New York Times: Men, where have you gone? Please come back

[Fillerguy]

Crazy how bothsides continue ignoring each other.

 

[ReturnOfJudah]

Naw, ask your gay & bull dagger friends to be there for you

 

[Phitz]

the author is a copywright attorney for the porn industry

go figure

 

[⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐]

When the editor in chief tells you they need more online engagement but you just finished journalism school and wanted to cover the war in the middle east

 

[ORDER_66]

Wall Street Journal now too. What’s going on?

the propaganda doesnt end clearly someone has an agenda to get men back on the hamster wheel. and its not working

 

[PHamm]

You can’t get on social media espousing
Chopped men epidemic
I choose the bear
All men suck and I hate them
I’m leaving my good husband/boyfriend because he’s not my person
And all kinds of other ludicrous shyt
Then ask where the men at
I’m not even mad at the women anymore
It’s you goofy nikkas that co-sign they shyt
Pander and kiss they ass like you do with these bum ass hoes that post on this forum
W-Well we gotta hold men accountable
Yeah nikka hold men accountable and watch the same brain dead bytches run back to the demons of their pasts
Or to the nikkas we clearly warn them about from jump only to be told
You don’t control me
Until nikkas get some nuts about themselves
Practice dikk discipline
And stop lying to these women
The cycle will keep going
nikkas so scared to call these bytches losers but will call a breh a loser at the drop of a dime
98% of these hoes are gabage
No if ands or buts about it
If you want men to come back
Society going to have to stand on business and start telling these hoes the truth
You fat
You masculine
You boring
You got kids no nikka wants to take care of
You are an adult, your survival doesn’t depend on someone else to change your tire or help you build furniture
Read the first page and you will see the son husbands and weak nikka responses
Men are scared of women and scared to tell the truth
Until then it will be the same dumb ass argument day in and day out

You've been posting nothing but piff in 2025. I see ya daddy, pause

 

[ajnapoleon]

Right in time for the recession.



ChatGPT summary -

Here are the key points from Rachel Drucker’s Modern Love essay “Men, Where Have You Gone? Please Come Back” (published June 20, 2025) based on the Reddit thread summary :

1. A cultural shift in male presence

• Many men have withdrawn from vulnerability and intimacy, not through aggression but through indifference. They are no longer fully “present” on dates or in connections.

2. From real connection to “directionless orbiting”

• The author laments the rise of “situationships”: casual emoji check-ins and flirtation without real commitment or movement forward—an abdication of emotional ownership.

3. Emotional retreat and convenience culture

• Men increasingly prefer curated, frictionless digital experiences—scrolling, filters, passive engagement—over the messy process of genuine human connection.

4. The erosion of intimacy rituals

• Shared rituals—like lingering over breakfast after a one-night stand—have largely disappeared, replaced by walled-off experiences and missed moments of closeness.

5. A call for rediscovering presence

• The author invites men to return with authenticity and willingness, not perfection—highlighting the need for breath, eye contact, emotional presence, and simply being with each other.

Standout Quotes from the Essay

“The way many men had quietly withdrawn from intimacy and vulnerability. Not with violence or resistance, but with indifference.”

“What I won’t entertain is directionless orbiting … We call it a situationship. But mostly, it’s avoidance.”

In essence, Drucker explores how male emotional absence, driven by digital convenience and cultural burnout, is reshaping romantic rituals. She believes women continue to show up—waiting for men to show up with intention. And her plea is simple: “Come back—not with fireworks, but with your whole, beautiful, imperfect heart.”

I noticed a glaring lack of accountability from the female gender on why this happened

 

[RageKage]

Lol

 

[MaxPain]

Children of men

It’s gonna get worse. This isnt good at all. But at the same time, it is what it is.

WOMEN choose the men & most men FINALLY woke up from the lie that if they work hard enough they can get a woman. Truth is, most men will never make the cut & that gap is getting wider & wider everyday. So get in where you fit in & call it a day.

 

[Mister Terrific]

I blame Patrice O’Neal dying




We would never have these lame as Joe Rogan’s and Tim Pools fukking up young men and scaring the hoes.

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

Demonize men then ask where they went

And still took no shared accountability in the article still ended up being a "men fix yourself and come cater to us".........

 

[JNew]

I blame Patrice O’Neal dying




We would never have these lame as Joe Rogan’s and Tim Pools fukking up young men and scaring the hoes.

Naw its porn bro its that simple. Men in the past used to tolerate women just to get into her pants and see them naked. Most women aint worth the chase anymore. GenZ and half of millennials where practically raised on free high speed internet porn.

 

[lib123]

From what I’m seeing and reading, they don’t want the emotional labor from men who aren’t committing. A lot of men want all the benefits of a wife, without actually commiting. So you have brehs in relationships who want women to cook, clean, be a business partner, but don’t want to get married. The brehs in situationships are worse, because they try to get those things, plus want the women to listen and be emotionally available while still keeping themselves open to other women. Then you have the ones who get married, but the woman still works full time contributing to half the bills, but does all the housework, all the cooking, the majority of the childcare, and when the woman wants some time to herself, the men complain about caring for their own children. They have to pick up after children, and after a grown man. Married women complain about feeling like single moms, because the man is not making time for the family, or the relationship. (Tom Brady)

A marriage is a partnership. It requires effort from both sides. Even in situations where the man provides, you still need to make her feel special. The easiest cheat code is flowers. Brehs act like flowers cost $500. You spend $15-$30 a month to get some grocery store flowers, and it makes a difference most of the time. Of course, there are women who will never be happy, especially if she was settling for you in the first place. But for most women, the flowers show you were thinking about her, and put effort into giving her a nice experience.

I think apps have a lot of brehs inappropriately down on themselves. Women judge you harshly if you’re not good at writing a profile, or have bad pics. There could be something she sees or feels in you she would only feel in person. Most couples are equal in appearance, but the ones where the woman is perceived to look better than the man didn’t meet on apps. They could have known each other for a long time. They could have been set up by mutual friends, so she felt more comfortable. This is why you need to leave the house, and meet people. Friends have sisters, cousins, and wives and girlfriends who have friends you will meet while attending their events.

It’s amazing you never find any role that women have played in why a growing share of them will never get married lol.

 

[Voice of Reason]

I blame Patrice O’Neal dying




We would never have these lame as Joe Rogan’s and Tim Pools fukking up young men and scaring the hoes.

That and Kevin Samuels dying allowed the "Myrons" of the world to lead young men into extremism.

 

[lib123]

Based on the subject title, I was hoping the NY Times was actually turning the corner and realized a significant number of eligible men (in the top 20-40%) have opted out of dating almost completely, therefore doing damage to the dating market. For the past 5-10 years media outlets like them have been pushing this "Male Loneliness Epic" garbage which mainly applies to men women do not want in the first place. And they've always framed opinionated articles like this to slight men in order to not offend their female base and advertisers.

But nope, this is nothing more than shaming men into traditional courtship that doesn't line up for many people in relationships today.

Plenty of women are fine with "situation-ships" from their college years to their mid-30's and even later, as long as its from the men that turn them on. Yes, there is no time for the Boss Chick to cuddle after sex and have a deep conversation about astrology the morning after with GMA playing in the background. Bills need to get paid.

And just this year, I'm hearing women don't want to deal with mens emotional labor (after telling men we need to stop bottling up our emotions, go to therapy, and express our feelings for the past 5 years), why they mad, this is the perfect compromise

I do not blame any man who knows he is a womans second/third/fourth choice that refuses to roll out the red carpet for a woman who has a dozen unread messages from other guys on Tinder/Bumble on standby and shes ready to entertain after the first moment of dullness during a date.

The rise of podcasts has made a lot more young men aware of these dynamics.