"No flowers, no planned dates, just “wyd” texts & 50/50"

[the bossman]

My issue isn't even just paying more - It's that what I'm paying for isn't worth much more. Sometimes it's worth less

A lot of chicks - not all, but a lot -.have this sort of self-centered view that them just being them is all they need for a relationship, and it's my job to prove my worth.

So I'm paying extra money for a chick who is literally just there? Doesn't really care about me emotionally? Finds it an affront for her to pay for anything? Thinks an affront to spend money? And actually won't have sex as early or as much? Acts like everything they do is then sacrificing while everything I do is the bare minimum.

Maybe that's the disconnect. I feel like I've said this repeatedly, but I'll say it again. Not every chick is some good fair, person. @dora_da_destroyer @Booksnrain not every chick's definition of "relationship" is the same. For a lot of women, they have a very one-sided view of relationships. Yall don't see it because yall don't date women. Its that simple. Y'all probably get upset when men mansplain what women do.

Seem like all you doing is complaining about bum bytches. It's a lot of them out there. No doubt. These types usually expose themselves early on and you can easily bush without much money or time invested. shyt a 15 min conversation on the phone can even tell you a lot.

Same way it's a lot of bum nikkas out there which is why I struggle to understand all these complaints. Broads be dealing with so many bum nikkas out here that it's like a breath of fresh air for them if you even halfway decent nikka who knows what he's doing.

don't take much at all to attract if you can even halfway carry a conversation and you in decent shape.

 

[number21]

message!

women don't see every man as relationship worthy, just like yall don't see every woman as wifey material. a woman might give it up easily to a nikka not doing anything for her because all she wants from him is some consistent D - shocking!! don't matter if he's not doing anything for her because she couldn't give AF about what he thinks of her since she aint trying to date him just make your D/face available when she calls and KIM

Worthwhile men dont respect women who try to move like men.

Keep it up though.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

Worthwhile men dont respect women who try to move like men.

Keep it up though.

good thing i never moved like a man when dealing with a worthwhile man.

 

[JQ Legend]

Some of y'all got this weird ass obsession with what a broad has done with other dudes before you.

So long as she treating YOU the way YOU like why do you care what happened before you with another nikka?

If you’re the type of dude that is willing to put in work for weeks/months and spend money on a chick who let the next man smash first night by all means be my guest

Picture a man telling a woman he normally takes women on nice dates and has no problem spending money on a woman but he not taking her anywhere nor spending a dime and she go “it’s all good I don’t care what you did with others before me”



Funny shyt is I asked brehettes this and they were like

 

[Code]

Drake, Michael B Jordan, Bad Bunny or The Rock could wyd her so I'ma wyd her too

You get it

1st impressions are everything, you talk to her like a regular nikka you get put in the regular nikka box

 

[JQ Legend]

bruh is the typical dysfunctional, avoidant, pessimist with no positive experiences of love & committed relationships.

So first you assume breh hasn’t even been in a relationship

Then when he tells you he has you resort to shaming tactics and insulting him bout not ever being in a good relationship, yet another assumption btw

Despite it being a debate, I have yet to see him or anyone else insult you. If you say you’re happy in your current situation I won’t say you’re lying but I have a hard time imagining someone with a happy dating life speaking like you do. It’s like dudes who claim they stay in p*ssy and with fine women shaming dudes for not getting any. They more often than not are embellishing and just as miserable as the dudes they’re judging.

But carry on thinking you’re discussing this like a grown adult that’s “happily partnered”

 

[JQ Legend]

if lori harvey messaged you...u would drop everything for her

goes both way

So brehs not supposed to act like MBJ but supposed to treat average chicks like Lori Harvey?

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

So first you assume breh hasn’t even been in a relationship

Then when he tells you he has you resort to shaming tactics and insulting him bout not ever being in a good relationship, yet another assumption btw

Despite it being a debate, I have yet to see him or anyone else insult you. If you say you’re happy in your current situation I won’t say you’re lying but I have a hard time imagining someone with a happy dating life speaking like you do. It’s like dudes who claim they stay in p*ssy and with fine women shaming dudes for not getting any. They more often than not are embellishing and just as miserable as the dudes they’re judging.

But carry on thinking you’re discussing this like a grown adult that’s “happily partnered”

LMAO...he said he aint the relationship type, no one is worth it. all his answers are about the downside of relationships, those are usually avoidant and/or pessimistic people, that's not an insult, these are actual emotional attachment types and world outlooks - what does that have to do with my relationship & happiness? there are people who see no good in romantic relationships and i honestly think that's sad, i take the same stance with women who are on the all men aint shyt bandwagon, so miss me with the extra. i champion love and companionship

but keep projecting and trying to cape for this man who has had no problem replying to me himself

 

[the bossman]

If you’re the type of dude that is willing to put in work for weeks/months and spend money on a chick who let the next man smash first night by all means be my guest

Where in my post did I even write or imply that? Yall know these broads like to fukk too right? If the chemistry is there it won't take long and it don't require no lobster dinners. I don't know why yall have it in your mind that it's mandatory to spend hundreds of dollars on some chick you just getting to know. There's broke ass college students and bums fukkin and getting in relationships everyday. The only way you're gonna need to jump thru all these hoops or spend all this money to smash or make her your lady is if ol girl is not feeling you like that which you can easily tell after yall hung out once or twice.

 

[phcitywarrior]

Fellas, set your dating standards, protect your peace and stand on your principles. That is all

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

smh...you're doing the same thing, looking at it through a prism of sex.

no, no one who just wants to smash is going to want to do the extras when the other person who simply wanted to smash was able to do nothing and get it...no shyt.


someone who is trying to build a relationship with you is not focused on just sex, sex does not a relationship make and it doesn't sustain a relationship, a real connection does, so if the point is to build a real connection, you both do the work to establish that. and it doesn't require money to get to know someone

Men don't want women who got a bunch of side dudes. They aren't going to take her seriously.

That has nothing to do with sex, that's a character trait.

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

And no, it's not hard at all to figure out what time a woman is on and treat her accordingly. A lot of men aren't as dumb as women think they are. Women tell on themselves without even realizing it.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

Men don't want women who got a bunch of side dudes. They aren't going to take her seriously.

That has nothing to do with sex, that's a character trait.

one, how would you even know?

two, having one FWB doesn't = multiple side dudes

three, it's quite common for people to be dating multiple people until they meet someone they're really feeling and/or decide to be exclusive and you...

four, get rid of the others or FWB to focus your time/effort and body on the person you're pursuing seriously.


i can't speak to how everyone operates, but when i found someone i liked and wanted to focus on, the FWB situation got deaded. again, that's the point of a FWB - yall aint tied to one another, it's easy to dead the situation

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

fwb get the p*ssy cheap, you send flowers, take her on dates, wine and dine her and deal with all her emotions good luck out there brehs, I know which guy I want to be, its not the sending flowers to win her over while some nicca is blowing her back out.

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

one, how would you even know?

two, having one FWB doesn't = multiple side dudes

three, it's quite common for people to be dating multiple people until they meet someone they're really feeling and/or decide to be exclusive and you...

four, get rid of the others or FWB to focus your time/effort and body on the person you're pursuing seriously.


i can't speak to how everyone operates, but when i found someone i liked and wanted to focus on, the FWB situation got deaded. again, that's the point of a FWB - yall aint tied to one another, it's easy to dead the situation

To me it rarely works.. most women I've dealt with who said they are cool with that end up getting jealous when i am talkin to someone else or start tracking my moves, where I'm at, who I'm with.. etc..

It can cause as many headaches as an actual relationship..

Far as the "how would a man know i got a side dude" it always comes out one way or another, sometimes it be your own friends who tell on you, sometimes the way you answer a question..

It's not about sex. It's about whether a man feels you are the type of person he wants to take seriously. As I said, people will tell on themselves one way or another.