My girl's sister is making a big deal about us moving in together. ..

[Sad Bunny]

What's their relationship like?

Where's your girls mum in all this?

Are they super close n was her sister used to calling the shots before you arrived ?

They're close. About 6 years apart in age.

We hang with her sister a lot too.

Her mom is cool but doesn't get involved. She argues with the sister too. Lol. They're typical females.

Her mom is single too. And her mom actually thinks her sister may be jealous. Idk.

But I can't take them serious because they didn't go through what I did. Lol. I went to college, had no parents and lived on my own since 20.

Her sister moved out at like 26 or 27 anyways. I'm sure if she had a man, she would have been living with him back then.

 

[Theraflu]

They're close. About 6 years apart in age.

We hang with her sister a lot too.

Her mom is cool but doesn't get involved. She argues with the sister too. Lol. They're typical females.

Her mom is single too. And her mom actually thinks her sister may be jealous. Idk.

But I can't take them serious because they didn't go through what I did. Lol. I went to college, had no parents and lived on my own since 20.

Her sister moved out at like 26 or 27 anyways. I'm sure if she had a man, she would have been living with him back then.

Same, my girlfriend did what we did moved out early but had roommates etc. The sister seems jealous maybe shes afraid she'll lose her to you?

Either way it's not your problem at her age she needs to focus on her life. The thing is even if she believes your gf is making a mistake that's her mistake to make and hers alone. Her sister can't caboodle her through life she needs to be a grown woman and do her own thing.

Just reassure her that you have your gfs best interest at heart you're not planning to break her heart.

Your gf also needs to have the talk with her to trust her judgement and let her decide this however you guys will always appreciate her concern but this isn't her decision to make.

 

[posterchild336]

Its your relationship..you are a man, tell her mind hers and worry about her relationship....you are in it with her sis not her..she may become a problem in the future if you and your girl get serious though...

 

[Sad Bunny]

Same, my girlfriend did what we did moved out early but had roommates etc. The sister seems jealous maybe shes afraid she'll lose her to you?

Either way it's not your problem at her age she needs to focus on her life. The thing is even if she believes your gf is making a mistake that's her mistake to make and hers alone. Her sister can't caboodle her through life she needs to be a grown woman and do her own thing.

Just reassure her that you have your gfs best interest at heart you're not planning to break her heart.

Your gf also needs to have the talk with her to trust her judgement and let her decide this however you guys will always appreciate her concern but this isn't her decision to make.

Well said.

It's me and my girl's decision.

That's all.

If she wants to give us advice, be calm about it. Don't lash out.

That doesn't help us at all. Lol.

 

[Sad Bunny]

Its your relationship..you are a man, tell her mind hers and worry about her relationship....you are in it with her sis not her..she may become a problem in the future if you and your girl get serious though...

We are serious.

She hasn't been a problem as of this past year. She's been cool.

But she really needs a man in her life. Lol.

She so caught up in other people's lives because she probably isn't happy with her own.

 

[Elle Driver]

Some people just to love to put their two cents in even though they know damn well they have no idea what they're talking about. Tell her to fukk off.

 

[posterchild336]

We are serious.

She hasn't been a problem as of this past year. She's been cool.

But she really needs a man in her life. Lol.

She so caught up in other people's lives because she probably isn't happy with her own.

As long as your girl is into you and doesnt listen to her noise..thats one thing about women, they always seem to have other females in their lives on the sideline telling them what to do..the smart females realize that and actually question the advice they get, especially when its from a chick that has nothing going on for her self, and is most likely jealous that they arent getting the same treatment from a man. Misery usually needs company

 

[Sad Bunny]

Some people just to love to put their two cents in even though they know damn well they have no idea what they're talking about. Tell her to fukk off.

I love yall.

We troll and there's a lot of fukkery, but the coli comes through with sound advice at times

 

[Theraflu]

Well said.

It's me and my girl's decision.

That's all.

If she wants to give us advice, be calm about it. Don't lash out.

That doesn't help us at all. Lol.

That's all there is to be said. You appreciate her input but ultimately you guys are the decision makers.

She lashes out! Lol why is she so emotional she needs to get a grip and a man of her own lol

 

[Sad Bunny]

That's all there is to be said. You appreciate her input but ultimately you guys are the decision makers.

She lashes out! Lol why is she so emotional she needs to get a grip and a man of her own lol

Do you and your girl go through anything similar? ???

Any family members like that?

 

[Theraflu]

Do you and your girl go through anything similar? ???

Any family members like that?

Hell no breh my girl is like us. Shes been grown and independent for a long time. My girl has been out of the house since 18. At one point working 2 jobs and going school at 19.

Infact her problem is she has typical African parents who DONT show emotion or get too involved. They let her do her thing.

OFCOURSE this came with its own set of issues too....

 

[DPresidential]

@Gator Reloaded

The older sister bogarted her opinion in the wrong way but although I do sense animosity, she's not completely wrong.

I'm sure you really enjoy your gf and probably expect to be together for a long time, however you should always examine the cons of a situation.

The biggest con if you guys move in together now? Her inexperience w/ living on her own, in her own spot.

Why? Have you ever had an ex that just did not want to leave you for some reason? Have you had friends, both male and female, who've given you horror stories about people they wanted to end the relationship w/ but couldn't because they would not let go.

If, but hopefully not, something were to happen where you don't want to be in a relationship with her anymore, how easy will it be for her to leave you alone, if she would deal with the fear of "being on her own." That alone may have her hanging around you...for security.

I don't know you, but unlike a lot of trolls on this site, I'm sure, kicking someone to the curb won't just be a walk in the park for you, simply because you care about her.

That may keep you in a relationship you don't want just because you don't want to inconvenience her.

And even worse case scenario? What happens if she's not feeling you anymore, however she won't want to leave the securty of having a home w/ 2 people contributing. You'll have a woman, who's growing apart from you, who doesn't want to leave you...but has mentally checked out, having her potentially getting piped out by someone else, while you are paying half the bills...

You might be wise to take some advice from the nosey ass sister b....

 

[Sad Bunny]

@Gator Reloaded

The older sister bogarted her opinion in the wrong way but although I do sense animosity, she's not completely wrong.

I'm sure you really enjoy your gf and probably expect to be together for a long time, however you should always examine the cons of a situation.

The biggest con if you guys move in together now? Her inexperience w/ living on her own, in her own spot.

Why? Have you ever had an ex that just did not want to leave you for some reason? Have you had friends, both male and female, who've given you horror stories about people they wanted to end the relationship w/ but couldn't because they would not let go.

If, but hopefully not, something were to happen where you don't want to be in a relationship with her anymore, how easy will it be for her to leave you alone, if she would deal with the fear of "being on her own." That alone may have her hanging around you...for security.

I don't know you, but unlike a lot of trolls on this site, I'm sure, kicking someone to the curb won't just be a walk in the park for you, simply because you care about her.

That may keep you in a relationship you don't want just because you don't want to inconvenience her.

And even worse case scenario? What happens if she's not feeling you anymore, however she won't want to leave the securty of having a home w/ 2 people contributing. You'll have a woman, who's growing apart from you, who doesn't want to leave you...but has mentally checked out, having her potentially getting piped out by someone else, while you are paying half the bills...

You might be wise to take some advice from the nosey ass sister b....

I feel you.

That's always true.

But we been through so much and want to get married. We are very open about our feelings so if one of us felt that way, I'm sure we would communicate that.

If she didn't want to move in with me, she could easily cut me off now before we make that step. and vice versa.

I do think about that though but I can't live in fear nor predict the future

Although she does joke around and say she think imma get on and leave her ass for a white girl

 

[Sad Bunny]

Also @DPresidential
We would split the bills lol

And we would break the lease and bounce if it got that bad

I may simp and give my all, but I am not fool.

Cheat? Be sneaky?

Bushes

 

[DPresidential]

I feel you.

That's always true.

But we been through so much and want to get married. We are very open about our feelings so if one of us felt that way, I'm sure we would communicate that.

If she didn't want to move in with me, she could easily cut me off now before we make that step. and vice versa.

I do think about that though but I can't live in fear nor predict the future

Although she does joke around and say she think imma get on and leave her ass for a white girl

Also @DPresidential
We would split the bills lol

And we would break the lease and bounce if it got that bad

I may simp and give my all, but I am not fool.

Cheat? Be sneaky?

Bushes

And with those responses...

Do you and enjoy that True Love life breh.

Don't talk to the sister, but have a sit down convo w/ your girl about why people outside of the box only see through curtains...so they couldn't possibly know what's best for yall. Be nice about it...you don't want to come off defensive... that always looks bad on some "fukk your sister, the bytch has a house she payed for but only her and ghosts live in that muh fukka, fukk she know about relationships with her single ass."

Be mature about it... Chess not checkers breh.