Need confirmation I bushed a chick appropriately...

[Silver Surfer]

I honestly respect and w

Word up. All of us humans are going to die and be sniff in a casket one day. fukk are we scared of each other for. Hell, death should make people appreciate life period. You dont always get a chance to have a life and one day you will lose it.

OP, you only get one life. You might only get one chance to get back with this woman. Get your ass up, make that phone call and tell her that you will see her tomorrow. This woman might be your future wife. Go and do it.

member: 3834"]You overreacted. Just message her and tell her youll see her tomorrow. I got the feeling you overreacted.[/QUOTE]

Bruh...this woman is not my wife or wife to be....this is a "fun girl" and her time has appeared to expire

 

[the bossman]

The problem here is y'all not reading behind the OPs illusions. He doesn't even mean to do them. But if you look closely, you can see what's really going on. And why I said what I said in the previous post..



Dude really likes this girl. I'm not saying she's wifey.. But they been fukking for months.. Who knows how much longer they been talking. He didn't do this to get any p*ssy, he had it already. He didn't do it cause he got time off. He says flat out, it's for HER birthday. He wants to do something special for HER birthday. If he wanted to trick, he'd have been spending money. Nobody starts tricking after they get p*ssy, months later, for some random hoe he barely want... So lets get that established




He also plans a trip out of the country... B-b-b-b-b-but it's just Mexico... Ok so when's the last time y'all took a broad to Mexico? Was she just some random you'd already been smashing for months? Of course not. Was you buying both tickets, paying for the room AND paying for shyt while there? For a random? You already smashed for months? That wasn't shyt to you but someone you could cut off so easily in a day? Of course not.. He liked this girl




Liked her enough to sit and plan this out, have the money ready, everything ready to go when........ She says the wrong thing. Two sentences. That IMMEDIATELY makes him disappear her forever from his life. Why? Because she MUST be trying to get over on me. He believes this so much he won't even ask for an explanation. Won't even give her a chance to explain her words. This man was ready to spend THOUSANDS a second ago and now won't ever speak words nor allow her to speak to him. Why such a drastic change? For an extra day he wasn't even sure she wasn't going to pay for? Or because he was afraid of being right?




But peep game.. He couldn't go back and ask her to confirm. He was already hurt by his own assumptions. So he came to the coli for the confirmation. Look at the title... NEED CONFIRMATION!! Why are random nikkas online that you never met, confirming how you should dump your girl you been fukking for months and was taking to Mexico.. Shouldn't she confirm that to you?? Shouldn't you already know in your heart you did the right thing? You should be here typing a STORY, instead you are here typing I NEED CONFIRMATION.




Is she somewhere asking for confirmation? Do you know or you guessing? I know who is. I know for 100% fact who is burdened by not getting closure to the situation, because they are here right now, asking us for it. The questions he wants to know the answers to, from his girl, cannot be found cause he closed that door. Now he opening the door to the coli, trying to get it from us. When instead of being a man and saying "excuse me but what the fukk does that mean" and being able to peep finesse from a mile away, no matter what she says.. He now wonders if he truly should have just talked to her... This woman he's chosen to associate with for months, slide up in, risk babies and everything else with, and taking her out the country on trips, for her happiness on her born date...

Now y'all suddenly want us to believe he don't care, he got closure, it's killing her, he's got the power, she was trying to finesse him by asking for one day, and to continue acting like this towards people forever.....


Ok

Cot damn if this ain't right on the money. The energy just didn't line up. HOH one moment then Don Juan the next. Flip flop.

There's nothing wrong if it was nothing but FWB at first then over time you grew feelings for the broad and wanted to take to another level potentially. If that's the case, blocking her was a bytch move. Just be a man and communicate with the broad to make sure you're on the same page. If she's still outta pocket after that then so be it, but not even giving this bytch you now have feelings for the chance to understand how you feel with an automatic block is childish

 

[Silver Surfer]

I've had all types of different relationships with women except marriage.

The main point I was making was that this situation came about because of mixed signals or blurred lines as I originally put it.

In one breath she was nothing more than just someone you fukked here and there, next she became someone you wanted to spoil for her birthday on some "you can have whatever you liiiiike". now you try to flip back to HOH.

Few questions
If it was not her birthday would you have still offered to take her on a trip?

Is there a reason why you wanted to take only her and not any of the other women you been just fukkin?

Are you still going to Mexico yourself or have you canceled the trip since it didn't work out with her?

I think the confusion on yall side is like the other bruh said....yall equate taking a woman on a trip as being in a committed relationship eith her. I don't see it that way and wont...so no need trying to figure that part out if you don't get it. More power to you if that's how you roll.

To answer you question...yes I would have offered....I still enjoy weekends out of town with English speaking women

However we still got Rio, Costa Rica, and Panama on deck

 

[Silver Surfer]

Cot damn if this ain't right on the money. The energy just didn't line up. HOH one moment then Don Juan the next. Flip flop.

There's nothing wrong if it was nothing but FWB at first then over time you grew feelings for the broad and wanted to take to another level potentially. If that's the case, blocking her was a bytch move. Just be a man and communicate with the broad to make sure you're on the same page. If she's still outta pocket after that then so be it, but not even giving this bytch you now have feelings for the chance to understand how you feel with an automatic block is childish

Sorry my young friend.....you either enjoy the ride or find another

 

[Yinny]

This is an impossible conversation to have.

Its like telling someone you're taking them out to a fancy restaurant and you will cover everything but dessert.
You think they gonna reach for their wallet when the check comes?

You either do the whole thing and have control of what happens, or you only pay for yourself.

Making financial arrangements with someone who doesn't wanna pay is a bad idea.

I get this but he OFFERED! For her bday! And her initial plans with her friends didn't materialize, she still wanted to go. Took him up on his offer

tbh accepting men “tricking" comes with certain expectations, as with most transactional arrangements - sex/companionship he wants, she has it, I guess same + "benefits" she wants- I assume he generally pays for everything else.

Spoiler: Open curtain

I'm going to break the fourth wall for two seconds, if this is projecting let me know but being general here:

A LOT of men who "trick" on women they don't particularly like for anything but their body/face and the vag is good enough, don't mind being seen in public/socializing/eating with her still have certain mentalities towards the woman/trickee.

It's a form of control where they don't respect her, on some, yeah you putting out ain't giving me too much of a headache, but our arrangement isn't one where we like each other. Or even a remote possibility of going beyond this.

Hence the conversational tones between both and the fake power play pretty clear in the text. She couldn't possibly have been unclear about whose availability it was convenient for in a two-party conversation lmao

If she's replaceable and just a "fun time girl," cool - she probably knows this and isn't pressed or new to this (or she learned that day) - the convo went as it went.
@Silver Surfer
The blocking was pretty petty, you either tell her you don't appreciate her talking to you that way, or if you still wanted her around - hash out the details. This doesn't seem like the first time the tones come like this but both parties were doing a power play.

These ideally should only last a few months anyway, y'all had your run. Okay to move on. "I don't think you're appreciative of my offer and this seems like you're taking advantage." --continue convo, if she gets smart again, deuces.

 

[the bossman]

OP is a simp who at some point wanted to import a hooker from Punta Cana and marry her so take everything he says with a grain of salt. Clearly he was simping that woman but wants to pretend being alpha for the coli.

Is this true OP?

 

[SheWantTheD]

How did this thread go to 20 pages?

 

[The ADD]

How did this thread go to 20 pages?

20?

I got 6

 

[SheWantTheD]

20?

I got 6

Depends on how many posts you set per page.

 

[Gold]

I get this but he OFFERED! For her bday! And her initial plans with her friends didn't materialize, she still wanted to go. Took him up on his offer

tbh accepting men “tricking" comes with certain expectations, as with most transactional arrangements - sex/companionship he wants, she has it, I guess same + "benefits" she wants- I assume he generally pays for everything else.

Spoiler: Open curtain

I'm going to break the fourth wall for two seconds, if this is projecting let me know but being general here:

A LOT of men who "trick" on women they don't particularly like for anything but their body/face and the vag is good enough, don't mind being seen in public/socializing/eating with her still have certain mentalities towards the woman/trickee.

It's a form of control where they don't respect her, on some, yeah you putting out ain't giving me too much of a headache, but our arrangement isn't one where we like each other. Or even a remote possibility of going beyond this.

Hence the conversational tones between both and the fake power play pretty clear in the text. She couldn't possibly have been unclear about whose availability it was convenient for in a two-party conversation lmao

If she's replaceable and just a "fun time girl," cool - she probably knows this and isn't pressed or new to this (or she learned that day) - the convo went as it went.
@Silver Surfer
The blocking was pretty petty, you either tell her you don't appreciate her talking to you that way, or if you still wanted her around - hash out the details. This doesn't seem like the first time the tones come like this but both parties were doing a power play.

These ideally should only last a few months anyway, y'all had your run. Okay to move on. "I don't think you're appreciative of my offer and this seems like you're taking advantage." --continue convo, if she gets smart again, deuces.

I think were saying the same thing. Im not saying that he should havr blocked her, im just saying that if you cant 100% trick, then go 0%

All the tricking ive seen is like that. Never seen a guy tell a girl he gonna pay for 90% of her gucci bag or 80% of her trip.


But im naive in this world of tricking, i could be wrong. I agree with the spoiler. Its a mutually beneficial understanding

 

[Action Mike]

Word up. All of us humans are going to die and be sniff in a casket one day. fukk are we scared of each other for. Hell, death should make people appreciate life period. You dont always get a chance to have a life and one day you will lose it.

OP, you only get one life. You might only get one chance to get back with this woman. Get your ass up, make that phone call and tell her that you will see her tomorrow. This woman might be your future wife. Go and do it.

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

Bingo, he's hurt like a mofo that this girl treated him like an option while he prioritized her and planned the whole shyt out. Whats probably eating him even more is the fact that she didnt even bother to chase him after getting block and just charged OP to the game and kept it moving. Now he's on thecoli like "what did i do wrong?"

Here's what's really crazy. She's just as in her feels, insecure cause "damn I been giving up my p*ssy all this time and this guy I like just dead the whole thing cause I asked to stay an extra day".. Ain't too many good women chasing you out the door on some movie shyt. You the man. They expect YOU to come back. They damn sure gotta love you to be fighting through a block

 

[Dont@Me]

She says "work for whom"

..

*record skip*

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Flying out a girl you’re only smashing for her birthday? Whew… the game done changed.

 

[TrapParis]

Bush her and keep it movin

simple