My friends husband gave me a hug and got hard (UPDATE IN ORIGINAL POST)

[At30wecashout]

A few things here fore me....

How long have they been friends compared to how long have husband and wife been together?
How many other line stepping incidents have happened before (OP only mentioned the staring at the booty)?
To be honest, this situation is probably a lot deeper than what has been mentioned.
The wife's insecurity, the husband's attraction to the "friend," the lack of intimacy between husband a wife, the gratification from the sexual tension from the friend.
One, if not both; of these relationships will more than likely come to an end.

True. In the end though, some relationships are just doomed. As I said, i think its 100% the couples issue. We as humans tend to like to look outside for why
something is wrong. If @Goddess_Godiva never threw him inappropriate attention, and the husband isn't out trying to find that feeling from other women, it
could be him not being attracted to his wife anymore, or something traumatic that happened to the husband that is killing his passion with the wife. Afterall, she did gain
20(that she admitted to) pounds. Also, the raging erection could have been just bad timing.
Maybe he gets erections just fine watching porn or looking at beautiful women outside of the home?
If it simply didn't work at all, this would be time to see a doctor. Im guessing they didn't explore all options, he stopped trying, and she gained weight, making the situation
worse.

@Goddess_Godiva at best is the spark for real conversation and solutions, at worse a scapegoat for the wife and a point of contention for the husband. It is their
problem, not hers.

 

[Medicate]

I didnt grind on him and our genitals didn't touch at all. They were actually very much a part. It was a friendly hug and it didn't cross my mind that he would get a boner. He came at me wanting a hug and its something we've always done. He'd never got a boner before that i saw.

We were drinking and she and i were both tipsy and she was already emotional. She was more upset at the fact he got hard from a meaningless hug ( our arms touch but my butt was out)and can't get hard for her. She said she felt inadequate. She was embarrased. Her husband did not know she was just telling me about his problem, emotions were very high.

I feel really bad though. None of that was my intention.

He been feelin you tho, it probably has been building up.... and with that azz and those titties in the outfit you said you were in, ain't no way that wasn't going to happen. You're going to eventually smash, trust me, that energy is built up now and I know you got some type of attraction to him, because you came and posted the thread.....

 

[joeychizzle]

Dude might've tried to get it up many times, too. On some shyt like..

Husband: C'mon Little Breh, work with me here! I haven't had sex with my wife in months!

Little Breh:

nikka, are you serious? That bytch looks like Stay-Puft from the Ghostbusters.


Husband: Well, I tried.


Wife:

so THAT'S what that rosie o donnell lookin puffy mofukka's called. been wondering forever

 

[At30wecashout]

He been feelin you tho, it probably has been building up....:sas: and with that azz and those titties in the outfit you said you were in, ain't no way that wasn't going to happen. You're going to eventually smash, trust me, that energy is built up now and I know you got some type of attraction to him, because you came and posted the thread.....

Breh, them slapping pelvic bones isn't a forgone conclusion. We can't help if we find people attractive, and no amount of love for our spouse/significant other can change that.
If he was feeling @Goddess_Godiva there is nothing wrong with that, except that the marital problems caused an innocent situation to blow up. Mind you, the man didn't know his wife
was telling her friend that he couldn't get his soldier to stand when it was roll-call. We can't smash everybody just because we want to.

 

[Goddess_Godiva]

True. In the end though, some relationships are just doomed. As I said, i think its 100% the couples issue. We as humans tend to like to look outside for why
something is wrong. If @Goddess_Godiva never threw him inappropriate attention, and the husband isn't out trying to find that feeling from other women, it
could be him not being attracted to his wife anymore, or something traumatic that happened to the husband that is killing his passion with the wife. Afterall, she did gain
20(that she admitted to) pounds. Also, the raging erection could have been just bad timing.
Maybe he gets erections just fine watching porn or looking at beautiful women outside of the home?
If it simply didn't work at all, this would be time to see a doctor. Im guessing they didn't explore all options, he stopped trying, and she gained weight, making the situation
worse.

@Goddess_Godiva at best is the spark for real conversation and solutions, at worse a scapegoat for the wife and a point of contention for the husband. It is their
problem, not hers.

 

[Colicat]

I didnt grind on him and our genitals didn't touch at all. They were actually very much a part. It was a friendly hug and it didn't cross my mind that he would get a boner. He came at me wanting a hug and its something we've always done. He'd never got a boner before that i saw.

We were drinking and she and i were both tipsy and she was already emotional. She was more upset at the fact he got hard from a meaningless hug ( our arms touch but my butt was out)and can't get hard for her. She said she felt inadequate. She was embarrased. Her husband did not know she was just telling me about his problem, emotions were very high.

I feel really bad though. None of that was my intention.

No such thing when it's your friend's husband...
This is a problem... save yourself the trouble and don't hug your friends men (be the awkward girl.... that's preferable to being the girl who you have to watch for signs)
This is the truth... and as her friend, you should have recognized that and hi-fived the husband and played it off like: "I'm just getting over a cold." fukk his feelings and what y'all have done numerous times before...

 

[Medicate]

Breh, them slapping pelvic bones isn't a forgone conclusion. We can't help if we find people attractive, and no amount of love for our spouse/significant other can change that.
If he was feeling @Goddess_Godiva there is nothing wrong with that, except that the marital problems caused an innocent situation to blow up. Mind you, the man didn't know his wife
was telling her friend that he couldn't get his soldier to stand when it was roll-call. We can't smash everybody just because we want to.

Nah that sexual energy has been upped now, its a foregone conclusion to me that they will smash sooner or later....plus the fact that this "attraction" comes on the heels of him obviously not finding his actual WIFE attractive....so to me its a conclusion already set, whether she wants to believe it or not......

 

[At30wecashout]

Nah that sexual energy has been upped now, its a foregone conclusion to me that they will smash sooner or later....plus the fact that this "attraction" comes on the heels of him obviously not finding his actual WIFE attractive....so to me its a conclusion already set, whether she wants to believe it or not......

Well I hope not. Sure it isn't nearly as bad as smashing in the midst of a relationship, but being her friends husband, he should be off-limits for life. Assuming her and the wife maintain a
friendship, that is. I'm batting for team #Donttouchthepenor.
Real life shouldn't be like an episode of friends where everybody smashing everybody, and switching partners back and forth for a decade.

 

[Goddess_Godiva]

No such thing when it's your friend's husband...
This is a problem... save yourself the trouble and don't hug your friends men (be the awkward girl.... that's preferable to being the girl who you have to watch for signs)
This is the truth... and as her friend, you should have recognized that and hi-fived the husband and played it off like: "I'm just getting over a cold." fukk his feelings and what y'all have done numerous times before...

I hear you though, its just this has NEVER happened, i didnt expect that at all but you live & learn

 

[Medicate]

Well I hope not. Sure it isn't nearly as bad as smashing in the midst of a relationship, but being her friends husband, he should be off-limits for life. Assuming her and the wife maintain a
friendship, that is. I'm batting for team #Donttouchthepenor.
Real life shouldn't be like an episode of friends where everybody smashing everybody, and switching partners back and forth for a decade.

Yea society and the law says he should be off limits, but biologically based on the timeline of events,this is now in motion....

Unless this dudes wife loses those pounds and can get him up(even though that is still a thing for me to understand....My shyt gets and stays hard like concrete....) but he is magnetizing towards @Goddess_Godiva ......its already in motion breh....

 

[Goddess_Godiva]

Nah that sexual energy has been upped now, its a foregone conclusion to me that they will smash sooner or later....plus the fact that this "attraction" comes on the heels of him obviously not finding his actual WIFE attractive....so to me its a conclusion already set, whether she wants to believe it or not......

We not smushing breh. I'm not attracted to him like that and he is MARRIED to my FRIEND!! That means something to me.

 

[At30wecashout]

Yea society and the law says he should be off limits, but biologically based on the timeline of events,this is now in motion....

Unless this dudes wife loses those pounds and can get him up(even though that is still a thing for me to understand....My shyt gets and stays hard like concrete....) but he is magnetizing towards @Goddess_Godiva ......its already in motion breh....

Yea...been 3 years and 3 months since ive gotten some. I wouldn't mind making a funk cloud with a woman as blessed as @Goddess_Godiva .

No disrespect intended, maam.

 

[Buckeye Fever]

This shyt got me hard.

 

[Medicate]

We not smushing breh. I'm not attracted to him like that and he is MARRIED to my FRIEND!! That means something to me.

I understand you're NOT, but this event in the timeline you've stated sets this in motion. Its good you respect her marriage, but the fact he caught a BONE off you and can't with her, means he's going to follow where the BONE is eventually, just a word of advice or Warning....

 

[MattP215]

I ain't no tranny and i hate posting pics of myself. You guys are ruthless on here. Keep in mind i am 5'9 and weigh about 185 pounds, i carry my weight well but i like my size.

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It all makes sense now...