12 he got sick and they introduced me to most in the islands
But he lived in Miami half the week too...(back and forth for business)
We have our own facebook group, for connecting with each other
