An a$$hole or just poor?
Weddings are significantly cheaper off-weekend, that's almost certainly the reason he had on a Thursday. He likely scheduled it for the spring, in part, to increase the likelihood of his brother being able to attend.
You talking about 'inconveniencing' guests, but that's why "save the dates" are sent out. Most people working regular jobs can plan accordingly with their jobs to take the time off as needed. If you're unwilling to do that, attending that wedding just wasn't that important to you.
It's the NFL's fault for essentially making an voluntary workout mandatory. How can you be this dense?