“Older Single Men Die Alone” says OG on YT

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You missed the subjective point. People do what's best for them. No one cares about what anyone else is doing beyond self esteem stepping. Everyone is a big kid to me THEY ARE STILL IN MIDDLE/HIGH SCHOOL. Look at me I have this therefore care what I think. I don't care unless I need to care. People CARE about what people think and the superficial value they place on them TOO MUCH. NO ONE is that important. That's what COVID showed and made people who are paying attention. I already knew this. People are just catching up. Meaning people are starting to value themselves and others beyond subjective things like social skills or subjective narcissistic things like popularity and needing to be around people. We only need to be around we people WE NEED as social beings. You only need 1 . 1 friends, 1 lover, 1 good family member. Some people are orphans some people are by themselves. They have 0 family and therefore 0 real friends because a friend is subjective. Family is a constant subjective. They still have 1 though. The difference is mindset amongst people, and MANY people have WEAK mindsets that's why while most people can't even rely on themselves and BE ALONE WHEN NEEDED. That's counter-intuitive to many. That's the first point. I know how to think, which my determines MY happiness, not what you or others think. I'm hope more people can do that to have self-defined happiness and think more abstractly, learning how to think again=reasoning. Thanks to public schools not even smart people know what to think even means that's why most people hate math, I don't. You know very well how self centered and overly people obese people are. That's a problem leading to self caused misery not poor social skills or values that are contextual. PEOPLE THEY ARE FOLOWERS. I'm not. That's the point. Too many people don't have skills beyond going to work and talking shyt about people behind their backs. THAT'S BORING and boring to be around personality wise to me. Who am I to say that maybe I'm boring? I don't care because I'm not a follower what is a thought beyond the effect I choose for it to have? The less you care and the more you focus on WHAT YOUR INTUITON wants and not what your family, people, society(ran by psychopaths), and religions TELL YOU WHAT TO THINK, you HAPPIER you WILL be. Too many people are unhappy because they don't know how to be alone when needed requiring thinking for themselves, even involving the smartest people.
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My grandad was the coolest character I ever met. Lived a bachelor life until he keeled over and had no regrets about it at all. Never screwed over anyone, kept his social skills up and his health together. I know a lot of miserable old cans still kicking around though with an ungrateful ball and chain of a wife and unappreciative kids.

As I got older I noticed everything is about scaring or intimidating men into conforming to the status quo of burning themselves out at the service of other people. It’s laughable.

It’s sadder to see men subscribing to the shaming tactics.

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I agree with you; however, you can look at the attitude of most fellas here. Most of them think they going to be in their 20s and 30a forever and HOH and GMB for life.

Those same guys are going to look up one day and be the old kneegrow in the room of a bunch of young kneegrows and realize their priorities are beginning to change. That’s the same reason you don’t see to many gangstas over 40 years old.

People get older and their priorities do a 180; however, you go tell some 25 year old that and they’ll probably laugh at you. I tell my little students here all the time, I was you 25 years ago and they laugh at me. I then simply tell them to keep living and you’ll see.
why should being married be a priority for men? a lot of people who are alone been alone since they were young and are ok with it. not everybody depends on other people to be happy like yourself.
and no its not the same reason you don't see too many gangstas over 40. they die or end up in jail before 40. you fukkin idiot.
 

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What kind of flabby ass nikkas you around?:mjlol:
A man who is finished by 30 physically was always going to be finished because they never took care of themselves
A man's prime starts at 25 leading into their 30s-40s+ DEPENDING on the man
If a man is DONE by their 30s it's because of genetics they can't control or not taking caring care of themselves

Most people dont take care of themselves. Thats why covid taking folks out left and right. Folks got diabetes eat fast food all day and have and all sorts of health problems. 90% of the coli is flabby and sick. The average American is out of shape and overweight. That's a fact. Majority of people are indeed washed by 40. In other countries where they eat healthier and have better diets people look better older.

I went to school with folks that were balding in college. Most dudes don't age well. Drinking, smoking etc. I'm blessed with good genetics but I see plenty of flabby folks all around.
 
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Most people dont take care of themselves. Thats why covid taking folks out left and right. Folks got diabetes eat fast food all day and have and all sorts of health problems. 90% of the coli is flabby and sick. The average American is out of shape and overweight. That's a fact. Majority of people are indeed washed by 40. In other countries where they eat healthier and have better diets people look better older.

I went to school with folks that were balding in college. Most dudes don't age well. Drinking, smoking etc. I'm blessed with good genetics but I see plenty of flabby folks all around.
But your statements involve INDIVIDUAL choice. You were making it sound like it is destiny for most men. Only if they LET it.
 

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This is why I’ve preached about this shyt for years. It will make or break people. A lot of this gender stuff/community stuff is smokescreen for crippling individual social skill deficits and social anxieties and personality disorders that people don’t want to confront. Unless we place an emphasis on socioemotional skills, it’s only gonna get worse. Learning “game” or manipulation tactics or becoming bitter and nasty, won’t cut it either b/c those tactics aren’t useful in sustaining healthy meaningful relationships.

But it’s difficult to troubleshoot because some people are so intractable and stubborn or downright bitter that they lock themselves in these cages of loneliness and anxiety from the inside. Whenever people come to me for relationship advice or to gripe about the opposite sex, my first question to them is about the quality of their non-romantic relationships. 9 times outta 10, those relationships or friendships or social circles are non-existent or spotty. People don’t make the connection that the same issues that keep them from maintaining deep connections with peers, also negatively impact other relationships.

It’s sad because it could be an easy fix if people were receptive to making little tweeks to their personalities and socializing more. But a lot of people double down on the bitterness and/or rage at the machine or rely on blaming others or the world or societal problems to explain away their issues instead of confronting them.
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The thing is that men don’t have a biological clock. You’re not old until you’re legit old as a man. If you take care of yourself and have good genetics, you’ll stay young. Look at Nas and AZ, they still look 30 even though they both pushing 50. I know brehs who didn’t have their first kid until they were in they early 50’s. Hella nikkas grandfathers are like 20 years older than they grandmothers. :leon: Too still look young but have gotten all of that fuccboi recklessness and naivety out of your system is a blessing. :win:
 

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The thing is that men don’t have a biological clock. You’re not old until you’re legit old as a man. If you take care of yourself and have good genetics, you’ll stay young. Look at Nas and AZ, they still look 30 even though they both pushing 50. I know brehs who didn’t have their first kid until they were in they early 50’s. Hella nikkas grandfathers are like 20 years older than they grandmothers. :leon: Too still look young but have gotten all of that fuccboi recklessness and naivety out of your system is a blessing. :win:

I know a old jamaican dude thats like this. Early 60s. Breh stay fit and active. He basically finds a wife, has kids, and once the kid/s are out the house the wife will usually split and he'll do it all again. He's done this two times already, just got himself an asian wife from the Philippines or one of those SE Asian islands. If they have kids (idk how old she is but prolly still young) he probably won't see them grown but he probably won't be dying alone lol. Dudes a hustler, can't sit still unless its past 5, work done and he got his rum in hand.
 

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The thing is that men don’t have a biological clock. You’re not old until you’re legit old as a man. If you take care of yourself and have good genetics, you’ll stay young. Look at Nas and AZ, they still look 30 even though they both pushing 50. I know brehs who didn’t have their first kid until they were in they early 50’s. Hella nikkas grandfathers are like 20 years older than they grandmothers. :leon: Too still look young but have gotten all of that fuccboi recklessness and naivety out of your system is a blessing. :win:

I knew a breh that was a legit Pimp, smashing all kinds of dimepiece broads, didn't have his first kid until the age of 47. Everyone around him was :dwillhuh: @ having kids so late.
 
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