(Poll) Is it deceptive if someone doesn't mention they have kids on dating sites?

[fukkyalifestyle]

I'm a guy so this thread can be for woman dating guys as well. I was talking to this girl for a bit who had a kid and didn't tell me or mention them on their profile. I looked her up on Facebook so I knew she had a kid but she didnt tell me till like a month in. She ended up being shytty so it didn't work out but that seems like a huge red flag no?

Just matched this other chick yesterday and she doesn't mention her child in her profile at all but she just told me today that she has one. Since she's telling me earlier on it's not as much a red flag but still.

Is that not being deceptive or shady not mentioning you're kid or having a photo of them on your dating profile? Not sure I would of even hit like on her if i knew she had a kid.

 

[The ADD]

If it’s for any setup that isn’t just straight hook-up it’s deceptive.

I get why they are likely hiding it but sketchy just the same

 

[newarkhiphop]

Not having the kid on there online profile or whatever isn't a big deal to me, as long as when you talk or meet they say something

There's a lot of sick dudes in this world who might target a mom to get at there kid

 

[TL15]

Is it deceptive? It depends on what that person is looking for. If a woman is just looking to have sex with you, why does it matter if she has a kid? If a woman is looking for marriage ( like on EHarmony, Match etc.) then she should mention if she has kids.

But if you are on free dating websites worried about the quality of your matches, maybe go to one of the paid ones so you can find the quality of woman who takes her online dating seriously enough that she is willing to pay 9.99 a month

 

[...o3]

...i don't think dudes care. most if not all of us are on them sites for quick hook ups.

 

[fukkyalifestyle]

@smokeurobinson you would one star this you weirdo pedo who likes to jerk off with his nephews.

 

[fukkyalifestyle]

Not having the kid on there online profile or whatever isn't a big deal to me, as long as when you talk or meet they say something

There's a lot of sick dudes in this world who might target a mom to get at there kid

I'm not saying they need to post a photo of their kid but they should at least mention they have one. We linked on the app hinge which asks you if you have kids so she purposely didn't answer it. I duno i never messed with a girl that had kids and not sure I could marry someone who already has kids. Not saying I am gonna marry her just saying.

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

It’s not deceptive in this age of predators online looking to harm children..
You would have to be a stone cold fool to do some shyt like that..
Especially without the other parents consent..
Now if you have been dating for a while and both parties are vibing..
And they lied and said they didn’t have children because you are not fond of kids..
Only to backdoor once feelings got involve..
Then we talking some deceptive bullshyt..
Had that happen once..
Really liked the girl and went against my better judgement..
Met Her daughter who was 6 and she was delightful..
But once the father found out
He did everything in his power to break us up and the rest was history
That’s when I vowed to not get involved with single mothers

 

[fukkyalifestyle]

It’s not deceptive in this age of predators online looking to harm children..
You would have to be a stone cold fool to do some shyt like that..
Especially without the other parents consent..
Now if you have been dating for a while and both parties are vibing..
And they lied and said they didn’t have children because you are not fond of kids..
Only to backdoor once feelings got involve..
Then we talking some deceptive bullshyt..
Had that happen once..
Really liked the girl and went against my better judgement..
Met Her daughter who was 6 and she was delightful..
But once the father found out
He did everything in his power to break us up and the rest was history
That’s when I vowed to not get involved with single mothers

They should at least mention in their profile they have a kid. They dont have to say anything else or post a photo of them. It's like what if I don't like people who smoke ciggs and they smoke but dont put it in there profile? It's same thing. I don't want to deal with some crazy ex/baby dad like you mentioned. I duno I guess ill go for it now but I usually don't hit up single moms.

 

[knickscity]

Unless you plan on dating this person long term, whether they have a child or not shouldn't matter nor should they mention it.

 

[Deuterion]

Someone having a kid is none of your business until you and that person decide that you want to get serious.

 

[The ADD]

Someone having a kid is none of your business until you and that person decide that you want to get serious.

Ehhhhh

That totally negates the persons right to not date someone with kids on any level.

 

[Piff Perkins]

Not mentioning it in a profile is fine; it's personal info you might not want everyone to know. But you should mention it in conversations/IMs with whoever you're talking to on the site.

My uncle wasn't using a site, but I've mentioned this before...he was dating a chick for more than half a year before finding out she had a child. He'd go to her apartment, not see any kid stuff, and I guess he simply didn't ask because she operated like a single woman with no kids. By the time he learned, he was deep in the relationship. They got married, had a kid...and divorced after a few years because she was not a good mother (among other things).

You gotta be smart. I understand that my uncle liked her and felt he was in too deep...but you gotta be smarter than that. If you're seriously dating someone and they hide something as important as a kid...they cannot be trusted.

 

[fukkyalifestyle]

Someone having a kid is none of your business until you and that person decide that you want to get serious.

this makes no sense. so they dont tlel you 6 months in after you decide to get serious then what? what if i had a rule i don't want to get serious with anyone that has a kid? then its my fault after 3 months that I break it off after she tells me? this is why they should mention it up front.

 

[knickscity]

this makes no sense. so they dont tlel you 6 months in after you decide to get serious then what? what if i had a rule i don't want to get serious with anyone that has a kid? then its my fault after 3 months that I break it off after she tells me? this is why they should mention it up front.

You should ask if that's something you don't like. Set the standard from the start. Now if they don't reveal that info then and you find out later then certainly that's deception.