Just a reality of the housing market and economy. A lot of places out here in So-Cal you're not getting a decent house below 750,000. Even at that price you probably need to make 250K to keep it at 20% of take home. For those who got it like that, more power to them
I get what your saying. I actually moved from NJ to PA because I refuse to pay the ridiculous taxes on a home. What I paid for my house with alot of land and peaceful area would be in the middle of the hood in Newark. Obviously I traded that for the city life which is a big change but I've gotten use to it. It's unfortunate but if your getting priced out of where you're at you are going to have to make the shift. I'm close enough to NJ where I just commute to see family and friends. I like that I have the peace of mind knowing my house will be paid off well before I retire so it's a risk worth taking. In fact I've seen the shift taking place while being here for 5 years. More and more people from NJ and NY left to come over here. With that comes more diversity, and businesses. Home/land ownership matters stop wasting time and money staying in a neighborhood that priced you out.

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