PANIC Time: If you're around 30 (flabby and sick) and still single.

[MeachTheMonster]

i guess you don't know that many people that have gone through a divorce. the point is you face all of that if you get married and end up with a divorce and there's really not a damn thing you can do about it.

i know people who when the marriage began to fail the wife ran up credit cards and they got a divorce and they came out and they got fukked on those bills.

i know people who were married and ordered to give the wife the house and they couldn't get their name removed from the mortgage cause the lender wouldn't approve the wife on her credit alone so the husband had to leave his name on a house he didn't even live in that ended up in foreclosure.

damn near everybody gets their assets divided up in a divorce. the statistics don't matter in the face of every marriage being both unique and a crap shoot. welcome to the world of no fault divorce where if a woman gets bored or upset she can legally fukk you over in a divorce and there's not a damn thing you can do about it.

in a marriage you as the man have to do what the wife says and if you don't she can divorce you and take half of all the shyt you have and fukk up your credit cause when you're married that shyt is community property.

you can't guarantee a marriage will work because you can't control the other person and as a man if it fails you'll likely lose while she gains. so is the juice worth that squeeze?

All of the divorces you claim to know about are the worst case scenario. Ask yourself do you know these things to be a fact or is this what you were told by men who were upset at what happened. In any story the person telling the story will paint themselves as a perfect person that got taken advantage of.

As for the boldded, it's just not true. If a wife decides to leave a husband because she just doesn't like him anymore or she found someone else than she is awarded NOTHING. the person that files for divorce has to prove it is warranted or they forfeit alimony rights. And as a man there is plenty you can do to prevent your divorce from fukking your life up. People who end up fukked after a divorce were making bad decisions before the divorce. You seem to think women just ride off into the sunset with their husbands money while the husband is just fukked. Fact is both parties are usually fukked, if the mans credit is fukked the woman's is to. Getting the house and the car means nothing if you can't maintain it. The only divorce that I know about, the woman got the kids, the house and the car, but her job couldn't support them so within a year the house and car were gone.

Take a look at all the women that end up fukked after marriage. This idea that women are improving their life by divorce is some on tv millionaire shyt, the average divorce is equally bad for all parties involved.

 

[Charmeleon]

Its only panic time for women is this situation...

 

[Air Nikes N Hats]

-Im 32

-College graduate, working on my masters, purchased my first home 5 years ago.

-Thoroughly enjoying my independence, no one to answer too.

-Most women in my age group still have a high school perspective, are damaged goods, have alterior motives, etc.

-I said this in another thread......We age gracefully, women just age.

-I am not against marriage, but based on my own experiences I don't see it anywhere in my near future. Fact is even as much as I might enjoy someones company, I have grown bored of others quickly. Most of my so called relationships have never lasted longer then 4-6 months.

-Throughout my late teens/early 20s....I abused my body to no ends (alcohol, weed, eating junk). Once I got closer to 30, started taking care of myself for health reasons....being in better shape and looking better then I did before was a nice by-product of the work I was putting in.

 

[homiedontplaydat]

your folks are from a different era the women in this era aren't like the women of your mother's. a 26 year marriage could work back then but these days you're lucky not to be a starter husband if you get married young.

your moms didn't grow up with facebook, twitter, instagram, text messages, cell phones, and instant access to thousands of people socially at the tip of her fingers. you hit a rough patch and its 1000s of dudes in your woman's ear trying to take her.

don't compare those marriages from the days where you worked through problems instead of instantly connecting with somebody else and cheating behind your spouses back with them none-the-wiser.

you think women back then had the luxury of dating the kinda fukked up nikkas they date these days? these days whoever you wife was probably somebody else's jump off doing all types of wild shyt and only ready to get married after they're used up by nikkas.

No my mother didnt grow up with facebook or twitter........but neither did i or my wife. Im 30, shes 26, we were already grown when that shyt took off. Regardless i got to grow up in a 2 parent household and it makes me proud that my kids will do the same. Im not saying it works for everyone but marriage is not dead. I believe that two MATURE ppl who are READY can still come together to form a lasting union. Im not saying its impossible for my marriage to fail, im not a perfect human being, but i BELIEVE in my marriage and everything that it stands for.

nikkas these days is too busy trying to jetset amd fukk as many pawgs as they can...i just want lasting financial security, for my kids to grow up happy in a stable home, and to be able to sit back and enjoy life with my queen once we enter our twilight.

 

[Air Nikes N Hats]

All of the divorces you claim to know about are the worst case scenario. Ask yourself do you know these things to be a fact or is this what you were told by men who were upset at what happened. In any story the person telling the story will paint themselves as a perfect person that got taken advantage of.

As for the boldded, it's just not true. If a wife decides to leave a husband because she just doesn't like him anymore or she found someone else than she is awarded NOTHING. the person that files for divorce has to prove it is warranted or they forfeit alimony rights. And as a man there is plenty you can do to prevent your divorce from fukking your life up. People who end up fukked after a divorce were making bad decisions before the divorce. You seem to think women just ride off into the sunset with their husbands money while the husband is just fukked. Fact is both parties are usually fukked, if the mans credit is fukked the woman's is to. Getting the house and the car means nothing if you can't maintain it. The only divorce that I know about, the woman got the kids, the house and the car, but her job couldn't support them so within a year the house and car were gone.

Take a look at all the women that end up fukked after marriage. This idea that women are improving their life by divorce is some on tv millionaire shyt, the average divorce is equally bad for all parties involved.

Good points....plus time married is huge. One of my dudes is recently divorced. Parents left him a house in his name, he had money banked (did a lot of tours overseas while in the Marines).....he was married only 2 years, and his wife got nothing.

 

[kermit da hustla]

the threadstarter lives in a world.

 

[MikelArteta]

All of the divorces you claim to know about are the worst case scenario. Ask yourself do you know these things to be a fact or is this what you were told by men who were upset at what happened. In any story the person telling the story will paint themselves as a perfect person that got taken advantage of.

As for the boldded, it's just not true. If a wife decides to leave a husband because she just doesn't like him anymore or she found someone else than she is awarded NOTHING. the person that files for divorce has to prove it is warranted or they forfeit alimony rights. And as a man there is plenty you can do to prevent your divorce from fukking your life up. People who end up fukked after a divorce were making bad decisions before the divorce. You seem to think women just ride off into the sunset with their husbands money while the husband is just fukked. Fact is both parties are usually fukked, if the mans credit is fukked the woman's is to. Getting the house and the car means nothing if you can't maintain it. The only divorce that I know about, the woman got the kids, the house and the car, but her job couldn't support them so within a year the house and car were gone.

Take a look at all the women that end up fukked after marriage. This idea that women are improving their life by divorce is some on tv millionaire shyt, the average divorce is equally bad for all parties involved.

i work in the legal system, im in family court a few time sweek, i could easily post link to judgments in here where men are ruined daily. Secondly divorces are the norm, there are more divorces than successful marriages, and a majority of folks are being cheated on but stay for the kids or because they "love her", not to mention domestic abuse, sexless marriages, nagging wives, what you are painting is a picture of a fantasy, you said your household income is 250k you are not the regular ol joe.

YOU ARE WRONG, again take it from someone who works in the legal system, a wife can cheat on her husband, file for a no fault divorce and be awarded alimony child support and the martrimonial home.

people who end up f'ed after a divorce are people who get married

the average divorce the women wins 95% of the time, she gets the kids she gets child support, government handouts for being a single parent household, alimony, and hte matrimonial home


again you want to go toe for toe with someone who sees this daily?

 

[MikelArteta]

Good points....plus time married is huge. One of my dudes is recently divorced. Parents left him a house in his name, he had money banked (did a lot of tours overseas while in the Marines).....he was married only 2 years, and his wife got nothing.

1. every state is different

2. every lawyer is different, you didn't mention if your dude went through the court or a mediator.

3. the house left in his name is his because technically the house is owned by by their estate. And that is distributed to their heirs which is your dude, and Unless the parents left an interest in the house to his ex wife its untouchable by her.

4. his wife got nothing, again you didnt mention if she didnt ask for anything, a small percentage of women leave amicably with what they brought in a small percentage

 

[MikelArteta]

No my mother didnt grow up with facebook or twitter........but neither did i or my wife. Im 30, shes 26, we were already grown when that shyt took off. Regardless i got to grow up in a 2 parent household and it makes me proud that my kids will do the same. Im not saying it works for everyone but marriage is not dead. I believe that two MATURE ppl who are READY can still come together to form a lasting union. Im not saying its impossible for my marriage to fail, im not a perfect human being, but i BELIEVE in my marriage and everything that it stands for.

nikkas these days is too busy trying to jetset amd fukk as many pawgs as they can...i just want lasting financial security, for my kids to grow up happy in a stable home, and to be able to sit back and enjoy life with my queen once we enter our twilight.

the first marriage on average lasts 7 years, its all butterflies and daisies now but come back to me in a few years.

marriage is dead, it has zero benefits to men only to women offering them security and children

 

[MeachTheMonster]

i work in the legal system, im in family court a few time sweek, i could easily post link to judgments in here where men are ruined daily. Secondly divorces are the norm, there are more divorces than successful marriages, and a majority of folks are being cheated on but stay for the kids or because they "love her", not to mention domestic abuse, sexless marriages, nagging wives, what you are painting is a picture of a fantasy, you said your household income is 250k you are not the regular ol joe.

YOU ARE WRONG, again take it from someone who works in the legal system, a wife can cheat on her husband, file for a no fault divorce and be awarded alimony child support and the martrimonial home.

people who end up f'ed after a divorce are people who get married

the average divorce the women wins 95% of the time, she gets the kids she gets child support, government handouts for being a single parent household, alimony, and hte matrimonial home


again you want to go toe for toe with someone who sees this daily?

Just to correct something. I said by the time I'm 35 we should be making that much. Now not so much.

Anyway you said you have links. Post em

I can already tell your views are skewed. You work in family court, successful marriages don't end up in family court, hell even most civil mature divorces end without going to court.

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

I've always looked a lot younger than I am. That comes in handy when you start to get a lil older. Most women looking to settle down by the time they 24 anyway so you'll never really have a problem finding a younger girl.

 

[MikelArteta]

Just to correct something. I said by the time I'm 35 we should be making that much. Now not so much.

Anyway you said you have links. Post em

I can already tell your views are skewed. You work in family court, successful marriages don't end up in family court, hell even most civil mature divorces end without going to court.

let me ask you something if in a few years your life gets the 7 year itch , starts hiding her phone, going out more, suddenly drops the bomb on you that she longer wants to stay in this marriage what you going to do?

its amazing that the divorce rate is so high lets just cap it at 50% ill be generous tonight. So ask yourself this: would you board a plane that had a 50% chance of crashing? I sure wouldn't. Marriage is a huge risk, no matter how you look at it. you never know when your wife can drop them thangs on you. Statistics show that in two-thirds of all American divorces, it's the women who file for divorce, And we all know that for the most part women follow the rule of hypergamy and marry up, so please spare us the how women make it out bad in divorce


ill post in a few

and my opinion isn't skewed i come with facts, you come with "but my marriage is great and bla bla "

 

[MikelArteta]

here are some

CanLII - 2012 ONSC 1493 (CanLII)

Dr. Bodenstein shall pay Ms. Bodenstein $4,000 per month in temporary spousal support, commencing March 1, 2012, until the home transfer closes. Thereafter, commencing the first day of the month immediately following the closing of the home transfer, Dr. Bodenstein shall pay Ms. Bodenstein $8,500 per month in temporary spousal support.

actually ima be nice here

CanLII - Ontario

366 cases a small smaple of the daily screwjob of men ponying up money month after month



look at this muckery

Peter Doddington brings a motion to change the final order of Clarke, J. made April 20, 2005 in respect of child support and spousal support. That order required Mr. Doddington to pay child support of $1,448 and s.7 expenses fixed at $512 monthly for Ben James Edwin Doddington born November 19, 1990 and Bill Peter Robert Doddington born November 26, 1992 and and spousal support of $2,500 monthly commencing May 15, 2005. It also required Mr. Doddington to pay arrears of support fixed at $17,884 at $400 monthly until paid.

Mr. Doddington takes the position that Mrs. Doddington has been supported financially by her current spouse for the past six years and that he has overpaid spousal support. He asks that he be credited for the overpayment. Mr. Doddington also takes the position that child support for Ben should have ended in June 2009 when Ben graduated from highschool and for Bill should have ended in January 2011 when Bill graduated from highschool.

Peter Doddington’s arrears of support are fixed as of today at $74,630.40. A support deduction order will issue.

 

[AquaCityBoy]

Im 33, Single, Own Place, Drive a Jag , and Make more money that most you muthafukas


Now you tell me who Won?

Not you with these

 

[JT-Money]

the first marriage on average lasts 7 years, its all butterflies and daisies now but come back to me in a few years.

marriage is dead, it has zero benefits to men only to women offering them security and children

What's the marriage rate for blacks compared to other races? If only 30% of black women get married how long do they usually stay married?