Please Stop Having Children By My Future Husband

[NobleDrewAli]

A woman telling the truth about this matter is refreshing. We always hear how "men need to stop having babies", "men need to strap up", "if you don't want kids, then wear a condom" which I agree with the last two. But we always leave the woman's role out like she has no control over what goes in her box and act like these dudes just raped her and let off all up in them then dipped and she had no say in the matter. Stop it.

Like ole girl said it's 2014, with the many options women have to NOT get pregnant, those women who really don't want kids...guess what....they don't get pregnant! A lot of these women (single mothers in particular) have these "keep-a-nikka babies" cause they know that they don't bring enough to the table for a man to actually commit to them, so they decide (with their azz-backward logic) to continue with a pregnancy to keep said man in their life.**Quick tip: if a man doesn't want to commit to you personally, why would you think he would commit to you AND another human being (the baby)? Then once she realizes that was a dumb idea and the man moves on, she does everything in her power (stalking, using the kid as a bargaining tool, child support, etc.) To make this guys life a living hell all because he didn't want to partake in her fantasy world that only she planned without consulting him. Watch out for these women, brehs. There are plenty of them out there like this.

 

[Colicat]

nope

1. any emotional baggage one has can be healed with therapy or time. LIke I said I would never date a girl who was raped or molested UNLESS she went through therapy, children will always be there unless shes a psycho and andrea yates them.

2. there is always ways to lose weight, there is something called gastric bypass surgery, plus owrking out. I can attain a muscular build if I hit the gym I just don't care.

I know you old and its just ray ray with 3 b*stards around but there is a nikka out there childless just wait

.... ........wait for what? What am I waiting on exactly?
. waiting for prince charming? nawl.... Not happening...

 

[MikelArteta]

.... ........wait for what? What am I waiting on exactly?
. waiting for prince charming? nawl.... Not happening...

how old are you?

 

[mamba]

A woman telling the truth about this matter is refreshing. We always hear how "men need to stop having babies", "men need to strap up", "if you don't want kids, then wear a condom" which I agree with the last two. But we always leave the woman's role out like she has no control over what goes in her box and act like these dudes just raped her and let off all up in them then dipped and she had no say in the matter. Stop it.

Like ole girl said it's 2014, with the many options women have to NOT get pregnant, those women who really don't want kids...guess what....they don't get pregnant! A lot of these women (single mothers in particular) have these "keep-a-nikka babies" cause they know that they don't bring enough to the table for a man to actually commit to them, so they decide (with their azz-backward logic) to continue with a pregnancy to keep said man in their life.**Quick tip: if a man doesn't want to commit to you personally, why would you think he would commit to you AND another human being (the baby)? Then once she realizes that was a dumb idea and the man moves on, she does everything in her power (stalking, using the kid as a bargaining tool, child support, etc.) To make this guys life a living hell all because he didn't want to partake in her fantasy world that only she planned without consulting him. Watch out for these women, brehs. There are plenty of them out there like this.

Breh, exactly.

Chicks acting surprised when a nikka doesn't want a role in the fantasy world she's crafted WITHOUT consulting him.

: I thought we were going to be a family.

 

[mamba]

A woman telling the truth about this matter is refreshing.

As human beings, we're fundamentally selfish creatures.

When a man enters a relationship with a woman, and vice versa, both parties want the other's undivided attention. No one wants to compete with a kid, baby mama/daddy, extended family, etc.

 

[Colicat]

how old are you?

... I already told you how old I was...

 

[MikelArteta]

... I already told you how old I was...

tell me again

 

[AquaCityBoy]

So The Coli shyts on single mothers relentlessly, but can't understand why women would do the same to single fathers.

Interesting.

 

[mamba]

Oops -- husband forgot to disclose vasectomy

DEAR AMY: Three years ago when I started dating my husband, I asked him about kids and he said, "I could never have kids." Then I asked about what would happen if I got pregnant, and he said we would raise the child together.

At the time having kids was not a priority for me, so I brushed it aside.

The problem is that once we got married (five months ago), I realized that having a child is a big priority for me and that I was running out of time.

I knew it was wrong, but I would accidentally-on-purpose skip days of my birth control, eventually ceasing to take the pills at all. I knew that if we had a child, my husband would grow to love it.

The problem was that, after months of this, I never conceived. A few weeks ago, I finally decided to broach the topic again with my husband.

I discovered that he had a vasectomy a year before we met!

He swears that he has mentioned it before, but I know he hasn't. I feel sick knowing that he kept something like this from me. I also feel trapped in my marriage knowing that it will always be just the two of us.

Should I get out while I can and find a husband who wants a child, or will I outgrow this need? -- Desperately Seeking a Child

DEAR SEEKING: When your husband stated "I could never have kids," it sounds like he seems to think this is the same thing as saying, "I had a vasectomy."

It is not.

If he had told you outright that he'd had a vasectomy, this is not the sort of statement you would likely forget; his assertion that he disclosed this doesn't ring true.

So far your marriage is built on the flimsiest foundation, with both of you behaving dishonestly about a matter that will dictate the course of the rest of your lives.

You will not likely "outgrow" your desire to have children -- in fact, this impulse could grow stronger as time goes by.

You two desperately need to strip away the obfuscation and start telling the truth. Unvarnish it. Why did he have a vasectomy in the first place? Is he willing to have children now? Would he be willing to have his vasectomy reversed or adopt a child with you? Give yourself a reasonable timeline.

A counselor could help to mediate this conversation; total honesty and clarity about this will help both of you make a decision about the future of your marriage.

http://www.torontosun.com/2011/11/28/oops----husband-forgot-to-disclose-vasectomy

@Emperor_ReinScarf

So, she started skipping her birth control regimen without telling her husband, yet got mad when she discovered he had a secret, too! You can't make this stuff up.

She wanted to use executive authority when it came to bringing children into this world, yet didn't appreciate his use of executive authority to guard against it.

 

[Colicat]

tell me again

... the same age as @malcolmxxx_45

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Having babies out of wedlock with a baby momma you end up resenting is living your life?

Obviously, what else would you call that? "Not living your life"?

 

[Ain't That Something]

So The Coli shyts on single mothers relentlessly, but can't understand why women would do the same to single fathers.

Interesting.

I have yet met a woman that shyts on single fathers. In fact a lot of them welcome them. That aside what's wrong with people with no kids dating other people with no kids and people with kids date people with kids.

 

[Opus]

As human beings, we're fundamentally selfish creatures.

When a man enters a relationship with a woman, and vice versa, both parties want the other's undivided attention. No one wants to compete with a kid, baby mama/daddy, extended family, etc.

na men are designed to have many kids so women aren't really put off by it as long as you have enough wealth so she can be comfortable. It's all about wealth. This joy of being the first to do something with someone and doing together for the first time only applies to regular people living pay check to pay check. If you have a house and finances in order to afford her and more kids she won't care. On the other hand, men don't think this way.

 

[mamba]

It's funny how the "reproductive rights" crowd shouts the "it's her body" shyt when a woman wants to get an abortion, her tubes tied, etc. She can do all of that stuff without talking it over with her mate.

But, if a man chooses to get a vasectomy, he's selfish. He's committed an act of betrayal. It's grounds to terminate the relationship, immediately.

"Reproductive rights"

Once that "pill" for men hits the streets, those "reproductive rights" voices are going to change their tune. Sit back and watch, brehs.

 

[John Mayer]