On: Dealing with someone who is religious...

[get these nets]

No, really religious women will come at you the same way even if you met in person, eventually. For them, a church going man is a moral man (despite whatever past experiences they had that illustrate that isn’t some definite thing). On those occasions you really can only keep it real. Some women will express their own “crisis of faith,” others will try to understand or persuade you, and some will shun you. Welcome to the club, OP.

It's only right that a person pairs up with someone who shares their values and principles, if not all then most. Woman who is a member of a church would see a man who is a member of a congregation as at least sharing the same religious values.

My point about the dating site is that the woman is obviously seeking somebody out, and will weed out some guys right away. A religious woman that you meet somewhere face to face has the time to get to know what kind of person you are and what values you hold during the course of the friendship/courtship.

 

[Arcavian]

You handled it like it should have been handled

 

[Commish]

Good people seek the best in themselves and in others. Don't let differences break you if you two like each other, go ahead.

Otherwise, it might be a bigger price tag than what outcomes in profit. True Life!

See my point now? Choices. To Be Made!

Me and ol girl are done. We went our separate ways. She was unwilling to be flexible with her beliefs and practices, so there is nothing I can do...

It's all good though! I hope she finds a stand up Christian man!

 

[BeeCityRoller]

Nope, I don't want to be the one to compromise their morals, even if it's just a front. There are plenty of other women out here I can find that don't weight so heavily on religion. Currently there's one at my job, we've both peeped each other since my department moved into the same building earlier this year. She stopped by my desk a week ago asking some stupid question on purpose knowing she was looking delicious But working in the same building is strike one and me knowing shes heavy on the religious tip and I'm not is probably strike two and three.

 

[Commish]

I’d hang around. She isn’t as “religious” as she claims to be, just from the story. I’ll put money up that you could fukk

Apparently, she is that religious because she told me that she can't fukk with me and I am the type of cat that ain't gonna press a woman to fukk with me if she don't want to fukk with me.

I made this thread because my semi old ass never had a woman charge me for not sharing a religious belief. Most women I dealt with wasn't into religion too tuff.

It's all good! She seemed like a solid brehette though..

 

[Commish]

Props to her for her honesty, respecting respect others' time is a must

Yeah, I felt good about it because she kept it 100! She was very respectful and was probably the realest of all the women I spoke to on that site.

In my experience, most women be bullshyttin and playing head games, even the ones in their 40s and beyond. So, for her to state her intentions out the gate has to be respected.

If she was a lil more flexible with her beliefs, then I would have definitely fukked with her.

I wish her well...

 

[MajesticLion]

Yeah, I felt good about it because she kept it 100! She was very respectful and was probably the realest of all the women I spoke to on that site.

In my experience, most women be bullshyttin and playing head games, even the ones in their 40s and beyond. So, for her to state her intentions out the gate has to be respected.

If she was a lil more flexible with her beliefs, then I would have definitely fukked with her.

I wish her well...

I don't agree with it but I can see the reasoning. She's trying to use faith as a filter to minimize comparability issues. Truth is, all you end up doing there is is minimizing your pool of options to choose from, because those people in those congregations have the same issues as everybody else. If anything because of the repression and self denial it's probably worse.

You rolls the dice and you takes your chances.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

You can't be mad at her for being consistent in her beliefs and honest with you.

When you're looking to build a sustainable relationship, you want as few dissimilarities as possible.

Then, there's that verse about being 'evenly yoked' which didn't make sense until I got married, myself.

That shyt is truer than a mufukka......​

 

[Rozay Oro]

Religion or belief in God or Jesus has never been brought up when it came to dating. I'll use that word loosely.

If game weak or pipe game weak.
You are forgotten lol.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

Well, at least she was flexible with you. You were given a choice to boot and she got back with you.

well it wasnt no choice in the beginning because i for damn sure wasnt bout to change my way of life for nobody.
When we did get together last year, I brought up the fact that she said she aint wanna mess wit me unless I made one of those changes and she told me she had matured and that was selfish of her to think that way.

I think thats kinda shallow if these so-called christians want a dude to be all super holy or else they not gone deal with him. Most likely the girl herself not really a devout christian.

 

[Commish]

well it wasnt no choice in the beginning because i for damn sure wasnt bout to change my way of life for nobody.
When we did get together last year, I brought up the fact that she said she aint wanna mess wit me unless I made one of those changes and she told me she had matured and that was selfish of her to think that way.

I think thats kinda shallow if these so-called christians want a dude to be all super holy or else they not gone deal with him. Most likely the girl herself not really a devout christian.

At the end if the day, seems like your lady made concessions and owned the fact that she was selfish. Obviously, she wanted to fukk with you and she did.

In my situation, I don't know the woman. We had a very brief interaction and she said that she didn't want to continue with the getting to know a person process.

There is other women out there! Just gonna do me and go from there...

 

[ThrobbingHood]

You wouldn't believe me if I told you how many religious/spiritual women this atheist dikk has smashed.

You'll learn one day that principles/morals go out the window when a woman's logic overrides them all.

The crazy thing is... the Sunday after fornicating.. they try and get me to come to church with them.

 

[Commish]

I don't agree with it but I can see the reasoning. She's trying to use faith as a filter to minimize comparability issues. Truth is, all you end up doing there is is minimizing your pool of options to choose from, because those people in those congregations have the same issues as everybody else. If anything because of the repression and self denial it's probably worse.

You rolls the dice and you takes your chances.

True, but she is 44 years old, so her mind was already made up! If she wanna minimize her dating options, then that is on her! I was willing to fukk with her, but she felt different..

Just know that this was not on me! I will continue to do me and run my own program. A woman who fukks with me will do so regardless of my spiritual path...

 

[Commish]

You wouldn't believe me if I told you how many religious/spiritual women this atheist dikk has smashed.

You'll learn one day that principles/morals go out the window when a woman's logic overrides them all.

I believe you! But, the women you dealt with wanted to fukk with you despite what they told you. In my case, I wasn't given the opportunity nor was I going to try and convince someone to fukk with me! The latter reaks of desperation, IMO..

 

[ThrobbingHood]

I believe you! But, the women you dealt with wanted to fukk with you despite what they told you. In my case, I wasn't given the opportunity nor was I going to try and convince someone to fukk with me! The latter reaks of desperation, IMO..

Fair enough.

My point being is that alot of these religious women do not practice what they preach AT ALL.

When I used to be heavy on those dating sites... the amount of times on a woman's profile I saw a bible verse juxtaposed with pictures of her titties and ass hanging out made me

These jesus freaks fear god but not hypothermia when they barely have piece of string covering their modesty on a cold Saturday night at the club.

Yeah they'll tell you one thing about how they want a god fearing man... It just takes the right man they're feeling to abdicate all that rigamarole.