I put this in TSC cause i legitimately feel there are some good dudes in here. we fight and all but its all jokes...but when shyt gets real, theres more unity here than any where else on thecoli. some of the good advice given here should be proof of that. im going to let yall know how it went down since im here to make sure my mom is ok while she sleeps and really i find this helps with the stress right now.
I took some of the advice given and talked to my moms extensively while we waited for my dad to show up. My goal was to do this whole thing as peaceful as possible. screaming and physical violence wouldnt have helped anymore than just talking. I got her to calm down, made sure she was alright (alright as she was going to be) and told her how she needs to handle this.
When he got home, I let them talk it out on their own. They talked for a bit but then she lost it when he kept trying to deny everything, even when the evidence was right in his face. I had to break them up. Then he decided to get on his knees and begged for forgiveness....couldnt believe it. Be a Man! dont go out like this! She told him to pack his things, leave his phone (under her name), and the car (he paid it off but its under her name)....Maybe Im too soft, or because he was such a good father to me, i felt bad so i convinced her to let him keep those things, for now, just so he can start over a little easier.
Then my dad's phone rings....it was my aunt...My mom told him to put it on speaker. She told her to come over. oh man I didnt think she was going to do it but she did...i open the door for my aunt, she didnt say a word to me and she had such a guilty look on her face, like when a dog knows it did something wrong and puts its head down. She went to talk to my moms in private and my mom snapped....put hands on her and all i heard were the screams. Man, I jumped on my moms like a ufc ref to break them up. she was going for the throat! My mom told her to tell her husband the truth or she would (that solved my dilemma). She said she was going to.
after they left, i hugged my mom to console her and she fainted in my arms.......almost dropped her...set her down gently and....didnt know what to do next. gasping for air, i thought she was having a heart attack. she stopped me from calling 911, so i sat there next to her making sure she is breathing correctly...Shes alright now. I guess it was a panic attack.
I cant believe all of this...my dad and my aunt just ruined two families. and we were all very close. my aunt and uncle were almost second parents to me since they took care of me a lot when i was younger. and now shes talking about how shes probably going to lose the house because she cant afford it with one income....i might have to move back....damn.
shyt was inevitable in terms of the anger and betrayal. The first thing you need to do though is get to the basics. Ground her down emotionally, because people do weird shyt at the apex of their emotions because they don't know how to think. It's gonna take a long while to get over this, but at least this is the start.
