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I agree. Key words: rational…sane…reasonable…mentally stable.

Any woman with an ounce of common sense doesn’t view that social media shyt as anything other than nonsense.

But I have my gripes with women in this era too. Namely, women still seem to have issues adjusting to their “empowerment”. Some women have been so socially conditioned to victimization, learned helplessness, and operating passively that they haven’t taken on the mantle of the empowerment they fought for, even as they claim to.

A lot of the stuff I earnestly described in that post might trigger men and have chicks nodding their heads. But…women don’t really have room to poke fun at men for their failures, because they perpetuate a lot of the shyt men do with their own fukkery.

For instance, if you talk to me on any given Tuesday, I can paint you a pretty stark and grim picture of how a lotta men act in marriage. And I’m not lying or exaggerating. A lot of men do act that way.

But…when I start thinking…and that’s usually not a good idea…but if marriage is what you make it, then women need to be more active in the mating process to shape their own relationships.
:yeshrug:
Overwhelming majority of the shyt I griped about in that post could be nipped in the bud if women clearly, respectfully and assertively expressed their needs. A lot of it is a breakdown of communication based on how we have socialized women to have toxic communication styles.

Basically we shame them out of directly expressing their needs. And when they do express them, we try to shame them for even having those needs or gaslight them. And if they are assertive, we insult them as being masculine. But if they hold it in and wait until it causes heart disease or stroke from stress, then we blame them again for not communicating properly.:mjlol:So we socialize women in stupid ways, then complain about women when they give us what we want.

It’s unfair. But…so what?!:mjlol:

Isn’t empowerment being able to act autonomously regardless of others perception of you. A lot of women are playing these mental games because in spite of the age of empowerment, many are still afraid of being judged or shamed.:mjlol:

So they will sit there and allow a dude to fukk them. Multiple times. Without even enjoying themselves. Then complain that men are trash at sex. Sure a lot of you guys are. :lolbron:But the chicks are too.:umad: AND if you never communicate or take yourself out of the situation, it just signals to men that there isn’t a problem. Coming online to bytch about it doesn’t help his stroke get any better. Go communicate that shyt respectfully to him.

And then women will say “But he won’t even listen/he gets mad.” And that’s true. Male ego is disgustingly fragile. Dudes will cheat, talk trash money shyt about women. Whine, bytch and moan, and then be ready to commit that if women make even the slightest critique of anything with a dikk. “THEY HATE US!”:mjlol:

But once again women, so what?
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If you aren’t getting what you need, communicate that. If he isn’t receptive…then move on. But staying in situations and playing victim, isn’t empowerment.

Same shyt with the other marriage issues that are sources of anxiety for a lot of women when it comes to marriage.
Most women are just trying to avoid that cook, clean, take care of kids, loss of identity, taken for granted, get cheated on, dogged out, no support for their dreams, cocktail.
:scusthov:
Which is perfectly reasonable. But instead of taking on that identity, communicate those issues upfront in the relationship. If you see things sliding towards that fukkery, address directly. And respectfully, as soon as it happens. Don’t drink the problems away or eat them away or vent online. Tell that man you with exactly what you don’t like.

Stop being afraid of confronting issues and then wallowing in self-pity because there are a$$holes willing to take advantage of your fear or weak sense of self.

But this shyt is a perennial issue with a lot of women and it isn’t just their relationships. It’s their personal lives as well. Even in the alleged age of empowerment, women still allowing themselves to be pulled between Madonna/Whore extremes.:mjlol: They still cryin if men complain about twerking.
:mjlol:They still getting pregnant by dudes that don’t give a shyt by them.

:mjlol:They still taking nut to the face to pay rent.
:mjlol:And if they do make bank gargling weird scrotums, they not stacking that money.
:mjlol: They still out and about without guns/sharp objects/knives/pepper spray/oven cleaner/tasers.

Just so much shyt that would be eliminated if they were really about the empowerment they talk out the side of their necks about.

:mjlol::mjlol::mjlol:There are so many other issues they got too but those are just a few. Materialism, thinking they gotta be men to “prove” something, allowing disrespect, that silent sufferers shyt, fighting for the rights of WHOAmen to be more acknowledged as women than those actually biologically born as women.:mjlol::mjlol::mjlol:

In this era of opportunity, a lot of women are blowing it. Which is both funny and sad to me in a lotta ways.
^^^^ This TERF is spitting :mjgrin:
 

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how yall getting mad for a nikka who put himself in this situation in the first place? lol He even still sends her flowers and yall in here like "Oh woe is us men" foh :mjlol::mjlol:
 

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I agree. Key words: rational…sane…reasonable…mentally stable.

Any woman with an ounce of common sense doesn’t view that social media shyt as anything other than nonsense.

But I have my gripes with women in this era too. Namely, women still seem to have issues adjusting to their “empowerment”. Some women have been so socially conditioned to victimization, learned helplessness, and operating passively that they haven’t taken on the mantle of the empowerment they fought for, even as they claim to.

A lot of the stuff I earnestly described in that post might trigger men and have chicks nodding their heads. But…women don’t really have room to poke fun at men for their failures, because they perpetuate a lot of the shyt men do with their own fukkery.

For instance, if you talk to me on any given Tuesday, I can paint you a pretty stark and grim picture of how a lotta men act in marriage. And I’m not lying or exaggerating. A lot of men do act that way.

But…when I start thinking…and that’s usually not a good idea…but if marriage is what you make it, then women need to be more active in the mating process to shape their own relationships.
:yeshrug:
Overwhelming majority of the shyt I griped about in that post could be nipped in the bud if women clearly, respectfully and assertively expressed their needs. A lot of it is a breakdown of communication based on how we have socialized women to have toxic communication styles.

Basically we shame them out of directly expressing their needs. And when they do express them, we try to shame them for even having those needs or gaslight them. And if they are assertive, we insult them as being masculine. But if they hold it in and wait until it causes heart disease or stroke from stress, then we blame them again for not communicating properly.:mjlol:So we socialize women in stupid ways, then complain about women when they give us what we want.

It’s unfair. But…so what?!:mjlol:

Isn’t empowerment being able to act autonomously regardless of others perception of you. A lot of women are playing these mental games because in spite of the age of empowerment, many are still afraid of being judged or shamed.:mjlol:

So they will sit there and allow a dude to fukk them. Multiple times. Without even enjoying themselves. Then complain that men are trash at sex. Sure a lot of you guys are. :lolbron:But the chicks are too.:umad: AND if you never communicate or take yourself out of the situation, it just signals to men that there isn’t a problem. Coming online to bytch about it doesn’t help his stroke get any better. Go communicate that shyt respectfully to him.

And then women will say “But he won’t even listen/he gets mad.” And that’s true. Male ego is disgustingly fragile. Dudes will cheat, talk trash money shyt about women. Whine, bytch and moan, and then be ready to commit that if women make even the slightest critique of anything with a dikk. “THEY HATE US!”:mjlol:

But once again women, so what?
:russell:
If you aren’t getting what you need, communicate that. If he isn’t receptive…then move on. But staying in situations and playing victim, isn’t empowerment.

Same shyt with the other marriage issues that are sources of anxiety for a lot of women when it comes to marriage.
Most women are just trying to avoid that cook, clean, take care of kids, loss of identity, taken for granted, get cheated on, dogged out, no support for their dreams, cocktail.
:scusthov:
Which is perfectly reasonable. But instead of taking on that identity, communicate those issues upfront in the relationship. If you see things sliding towards that fukkery, address directly. And respectfully, as soon as it happens. Don’t drink the problems away or eat them away or vent online. Tell that man you with exactly what you don’t like.

Stop being afraid of confronting issues and then wallowing in self-pity because there are a$$holes willing to take advantage of your fear or weak sense of self.

But this shyt is a perennial issue with a lot of women and it isn’t just their relationships. It’s their personal lives as well. Even in the alleged age of empowerment, women still allowing themselves to be pulled between Madonna/Whore extremes.:mjlol: They still cryin if men complain about twerking.
:mjlol:They still getting pregnant by dudes that don’t give a shyt by them.

:mjlol:They still taking nut to the face to pay rent.
:mjlol:And if they do make bank gargling weird scrotums, they not stacking that money.
:mjlol: They still out and about without guns/sharp objects/knives/pepper spray/oven cleaner/tasers.

Just so much shyt that would be eliminated if they were really about the empowerment they talk out the side of their necks about.

:mjlol::mjlol::mjlol:There are so many other issues they got too but those are just a few. Materialism, thinking they gotta be men to “prove” something, allowing disrespect, that silent sufferers shyt, fighting for the rights of WHOAmen to be more acknowledged as women than those actually biologically born as women.:mjlol::mjlol::mjlol:

In this era of opportunity, a lot of women are blowing it. Which is both funny and sad to me in a lotta ways.


Everything you posted actually started at home when the woman was a child.. Since children are sponges from birth up until like 7, everything they learn about relationships between a man and woman starts at home.. If they’re insecure, the home didn't teach them about how to be secure.. If they can't express themselves, its because the home didn't teach them that.. Lack of self worth, the home didn't teach them that..

I bring that up to say this.. If a man was truly serious about being in a relationship, why do they shy away from meeting the family of said woman? So much can be learned about a mate just by observing the family they come from. But ask this modern man about meeting the family of they mate, and they'll hit you with the :scust:.. How can anyone date anyone and not be interested in the family they come from? Golden opportunity to see exactly what you're about to get into..
 
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My dad was an amazing father. And I’ve had 90% good experiences with men. I can’t say that I’ve been around that many no good men tbh with you. I just wanted a baby back then—I was 23. I didn’t care about marriage, just wanted a baby. And I’ve said it in previous threads, but I told him straight up that I wanted a baby. And he gave me one. My son was no accident. :wow:


Young and dumb shyt. I’m older now, and still don’t care about marriage. I don’t know why I am the way I am, I just am breh. Not everyone wants the same things out of life. I never cared about some of the things other people care about. Not every woman wants kids. Not every woman wants marriage. It’s not a big deal. The big deal is finding a woman who wants the same things as you—that values what you value.

You dont value marriage because you dont value black male leadership. Being a single mother doesnt require male leadership but you ironically raising a boy to become a type of man you wouldnt even marry.

Perpetually cycle created by a womans selfishness and emotions. Smh.
 

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These modern women today wonder why they have hard time with relationships

no disrespect , but what’s up with having a child and not having the father around and now step daddy government has to step in, parents are going to be used to baby sit, etc, etc…

feel sorry for all these young nikkas out here

Because women have the mentality of children, they want the baby just because it is cute and figure Grandma and Pop-Pop can take care of the baby.

Then Mama can go and have a life too while treating their children like objects and not people
 

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Because women have the mentality of children, they want the baby just because it is cute and figure Grandma and Pop-Pop can take care of the baby.

Then Mama can go and have a life too while treating their children like objects and not people
 

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You dont value marriage because you dont value black male leadership. Being a single mother doesnt require male leadership but you ironically raising a boy to become a type of man you wouldnt even marry.

Perpetually cycle created by a womans selfishness and emotions. Smh.
well your right because technically as I’ve already said I don’t want to marry… so that means I don’t want to marry anyone, so by default whoever my son grows up to be will be I would never marry because I don’t want to marry. And as I’ve already said it has nothing to do with bad experiences with men.

But my son is not only a product of me, he is a product of his father. Where I drop the ball, his father picks it back up. For example, I am not as religious as I used to be so his dad has him reading the Bible every day and they go over what he’s read to make sure he understands and they pray together.

His dad teaches him the importance of integrity and morals, and my son already has principles that he lives by to the tea and is the type of kid who always wants to do right (to the point where he tells on himself if he does something wrong or that he shouldn’t do).

His dad is also raising him to be a leader, because it’s very important to him that my son takes responsibility over his life and tries to steer others in the right direction.

All I do as his mother is drop gems for him every now and then about the nature of girls, nurture him, and teach him to have an open mind, dig beneath the surface and embrace his creativity.

I suspect that he’ll be much like my dad (my dad’s favorite saying was “to who much is given, much is expected”—believed in responsibility, work, taking on burdens of others to help them and doing what’s right even when you don’t want to). I certainly don’t life by that principle and I’m selfish asf but my son is not.

I actually am certain he will get married and will look down on single mother households because he won’t think it’s right. I will respect his belief too—and encourage him to marry if that’s what he wants. It’s not what I want so I’m not. Sorry not sorry.
 

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Because women have the mentality of children, they want the baby just because it is cute and figure Grandma and Pop-Pop can take care of the baby.

Then Mama can go and have a life too while treating their children like objects and not people
Both of my parents are dead. And my son’s other grandparents live in Chicago, so no not the case. Although I’m sure this is the case for some people. I wanted a baby because I wanted to be a mother and have always loved children. It’s why I’ll also have another. :yeshrug:
 
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well your right because technically as I’ve already said I don’t want to marry… so that means I don’t want to marry anyone, so by default whoever my son grows up to be will be I would never marry because I don’t want to marry. And as I’ve already said it has nothing to do with bad experiences with men.

But my son is not only a product of me, he is a product of his father. Where I drop the ball, his father picks it back up. For example, I am not as religious as I used to be so his dad has him reading the Bible every day and they go over what he’s read to make sure he understands and they pray together.

His dad teaches him the importance of integrity and morals, and my son already has principles that he lives by to the tea and is the type of kid who always wants to do right (to the point where he tells on himself if he does something wrong or that he shouldn’t do).

His dad is also raising him to be a leader, because it’s very important to him that my son takes responsibility over his life and tries to steer others in the right direction.

All I do as his mother is drop gems for him every now and then about the nature of girls, nurture him, and teach him to have an open mind, dig beneath the surface and embrace his creativity.

I suspect that he’ll be much like my dad (my dad’s favorite saying was “to who much is given, much is expected”—believed in responsibility, work, taking on burdens of others to help them and doing what’s right even when you don’t want to). I certainly don’t life by that principle and I’m selfish asf but my son is not.

I actually am certain he will get married and will look down on single mother households because he won’t think it’s right. I will respect his belief too—and encourage him to marry if that’s what he wants. It’s not what I want so I’m not. Sorry not sorry.

His dad sound like an upstanding individual who values family, leadership, and legacy.

With all those great qualities you mentioned as a man and as a father you still chose to be single mother?
 

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His dad sound like an upstanding individual who values family, leadership, and legacy.

With all those great qualities you mentioned as a man and as a father you still chose to be single mother?
Birds will be birds.
Hoes like her are in abundance and the reason a nobody like kevin Samuels was able to become a multi millionaire in a years time all from simply showing the mainstream world how they operate and the depth and depravity of their aint shytness.
 
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