This is why I’ve preached about this shyt for years. It will make or break people. A lot of this gender stuff/community stuff is smokescreen for crippling individual social skill deficits and social anxieties and personality disorders that people don’t want to confront. Unless we place an emphasis on socioemotional skills, it’s only gonna get worse. Learning “game” or manipulation tactics or becoming bitter and nasty, won’t cut it either b/c those tactics aren’t useful in sustaining healthy meaningful relationships.
But it’s difficult to troubleshoot because some people are so intractable and stubborn or downright bitter that they lock themselves in these cages of loneliness and anxiety from the inside. Whenever people come to me for relationship advice or to gripe about the opposite sex, my first question to them is about the quality of their non-romantic relationships. 9 times outta 10, those relationships or friendships or social circles are non-existent or spotty. People don’t make the connection that the same issues that keep them from maintaining deep connections with peers, also negatively impact other relationships.
It’s sad because it could be an easy fix if people were receptive to making little tweeks to their personalities and socializing more. But a lot of people double down on the bitterness and/or rage at the machine or rely on blaming others or the world or societal problems to explain away their issues instead of confronting them.
The average person has to learn how to become decent 1st
Keyword decent everyone (that includes me) is shytty in their own way but the average person is PROACTIVELY shytty
It's not just social deficits, it's the emergence (really re-representation of what has always been for a while) of demon time culture and sociopath/psychopath behavior worship
Trust there are ALOT of these people out there that incomplete studies suggest by simply interacting with the average person and their PROACTIVE system of looking for strength or weakness in others
An introvert isn't necessarily a socially inept person. It's someone who realizes time is value and it should only be spent with people who are worth their time. When the average person doesn't understand why more and more kids are being bullied to suicide, are selfish, knowingly manipulative when they know better, and someone is smart and aware enough to know what everyone else is doing, you realize socialization must have value rather than socialization for the sake of socialization. Otherwise you get crabs in barrel and people using you because they are lonely, not because they value you as a friend, equaling a waste of time and people only get older and have less time to waste
Most people socialize because they're alone, not because they give a fukk about anyone else but themselves. People only have social skills to find people to use and find their mate. Once they have family and kids there circle becomes very small and everyone else realize friends are people we use to have fun with, associates or pawns.
COVID happens and people sat down and thought to themselves how many of the people currently in their lives do they currently need outside of
1) not feeling lonely
2) feel like they have a life(what does it mean to have a life? Subjective)
?
Then they get reminded of all the stupid, toxic, crab in the barrel, or fake people they hang out with to not feel lonely
COVID did a number on the world psyche by shifting people's perspectives of how other people are and it's a bunch of "What is your value?" That's it.
Being lonely isn't a strong enough reason to be around people you don't need meaning still make you feel alone. So people became rational and realized if they are still going to be alone around others might as well maximize the times when they are alone, and hang around others if they have the right value, not because they're LONELY
Men tend to become loners as they get older for a reason, because they realize they don't need to be around people who don't need them, while women tend to be sociable just to be sociable because they don't like to feel alone. Especially if it is the typical talk shyt behind people's back or competition for the opposite sex eventually someone wants to lay down, smoke weed, and play their ps5 all day because why should they care about people all day? Feeling alone is not a good enough reason to waste time with people who will still make you be alone around them for many people and COVID was the catalyst for this mindset to spread on a widescale IMO. People are too shytty on a widescale to waste too much time with them
If the person is not helping that person to make money or feel good inside, they are useless
Online communities really did more harm than good..
I bet even GMB is bound to settle down in the early 50s.
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