Need some basic advice. How do you ask a woman about her body count, without looking bad?

[BlackDynamite310]

Not to get off topic but the would it be ok with you if she just 3 bodies But the three she got was in a train she did on the regular or in some kind of relationship where she liked to get DP'd by the same dudes.

See The number ain't the issue it's the context

 

[re'up]

It would seem that you are moving a little dramatically here, you met someone you like, and you have been texting with her, and you are considering the qualities you want in a wife, and want to ask her how many men she's slept with? Have you been out with her yet? A date, a kiss, a few hours together? I would start with that.

edit: I had to come back to this, you have to ask her out, before you ask her how many people she's slept with!

Get a sense of WHO she is, and you will get a sense of the answer, and then, at some point, after you have had sex, though I don't really mean directly after, but when intimacy is now longer a mystery between you two, ask her. Maybe volunteer your answer, which may be lower. If it is something you have to know, which I think is misguided, at least get some ground in the friendship/relationship first. Don't lead with some shyt like that.

LOL at 1-4 though, that's like born again/extra religious, 18 years old type of number. I wouldn't be thrown by 20. We are talking 25-35 year old women, right?

 

[Tombstone]

Not to get off topic but the would it be ok with you if she just 3 bodies But the three she got was in a train she did on the regular or in some kind of relationship where she liked to get DP'd by the same dudes.

See The number ain't the issue it's the context

Hell Nah, I dont really care about bodycount (kind of) besides some extreme shyt but you if you got trained off rip

 

[EmpressKali]

before you guys say it, I know females lie about their body count. So I don't need that speech.

But there's a female I've been texting with for a while ( we met at a stationary store in Flushing QS) , I have a little crush on her, but I created a list of eleven non-negotiables that I want in a wife and one of them is a low-body count (between 1-4).

I want to ask her about her sexual past, but I don't know the best way to do it.

Do I say " hey, how many guys have slept with"?

Bring up my body count and see if she's stunned or elated by it.

I just want some generic advice on this.

OP why does it matter anyway?

 

[Hungry Rabbit]

Right also seamlessly integrate the topic into another conversation. There's gotta be communication foreplay.
You can't be lazy about it either on some
"Maaan it's hot out here"
"So about them dykks u used to take..."

Flow with the conversation and have a scenario prepared where body count is a thing. Maybe a reference of one of ur homegirls having a wild night in college or something. Then u can slide a casual "what about u" in there or "I bet u was off the chain back then" or something like that.

Or he could be honest and let her know that promiscuity is a red flag for him and start a more interesting conversation. If she's put off by it then she ain't the one. But if she's receptive or open and comfortable u might learn some interesting perspective and that's probably an indication of her being more conservative b/c she has nothing to hide.

In for fukkery either way!

Million dollars worth a game for free tho?

I agree. I'd add that he should think about what he's trying to do with this chick: Smash or wife?

If you're just trying to smash then yeah you've gotta warm up to the question and frame the question in the most non-judgemental way possible.

If you're trying to wife then you've DEFINITELY gotta warm up to the question and frame it in the most non-judgemental way possible.

Thus nikka EITHER WAY... you've gotta lie to the bih

This relationship's already off to a good start brehs

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Not to get off topic but the would it be ok with you if she just 3 bodies But the three she got was in a train she did on the regular or in some kind of relationship where she liked to get DP'd by the same dudes.

See The number ain't the issue it's the context

This. I know some sexual deviants who have barely touched p*ssy or dikk, and I also know a few who have high body counts but are actually pretty stable individuals.

It isn't necessarily the body count so much as it is the baggage and the reasoning behind why u were fukking. Some broken people fukkin for a lotta reasons these days and it aint just to get s nut. If there was a high body count, is she fukking for attention, money, abuse, just experiementing (which there is NOTHING wrong with), is she trying to fukk the pain away with randoms from a bad breakup, got some weirdo type of "I'll show them" man-hate vagsplaining mentality. Or she could just have a high sex drive.

The point is to have a good conversation to figure out compatibility.

 

[yeyeye]

Act like ur the least non-judgemental person on the face of the planet and ur totally open to "free love" and stuff.
Start talking about ur exes and embellish their sex lives to get her comfortable with the idea that u were with women slept around.
Then you can ease ur way into the conversation about both of ur sex pasts

Getting solid advice like this from women about relationships is like the game being spit to you by one of the game devs.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Million dollars worth a game for free tho?

I agree. I'd add that he should think about what he's trying to do with this chick: Smash or wife?

If you're just trying to smash then yeah you've gotta warm up to the question and frame the question in the most non-judgemental way possible.

If you're trying to wife then you've gotta warm up to the question and frame it in the most non-judgemental way possible.

Thus nikka EITHER WAY... you've gotta lie to the bih

This relationship's already off to a good start brehs

LMAO! STOP IT!
And I'm tryin to help him and her out. The sooner he gets the truth the sooner they can move on together if it's right or stop wasting each other's time if it's not...

I do agree that he should know what he wants. But I think people don't give honesty enough credit. Lying seems like an easier route but there is no better feeling than being honest and authentic to get the results u want. And u would be surprised at how women respond to honesty sometimes. There are dudes I literally didn't want to deal with b/c they had that finesse shield up and it's exhausting to deal with. But as soon as they leveled with me and stopped insulting my intelligence that made me literally wanna throw all the drawers at em. Honesty can be sexy.

(Now watch somebody interpret this as a green light to be obnoxious as possible.)

 

[YaFingerDealMe]

You'll never have an exact number, you just gone hear about people she used to "talk to" and make an assumption based off that
I really never cared though it aint like I'm out here saving my dikk for somebody special, its more to me than that

 

[NotAnFBIagent]

Ask questions u don't wanna know the answer to brehs

 

[AlainLocke]

OP why does it matter anyway?

Cause the avg person don't wanna be with no slut...

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Anyway OP...like breh...


Like nikka you ain't getting married tomorrow...

Why not just have fun...

Like the way I see it...she got fukked before you and she gonna get fukked after you...the p*ssy don't belong to you, it belong to her, she gotta live with how ever many dikks and creampies and cumshots to the face she took...not yoou..

There's no real difference, getting fukked is getting fukked...numbers don't really matter

I fukked a bytch with 200 bodies cause I like hearing about bytches getting dikked down in bathrooms and staircases and shyt...and she was excited to have a man not give a fukk about the amount of dikk intake and she was pretty honest and blunt...

And guess what...I felt no different than when I fukked a bytch that only had 4 dikks in her life...

Honestly the bytch that only had 4 dikks in life was more of a bytch and slut than the bytch that had 200 dikks...

The 200 dikk having bytch dressed conservatively and liked to read haikus and bike ride...

The 4 dikk having bytch liked to go dancing and dry hump nikkas...

The 200 dikk having bytch was more experienced in having a relationship..

The bytch had a nikka thinking he was about to get married to a straight up cum bucket...cause she would cook and clean and she didn't argue and she could suck dikk and she had her own money and she was classy and she was witty...and charming...

While the 4 dikk having bytch was bratty, immature, anti-social, and lazy as fukk...

I would marry that 200 dikk having bytch if I wasn't GMB...cause that bytch was the truth...

And I didn't care one bit about her being in orgies and gangbangs...or the time she fukked her boss for a promotion and blackmailed him...like those are learning experiences...

 

[Fade Runner 2049]

Literally reenact the intro to How's It Goin Down by DMX

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

How do you know all females lie about how many people they've been with? how can you even start from a point of view like that and expect a happy ending? if they lie, why would it even matter?

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Getting solid advice like this from women about relationships is like the game being spit to you by one of the game devs.

Thanks babe! I'm just here to help the fukkery along a bit...lmao! Although I think the honesty route would yield a better more interesting conversation.

Him: Hey how are u? (Random heart emoji)
Her: Hey babe! Wyd?
Him: Nothing much but I do have something on my mind
Her: Oh what is it?
Him: So I like u and I see this possibly going somewhere in the future but I do have a concern or two
Her: It's no problem. Tell me what's going on
Him: Well it's kind of a personal question but could I ask u about ur body count. I know it sounds crazy, but there can be a lot of hidden baggage that comes along with higher body counts and I like to know that type of info b4 I proceed to something serious.

Her Potential Response #1: "Omg!" Why the fukk u worried about who the hell I was with b4 you?! That's none of ur business! Nikkas always worried about some double standard bullshyt even tho they bigger hoes than half the bytches they complaining about! Yadda, yadda yadda offended b/c she fukked the varsity football team and don't wanna talk about it, yadda, yadda, yadda."

Her Potential Response #2: "I haven't had many sexual partners. I've been with (normal number) and they were while i was in relationships. What negative stuff do u associate with high body counts?" (She might be lying but at least reasonable and relatively undamaged)

Her Potential Response #3: "None. I'm a virgin until marriage! And it's great that we're talking about this b/c it shows that you'll respect my own desire to remain virtuous..." (LMAO dude bit off more than he can chew with this one. I'm mean sure I don't want her to have a big body count but that shouldn't mean I cant hit MYSELF!)

Her Potential Response #4: "I don't understand why it's such a big deal but 7..."

 

[Hungry Rabbit]

LMAO! STOP IT!
And I'm tryin to help him and her out. The sooner he gets the truth the sooner they can move on together if it's right or stop wasting each other's time if it's not...

I do agree that he should know what he wants. But I think people don't give honesty enough credit. Lying seems like an easier route but there is no better feeling than being honest and authentic to get the results u want. And u would be surprised at how women respond to honesty sometimes. There are dudes I literally didn't want to deal with b/c they had that finesse shield up and it's exhausting to deal with. But as soon as they leveled with me and stopped insulting my intelligence that made me literally wanna throw all the drawers at em. Honesty can be sexy.

(Now watch somebody interpret this as a green light to be obnoxious as possible.)

Well you know I can't argue against none of this

The question is how honest do you be with these chicks tho...

Some of these chicks can't handle the truth, you hear me?????

Like if a non-negotiable of yours for a chick is her sleeping with 4 dudes MAX, and you out here really scouting these chicks like you supposed, you might really have to try finesse her ass out them drawers to see if she's real or nah

And that's word to 22