My verdict on Marriage vs Single Life (based on experience)

[winb83]

The marriage topic always tears me. Always wanted the wife and big family and all that since I was younger, but my generation of girls just too fukked up. Too much baggage/psych issues/soiled pasts. Plus money is always an issue. Logically I rather be good by myself forever than great with someone for 5-6 years and have the shyt my life is based on slip away from me over money or lack of money or just falling out of love.

Nonetheless, I sincerely do hope that the TS and his marriage lasts forever though. It is refreshing to see a happy marriage and even more a lasting one.

the level of corruption from society and the level of entitlement modern females have is just too much to overcome.

its not there fault really they're raised to think that dating, relationships, and marriage are methods of control and that their vagina is a tool they use to obtain that level of control.

i mean married men have something called the dog house. you piss her off you don't get sex. sex that's supposed to be guaranteed because of marriage. you ever heard of a parent putting their child in the dog house due to anger and not feeding them?

the whole game is just a tool women use to control and exploit and even use men. a man is out there looking for love and marriage and she's looking for a simp she can control.

 

[Shadow King]

the level of corruption from society and the level of entitlement modern females have is just too much to overcome.

its not there fault really they're raised to think that dating, relationships, and marriage are methods of control and that their vagina is a tool they use to obtain that level of control.

i mean married men have something called the dog house. you piss her off you don't get sex. sex that's supposed to be guaranteed because of marriage. you ever heard of a parent putting their child in the dog house due to anger and not feeding them?

the whole game is just a tool women use to control and exploit and even use men. a man is out there looking for love and marriage and she's looking for a simp she can control.

I know...shyt is crazy

 

[CrimsonTider]

This sums up to me perfectly what's wrong with marriage:

on of my co-workers yesterday told me he got an iPod as a gift from his wife for Christmas. his wife is a stay-at-home with no job or income. basically he bought that iPod for himself and in his own mind he thinks its a gift from his wife. she won't even let him open it till Christmas.

Marriage is to the benefit of the woman and the detriment of the man. if only everyone in my life i could have them buy themselves gifts and say it was from me.

imagine the day a grown man has to ask a woman for permission to go places, permission to buy things with his own money he's earned.

if you wanna get up and go to a titty bar with your homies you should be able to just go do it. not a married man he had to figure out how to get permission from "the boss." how the fukk you roll in the house with a big screen TV you bought with money you earned and gotta catch shyt about it?
that is a borderline regression back to childhood.

marriage is all about trading your freedom for supposed convenient access to p*ssy. i say supposed because "the female body has ways to try to shut that whole thing down"

marriage is pretty much designed by society to mostly benefit women. if women didn't suggest it and pressure for it it probably wouldn't happen as much as it does. Sex Differences: Why Won't Men Commit? - YouTube

Why are you projecting these ideas like they are the norm or like they are bad to all people.

 

[CrimsonTider]

How old are you breh?


At any rate, some people will never get married. If you're that firm on it cool. Although that's negative thinking, but whatever... do you. Its you're life, I applaud doing whatever makes you happy.

Fact is most people on here will be married at least once by the time they're 40. I'm not buying cats on here talkin that no marriage shyt when they're 22 years old. lol. I see nikkas on here. A lot of nikkas talk a good game in one thread but in another they're simpin.

I've seen it with my own eyes. I'm 29, when I was 25 I wasn't thinking about marriage and neither was anyone in my circle. Now that most of us are where we want to be career wise it becomes the logical next step. So now I have two (possibly three) good friends who will be married in the next 6 months.

I dont care who you are, you will always have pressure to conform to your surroundings.

c/s.

These dudes live in a fantasy land where they think when they start making real money in their 30 and 40s they are going to be running around knocking of different 20 somehtin year olds every week.

Reality is, you are going to have less free time to meet and date women and you are going to want someone that knows you and shares your views on life and someone you can chill with and make a family with.

How many dudes in their 30s are willfully living the single life.

 

[CrimsonTider]

I see where you're coming from, but that is his fault not marriage itself. Marriage is just a business contract in the physical world, and a union in the spiritual world. How you get to the marriage, and deal with it is up to you. Just because his wife is like that doesn't mean your wife will be like that.

If a couple sets standards for themselves based on how they live, chances are it will work out. If they are swingers, puff herb, play video games, have a certain structure with dealing with finances, they will last a lot longer then a couple who got married because they were getting older, got pregnant and it was "the right thing to do", because the latter couple had nothing in common besides doing what others thought they should do, while the former couple actually had fun with each other as well as having fun in their own lives, in ways that society says is not good for them, and is something "kids" do, not mature adults.

It's all about what your marriage contains that decides the marriage, not marriage itself. Unfortunately, a lot of men think because the sex is fun that they are in a loving union when the chick is using the sex as bait to get that marriage contract so she can have a backup if the relationship doesn't work, and get some type of income down the road.

This is probably the best post in this thread.

If you can't be yourself around the person you with, then whats the point?

 

[beezy]

the level of corruption from society and the level of entitlement modern females have is just too much to overcome.

its not there fault really they're raised to think that dating, relationships, and marriage are methods of control and that their vagina is a tool they use to obtain that level of control.

i mean married men have something called the dog house. you piss her off you don't get sex. sex that's supposed to be guaranteed because of marriage. you ever heard of a parent putting their child in the dog house due to anger and not feeding them?

the whole game is just a tool women use to control and exploit and even use men. a man is out there looking for love and marriage and she's looking for a simp she can control.

Funny you should say that and bring up the "doghouse" situation.. the last time my wife tried to use that on me (for me being an a$$hole tbh) i turned the whole thing around and made her feel guilty for trying to hold her vagina above my head.. guess who came back around 5 minutes later apologizing, saying it was wrong and she'll never do it again (and hasnt), and servicing da gawd? a woman will only get away with what you allow her to. my wife is trained and been put in her place. again, another common problem you've brought up that i have overcome