Not ALL women are like this...
The SMART ones understand what it is from jump...the "thugs" are just for play/show, but you get yo ish together while she's still young (20s) and find a "good" man. The ones that don't learn or understand how that works are the ones yall talking about...mid to late 30s talking about "there's no good men out here" Nah baby, there are PLENTY of them, you just want a Tupac in a business suit, and THAT is NOT how real life truly works...
I understand to a degree, because we dudes want that SUPER bad dime that's phat and all the cats flocking over, but SOME of us understand that a lot of times (not all) those particular women are usually NOT wife material. So we settle (only word I could think of, but not in the sense of "settling") for someone who may not be as bad/phat for a woman who can actually, cook, hold a house/job down, etc...basically a woman WORTH wifing.
Pepa is just one of many, probably came up rough with no guidance....That's what a TWO PARENT household will teach you (not always, and not excluding single parent households) a lot of times...what's "REAL" and what's bullcrap (a "thug" who's husband material lol). I generalized a bit, but you get the picture. Some women chase dreams and fantasies, while a lot of other women realize what is REAL and go for or let the REAL man pursue/have her...