New York Times: Men, where have you gone? Please come back

[NZA]

 

[MajesticLion]

Demonize men then ask where they went

 

[Unbothered]

It's soo hard and exhausting to be a man and sometimes it makes me feel like outrageously breaking out in tears, with both hands covering my face because it's so depressing to be a man in 2025.

Shyt I feel like crying now...


Some of y'all got to stop with this “woe is me/it's hard being a man that it makes me wanna break down and cry” shyt being a man in 2025 ain't all that depressing and miserable some of you guys just need to get your affairs in order

 

[Remote]

Men increasingly prefer curated, frictionless digital experiences—scrolling, filters, passive engagement—over the messy process of genuine human connection.

This is a strange assertion.

Because from my perspective, no matter what people say about relationship dynamics, in the end it’s the woman who chooses a man.

Men pursue. Women either accept or reject them.

So to act like it’s men who prefer these frictionless experiences it’s weird. Men aren’t in the position to dictate that.

A man will engage only to the extent that a woman is receptive.

If a woman don’t really want to fukk with you, a man generally leaves you alone and ignores you.

 

[concise]

 

[Ku$h Parker]

Colombia
PR
DR
Brazil

Good thing you left Panama out cause that's me and my Brothers p*ssy Pipeline

 

[Barlow]

this happens in waves since the street harassment/man spreading campaigns

women take up some dumb ass movement, men back off, women start asking why aren't men approaching them

 

[Savvir]

 

[LiveFromLondon]

. A cultural shift in male presence

• Many men have withdrawn from vulnerability and intimacy, not through aggression but through indifference. They are no longer fully “present” on dates or in connections.

My nikkas

From real connection to “directionless orbiting”

• The author laments the rise of “situationships”: casual emoji check-ins and flirtation without real commitment or movement forward—an abdication of emotional ownership.

My nikkas

Emotional retreat and convenience culture

• Men increasingly prefer curated, frictionless digital experiences—scrolling, filters, passive engagement—over the messy process of genuine human connection.

My nikkas

The erosion of intimacy rituals

• Shared rituals—like lingering over breakfast after a one-night stand—have largely disappeared, replaced by walled-off experiences and missed moments of closeness.

My nikkas

A call for rediscovering presence

• The author invites men to return with authenticity and willingness, not perfection—highlighting the need for breath, eye contact, emotional presence, and simply being with each other.

My nigggaaasss

 

[Killer Instinct]

 

[My Girl is Bow Legged]

pushed that toxic masculinity shyt for 10 years now they lookin round like

 

[Macallik86]

Part of it is true (I been dragging my feet on settling down for 20 years) but at the same time, she sounds like someone just curved her and she wrote an essay about

 

[ba'al]

Because from my perspective, no matter what people say about relationship dynamics, in the end it’s the woman who chooses a man.

So now men don't choose their mates now?

Men pursue. Women either accept or reject them.

So men don't reject women now. Gotcha.

Edit- I don't even think you believe what you typed maybe just a tactic to shame men.

"They didn't want those men anyways"

IF that's the case leave those men alone. Don't ask what their doing or why they not approaching you already got the answer.

 

[97Pac]

Colombia
PR
DR
Brazil

Naw take PR off that list. PR women are americanized

 

[Chrishaune]

Nope