Groanman
Superstar
Have your folks been married for about that long? 19 years more or less?19
My pops is definitely cheating on my moms
- Thread starter ChrisDorner
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ChrisDorner
Banned
Yep.. Married about a year before I was born
HookersandIceCream
#TeamOrange
You father getting more p*ssy than you
Kobes Two Jerseys
8 or 24 best player of the era
Your mom was probably cheating on him first. Hes just getting his payback. He doesn't care about her finding out or else he would be more discreet about it.
Kobes Two Jerseys
8 or 24 best player of the era
he love them stranger kids more than you
ChrisDorner
Banned
He is discreet about it.. And she's accused him of cheating in the past with the hotel scenario.. He denied everything & was like I'd never put our marriage in jeopardy etc.
Kobes Two Jerseys
8 or 24 best player of the era
Dude keeps it on his computer, in the house. Thats not discreet at all pal.
ChrisDorner
Banned
It's locked by password.. And he doesnt know I know his password
Kobes Two Jerseys
8 or 24 best player of the era
That doesn't mean shyt. You're very naive.
ChrisDorner
Banned
It means he's clearly not being transparent about his cheating.. A little careless sure but to his knowledge Noones gettin on his computer
DallasTxRep
Superstar
Talk to him and let him know how much it bothers you.....but DO NOT get your mom involved unless your pops decides to on his own
Groanman
Superstar
20 years is a long time, my brotha.
But that's no excuse.
All I can tell you is that I would sit down with Pops and explain to him that you know what he's doing and that his actions are ruining the family.
I would also advise not surprising Moms with that kind of news. Because love will make people do some strange things in the first place. But fractured love or betrayal might drive a person to do some harm to someone or themselves.
I am not a professional therapist by any means. I could be dead wrong on all accounts. So please tread lightly, my brotha.
Kobes Two Jerseys
8 or 24 best player of the era
Just remember this, you're a son, like Elroy. You have so much to learn.
Piff Perkins
Veteran
First you gotta determine what you believe your mom would do if she found out (and trust me, she will find out). She gonna flip out, get violent, ask for divorce right away, cry, try to reconcile, etc.
Next you gotta ask if you're ready to deal with the short term blowback that will occur if you expose him. Your parents could get divorced, your family could be split, etc. Or if they don't split, they'll always have problems - your mom won't trust him, may take some of her anger out on you, your dad will be disappointed that you outed him, etc.
Without going into specifics I ran across evidence of my dad cheating, but wasn't sure. One time we were hanging out at a sports bar. I got up to take a leak, and when I came back I noticed some chick was in my seat talking to my pops. I casually walked over there, and could tell something was going on. She got up, said hi to me, and left. My dad whipped out some bullshyt like "oh that was just a coworker..." but I could tell something was up. I didn't say anything to my mom.
Few years later my mom found out and went nuts. She wound up getting arrested for assault due to attacking him, but he dropped the charges.
So breh remember, whatever happens she's gonna find out. But if you tell her, be ready for the consequences. Maybe a better option is to leave the evidence out in the open on the computer for her to see it. That way you don't have to directly tell her, she'll see it herself.
Next you gotta ask if you're ready to deal with the short term blowback that will occur if you expose him. Your parents could get divorced, your family could be split, etc. Or if they don't split, they'll always have problems - your mom won't trust him, may take some of her anger out on you, your dad will be disappointed that you outed him, etc.
Without going into specifics I ran across evidence of my dad cheating, but wasn't sure. One time we were hanging out at a sports bar. I got up to take a leak, and when I came back I noticed some chick was in my seat talking to my pops. I casually walked over there, and could tell something was going on. She got up, said hi to me, and left. My dad whipped out some bullshyt like "oh that was just a coworker..." but I could tell something was up. I didn't say anything to my mom.
Few years later my mom found out and went nuts. She wound up getting arrested for assault due to attacking him, but he dropped the charges.
So breh remember, whatever happens she's gonna find out. But if you tell her, be ready for the consequences. Maybe a better option is to leave the evidence out in the open on the computer for her to see it. That way you don't have to directly tell her, she'll see it herself.