real rap the more experience I got the more I started to feel much of this theory shyt is useless
trying to figure out what the "perfect thing to say" is the most debilitating thing for your approach. you know what the best opener is? take a step forward. put yourself into the mix before you think of what to say. sometimes the right words just come to you, if not you can fall back on "hey how you doing". but every time I've tried to think of the best thing to say, she's usually gone by the time I figure it out.