"No flowers, no planned dates, just “wyd” texts & 50/50"

[Dwolf]

Yeah there’s a lotta guys out who try that shyt but that doesn’t mean you have to put up with it. Also I think this is an online dating/hookup culture phenomenon.

For every guy trying to cosplay as a Future wannabe offering nothing but wack dikk and tired lines online, there are dozens of real charmers out there who will make your life beautiful. I thank God I’ve never really encountered some of the shyt some of these women describe or these typical internet edgy dudes.

Dating is supposed to be a source of relaxation and it’s supposed to be an enjoyable way to build intimacy and get to know people. Flashing dikk pics immediately, escalating to sex 24/7 and/or dumb shyt is just lame. I like people who can teach me shyt. Hell some of these dudes outchea are master chefs. I didn’t even know what a “sous vide” was before I had a man put me on to it on a date a few weeks ago. I cook a mean fukking steak and ole boy had me beat. Hands down.
I got wet just watching him cut the veggies. These chicks ain’t obligated to entertain dudes with nothing to offer.

So what's wrong with him

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

I disagree.

A man that isn’t actively looking for a relationship still ain’t gone let a good thing pass by.

It’s just gone take a little more to open his nose up than it would a dude out here looking to get hitched.

If we say or give off the vibe that we aren’t looking for a relationship, it’s we don’t want a relationship with you.

that still doesn't mean you're not passing up a good woman

she could be too quiet for you, not "your type" physically, too bubbly, etc etc...as i've said in all three exchanges with you: a man who is into you will put in effort

you just admitted as much in the bolded

 

[Mr.bocario]

So wifey was advising her women's group about what a healthy relationships looks like

One of the reformed thots asked about what i do for romantic date nights

Wifey literally had to fabricate some fake scenarios and attribute them to me

But see, wifeys ideal evening is not a romantic date

She wants to feel engagement,, a connection,, be listened to
To feel restored - some laughter, some closeness
To be with a masculine presence so she can feel feminine
then some sex and cuddling
That is 10/10 perfect for her
So good thing she married me

But before i can do all that for her,, she had to be honest and in touch with herself
To know what she wants and be in her lane

This Twitter lady.. I scroll her Twitter for five minutes and i have ZERO idea what would made her feel whole and loved
She is talking about businesses.. Yet mailing shyt at USPS
She is talking about jealousy.. I mean,, what??
She wants to be silly and youthful.. But doesn't want jokes
She wants to do social commentary.. But says nothing original
I think i saw her picture. (Hard to tell with the retweets)
I find her very attractive.. But???

A younger version of me regularly interacted with a different generation of her
But i don't know what she needs to feel happy
If she was smiling and looking at me,,, after a few minutes only thing i can imagine her enjoying..
.. is getting fukked ,, multiple times and multiple ways in a really thorough manner
I believe they call it the porn star experience
That's the most i could do for her

So yeah, wyd and come thru is what i would say

She has really painted herself into a corner with all this posturing and exaggerated stuff

Humans need a bit of vulnerability
All that rise and grind,,, nothing else matters,, this perpetual loop of 'im gonna be ranked #1bad bytch multimillionaire in 90 days "
Like jeesh, give it a fukking rest

This is so true. Social media is full of I’m a alpha male/ baddest bytch on the planet advice

In real life don’t you just want somebody that enjoys your company and finds you physically attractive

 

[Rekkapryde]

If that's all you can get, that's probably all you're worth.

 

[tuckgod]

that still doesn't mean you're not passing up a good woman

she could be too quiet for you, not "your type" physically, too bubbly, etc etc...as i've said in all three exchanges with you: a man who is into you will put in effort

you just admitted as much in the bolded

I’m not arguing with you shorty.

We’ll agree to disagree.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

My sister is scared of sunflowers

I love how people are so different!

 

[Giselle]

The flowers will be dead in a week. You want them because the money spent = "effort".

I used to dislike getting flowers until I started putting them in my bath. Now, that’s the only reason I want them. Anyway, Flowers don’t take any effort, it’s basic.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Unless you’re planting them in the garden I see no point

It has just become a pointless human gesture

speaking as someone who has given people in the hospital flowers

The point is that the person you like, likes them. It’s a selfless gesture.
A blow job is over after a few minutes. But we not trying to throw that out the door are we?

Selfless generosity is a big indicator of whether somebody you are interested in is ready for a relationship. It’s not even about flowers because not every chick cares about flowers. It’s about your willingness to figure out what your love interest desires and whether you care enough about them to give them that experience and create that memory or not.

If you quibbling about something as simple as a Harris Teeter bouquet of flowers….if that just seems like too impossible of a task when it takes virtually no effort, then that’s a big indicator that you don’t actually give a damn about her.

And that’s okay. You not gonna like or feel everybody you meet. Just like everybody you meet not gon like you and wanna put any effort in for you. That’s life. Dating is just a way of figuring that out. Hopefully sooner rather than later.

 

[Shadow King]

I used to dislike getting flowers until I started putting them in my bath. Now, that’s the only reason I want them. Anyway, Flowers don’t take any effort, it’s basic.

Money spent = effort to majority of women.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

So are you really that unaware or are you just trying to see if others can get on board with your lies

Ain’t nothing to be unaware of. Too many people too scared or anxious to do anything these days. Dating included. People don’t even have FRIENDS, so I’m not surprised that dating has become a huge damn event.

But that’s part of the problem. People have lived in their heads so much, taken a bunch of cues from online shyt that they got crazy expectations. They’ve built the process up so much that something as simple as meeting people has become this monumental colossus.

I said what I said. Dating should be an enjoyable experience. It’s as simple as you planning something you like to do, and inviting the person you are interested in along to do it with you.
That’s it.

Simple shyt. But because some of these dudes got these ideas in their head from offline that everybody is getting p*ssy on the first date, and chicks think every girl is getting $300 dates, they feel like they getting curved if they put in even the bare minimum effort and not getting sloppy head or a Fendi bag seconds within meeting a random person.

“I guess she/he don’t like me!”

That’s what’s stressful.
So they try all this autistic ass PUA shyt, can’t be themselves, sound weird as fukk, escalating to sex every 10 seconds like they thirsty as hell, trying to get nikkas to drop major bread on them and just come off looking weird and creepy instead of being themselves and letting the chips fall where they may.

Men AND women out here looking stupid as hell because they trying to sell themselves to people they want to impress instead of moving with people that actually LIKE them.

Dating is a simple sweet process. I met a guy at a damn bagel shop yesterday. And we sat and just enjoyed each other’s company until my homegirl came through and worked on some dissertation shyt.

People have lost the art of simply BEING with someone b/c they too worried about what they can get outta somebody else. And they worried about that b/c they comparing their lives to dummies fake flexing on the internet.

I swear people just slow ass hell these days.

 

[BigMan]

Ain’t nothing to be unaware of. Too many people too scared or anxious to do anything these days. Dating included. People don’t even have FRIENDS, so I’m not surprised that dating has become a huge damn event.

But that’s part of the problem. People have lived in their heads so much, taken a bunch of cues from online shyt that they got crazy expectations. They’ve built the process up so much that something as simple as meeting people has become this monumental colossus.

I said what I said. Dating should be an enjoyable experience. It’s as simple as you planning something you like to do, and inviting the person you are interested in along to do it with you.
That’s it.

Simple shyt. But because some of these dudes got these ideas in their head from offline that everybody is getting p*ssy on the first date, and chicks think every girl is getting $300 dates, they feel like they getting curved if they put in even the bare minimum effort and not getting sloppy head or a Fendi bag seconds within meeting a random person.

“I guess she/he don’t like me!”

That’s what’s stressful.
So they try all this autistic ass PUA shyt, can’t be themselves, sound weird as fukk, escalating to sex every 10 seconds like they thirsty as hell, trying to get nikkas to drop major bread on them and just come off looking weird and creepy instead of being themselves and letting the chips fall where they may.

Men AND women out here looking stupid as hell because they trying to sell themselves to people they want to impress instead of moving with people that actually LIKE them.

Dating is a simple sweet process. I met a guy at a damn bagel shop yesterday. And we sat and just enjoyed each other’s company until my homegirl came through and worked on some dissertation shyt.

People have lost the art of simply BEING with someone b/c they too worried about what they can get outta somebody else. And they worried about that b/c they comparing their lives to dummies fake flexing on the internet.

I swear people just slow ass hell these days.

You be killing me Books

I know you sincere/honest but the vast majority of of peoples dating experiences are not the same as yours
Most of us are broken insecure traumatized messes

Its very few normal people out here
I snatch mine up because dating is absolutely awful these days

also to echo other brehs here, women are out here fukking so if she doesn’t want to fukk you early most times it’s a clear sign that she doesn’t desire you like that and you should move on if you don’t want to wait.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

So what's wrong with him

Not a thing. It’s still new so we are just enjoying each other’s company.

 

[Bumblebreh]

these young cats flipped the game...they aint playing with yall no more...just 50/50, "wyd" and "what that mouth do" texts, and netflix and chill dates to them...wish my generation did it that way

Nah breh that is not something to look up to. Modern standards of dating is fukked up

 

[RareHunter]

Do women deserve better brehs?

No. U a fool if u still doing dates, less u just bored and your funds right.

 

[RareHunter]

Yeah there’s a lotta guys out who try that shyt but that doesn’t mean you have to put up with it. Also I think this is an online dating/hookup culture phenomenon.

For every guy trying to cosplay as a Future wannabe offering nothing but wack dikk and tired lines online, there are dozens of real charmers out there who will make your life beautiful. I thank God I’ve never really encountered some of the shyt some of these women describe or these typical internet edgy dudes.

Dating is supposed to be a source of relaxation and it’s supposed to be an enjoyable way to build intimacy and get to know people. Flashing dikk pics immediately, escalating to sex 24/7 and/or dumb shyt is just lame. I like people who can teach me shyt. Hell some of these dudes outchea are master chefs. I didn’t even know what a “sous vide” was before I had a man put me on to it on a date a few weeks ago. I cook a mean fukking steak and ole boy had me beat. Hands down.
I got wet just watching him cut the veggies. These chicks ain’t obligated to entertain dudes with nothing to offer.

Dating or rather courting was suppose to have the purpose of seeing a future (marriage) with each other, not relaxation with a bunch of ppl. I’ve never asked “what are we?” To a chick I’m just fkcing and I will always withhold a date whenever possible as most men should do.