Questions You Ask before You Date Someone Seriously

[Commish]

Im not putting my dikk in any woman with a low credit score or debt. That’s bad energy.

That needs to be figured out before the thought of marriage.

I hear you. If you are about to marry a woman, then that question is legit. If you are at the beginning stages of dating or even beginning a relationship, then said question is rather intrusive.

But, I am not someone to tell you what questions you should or shouldn't ask.

shyt, I had a couple of woman look me sideways because I asked I'd they were homeowners. To me, that was a legit question and it wasn't q deal breaker if they had a mortgage oe rented.

Asking someone their credit score that you just met is too personal. Asking someone you are contemplating marrying is very reasonable, since marriage is a business aside from a spiritual union.

Just my take..

 

[Diyhai]

I hear you. If you are about to marry a woman, then that question is legit. If you are at the beginning stages of dating or even beginning a relationship, then said question is rather intrusive.

But, I am not someone to tell you what questions you should or shouldn't ask.

shyt, I had a couple of woman look me sideways because I asked I'd they were homeowners. To me, that was a legit question and it wasn't q deal breaker if they had a mortgage oe rented.

Asking someone their credit score that you just met is too personal. Asking someone you are contemplating marrying is very reasonable, since marriage is a business aside from a spiritual union.

Just my take..

but the longer you wait to ask
The more invested you will be with the woman
Making you more likely to make a bad decision because of your feelings for her
When if you ask that question early it will make your decision more clear
People trap you by dropping bombs on you when you have feelings toward them

 

[MikelArteta]

Thoughts on tithing?
Longest relationship?

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

My biggest thing is seeing them when they are mad. How do the resolve conflict? Most men are use to arguing and resort to childish tit for tat when they don't get their way. Can't stand it. Probably the biggest reason I stop seeing someone.

How is his sense of humor? Does he have one? And is he "funny" by belittling others? A lot of people like to insult others and call it jokes.

If they start asking for "favors"? Any people that starts asking for things when you barely know them is a user.

 

[Swirv]

Can I see you’re most recent credit reports, from all three bureaus

 

[invalid]

For serious relationships, I just have one question.

With whom did you debut?

Not knowing how to answer or not understanding the question will get her the.......

Answering it the right way will let me know everything I need to know about her family, priorities, values, ambitions, education, finances, and legacy, where there wouldn't even be a need to ask any related follow-up questions.

 

[Commish]

but the longer you wait to ask
The more invested you will be with the woman
Making you more likely to make a bad decision because of your feelings for her
When if you ask that question early it will make your decision more clear
People trap you by dropping bombs on you when you have feelings toward them

I told another poster the same as I am telling you which is that I can't tell you what to ask or what not to ask, but IMO, asking someone about their finances @ the beginning quite intrusive.

As for investment, you gonna do that anyway. We all take risks, so how I see it, you can ask someone about their FICO score and they can lie to you.

Let me ask you, would you be OK if a woman ask you from the jump how much money you make per year? What if she asked you to show her your last tax return? Are you OK with that? Do you feel it is any of her business to know how much you bring in each month? Are you OK wirh her asking you how much money you have in your 401K? Your IRA? Is she entitled to know how much you pay for your home? How much interest you are paying on your mortgage?

It's one thing to want to know these things prior to marrying someone because you are entering a legally binding contract. So, when you marry, of course credit history is important, but it isn't important when you first meet someone and truth be told, there are no guarantees that your relationship will work regardless if the both of you have good credit or not. Credit can change. People with good credit can end up with BSD credit and vice versa.

Moral of the story:

People you date are NOT entitled to know all of your business right away! Also, you never volunteer bad information because people will use that against you. What they know about certain aspects of your personal business is on a need to know basis.

If you think the aforementioned isnok to ask, then you might as well ask how many sexual partners she has had and see if you will get a truthful answer..

Do what you want. Ask what you want, but for me, I am not going to divulge that type of information until I know that woman is really down for me.

To each one's own..

 

[Diyhai]

For serious relationships, I just have one question.

With whom did you debut?

Not knowing how to answer or not understanding the question will get her the.......

Answering it the right way will let me know everything I need to know about her family, priorities, values, ambitions, education, finances, and legacy, where there wouldn't even be a need to ask any related follow-up questions.

i dont get the question
could you explain

 

[BobbyBooshay]

Whats your Coli username

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

I hear you. If you are about to marry a woman, then that question is legit. If you are at the beginning stages of dating or even beginning a relationship, then said question is rather intrusive.

But, I am not someone to tell you what questions you should or shouldn't ask.

shyt, I had a couple of woman look me sideways because I asked I'd they were homeowners. To me, that was a legit question and it wasn't q deal breaker if they had a mortgage oe rented.

Asking someone their credit score that you just met is too personal. Asking someone you are contemplating marrying is very reasonable, since marriage is a business aside from a spiritual union.

Just my take..

I told another poster the same as I am telling you which is that I can't tell you what to ask or what not to ask, but IMO, asking someone about their finances @ the beginning quite intrusive.

As for investment, you gonna do that anyway. We all take risks, so how I see it, you can ask someone about their FICO score and they can lie to you.

Let me ask you, would you be OK if a woman ask you from the jump how much money you make per year? What if she asked you to show her your last tax return? Are you OK with that? Do you feel it is any of her business to know how much you bring in each month? Are you OK wirh her asking you how much money you have in your 401K? Your IRA? Is she entitled to know how much you pay for your home? How much interest you are paying on your mortgage?

It's one thing to want to know these things prior to marrying someone because you are entering a legally binding contract. So, when you marry, of course credit history is important, but it isn't important when you first meet someone and truth be told, there are no guarantees that your relationship will work regardless if the both of you have good credit or not. Credit can change. People with good credit can end up with BSD credit and vice versa.

Moral of the story:

People you date are NOT entitled to know all of your business right away! Also, you never volunteer bad information because people will use that against you. What they know about certain aspects of your personal business is on a need to know basis.

If you think the aforementioned isnok to ask, then you might as well ask how many sexual partners she has had and see if you will get a truthful answer..

Do what you want. Ask what you want, but for me, I am not going to divulge that type of information until I know that woman is really down for me.

To each one's own..

These two posts are conflicting..
Asking someone if they are a homeowner..
On the first date/couple of dates..
Is just as intrusive..
As outright asking about credit scores..
Asking if someone is a homeowner..
Is a round about way of seeing if they are..
Financially literate/responsible..
Most questions are going to be intrusive no matter what..
The first stages of dating are crucial..
Especially as you get older..
I can agree asking someone about financials..
On the first three dates or even the first month..
Can be “perceived” as intrusive..
But by month 2 or 3..
Both parties are feeling each other by then...
Real questions and foundation building need to occur..
This ain’t dating in your teens and 20s..
We in grown man phase..
Tying your money to a woman..
And vice versa..
Especially in this economic turmoil..
Is a very important sign..

 

[Diyhai]

I told another poster the same as I am telling you which is that I can't tell you what to ask or what not to ask, but IMO, asking someone about their finances @ the beginning quite intrusive.

As for investment, you gonna do that anyway. We all take risks, so how I see it, you can ask someone about their FICO score and they can lie to you.

Let me ask you, would you be OK if a woman ask you from the jump how much money you make per year? What if she asked you to show her your last tax return? Are you OK with that? Do you feel it is any of her business to know how much you bring in each month? Are you OK wirh her asking you how much money you have in your 401K? Your IRA? Is she entitled to know how much you pay for your home? How much interest you are paying on your mortgage?

Women ask about your income indirectly by asking your profession and seeing your lifestyle.
Your living arrangements, car and the way you spend money on dates, gifts, etc. You can usually get a good feel if a dude has money or not.


It's one thing to want to know these things prior to marrying someone because you are entering a legally binding contract. So, when you marry, of course credit history is important, but it isn't important when you first meet someone and truth be told, there are no guarantees that your relationship will work regardless if the both of you have good credit or not. Credit can change. People with good credit can end up with BSD credit and vice versa.

Moral of the story:

People you date are NOT entitled to know all of your business right away! Also, you never volunteer bad information because people will use that against you. What they know about certain aspects of your personal business is on a need to know basis.

I agree people can’t divulged everything personal about themselves things like debt, being raped, abused, molested, other poor choices and misfortunes are not everyone’s business. But waiting till the point of marriage feels like being tricked and trapped.


If you think the aforementioned isnok to ask, then you might as well ask how many sexual partners she has had and see if you will get a truthful answer..

Do what you want. Ask what you want, but for me, I am not going to divulge that type of information until I know that woman is really down for me.

To each one's own..

To me it’s like a what point are you willing to be honest about who you are. I need a person confident in who they are. Honesty to me is the deepest intimacy. I have seen plenty of people who are not their true self’s around their partners. A relationship built on half trues and misrepresentations is doomed from the start. Maintaining a lie is usually harder and worst than telling the truth.

 

[Diyhai]

These two posts are conflicting..
Asking someone if they are a homeowner..
On the first date/couple of dates..
Is just as intrusive..
As outright asking about credit scores..
Asking if someone is a homeowner..
Is a round about way of seeing if they are..
Financially literate/responsible..
Most questions are going to be intrusive no matter what..
The first stages of dating are crucial..
Especially as you get older..
I can agree asking someone about financials..
On the first three dates or even the first month..
Can be “perceived” as intrusive..
But by month 2 or 3..
Both parties are feeling each other by then...
Real questions and foundation building need to occur..
This ain’t dating in your teens and 20s..
We in grown man phase..
Tying your money to a woman..
And vice versa..
Especially in this economic turmoil..
Is a very important sign..

to me this is when things start to feel like a business transaction
My concerns are more about character
I can provide for myself
As long as you not trying to spend all my money and you not in crazy debt I’m good
You really don’t have to have much

 

[Commish]

These two posts are conflicting..
Asking someone if they are a homeowner..
On the first date/couple of dates..
Is just as intrusive..
As outright asking about credit scores..
Asking if someone is a homeowner..
Is a round about way of seeing if they are..
Financially literate/responsible..
Most questions are going to be intrusive no matter what..
The first stages of dating are crucial..
Especially as you get older..
I can agree asking someone about financials..
On the first three dates or even the first month..
Can be “perceived” as intrusive..
But by month 2 or 3..
Both parties are feeling each other by then...
Real questions and foundation building need to occur..
This ain’t dating in your teens and 20s..
We in grown man phase..
Tying your money to a woman..
And vice versa..
Especially in this economic turmoil..
Is a very important sign..

I don’t agree that asking someone if they own a home is intrusive. Besides, I never said it is ok to ask someone if they are a homeowner on a first date. Dates should be fun, with light hearted bantering. I have asked women that question during a phone convo just like they ask me what a I do for a living in conversations. I could interpret asking what a I do for a living as being intrusive. But, I understand why said question is asked. She wanna know if I am gainfully employed and if a I could provide for a family down the line.

Being a homeowner or not is not a disqualified for me, but I may not wanna deal with someone who lives at home with their folks, but I am cool with someone who co-owns a home with their folks or has their folks or parent live with them in their home. I am cool with someone having roommates.
But asking someone if they own a home or rent is less intrusive than asking someone’s FICO score. I would not get into finances until I am well into a relationship where things may get real serious.

But, let me say this if someone feels that being a homeowner is intrusive, then we are not compatible and they should go on their merry way. I need to know if someone lives alone or not right away. I need to know a few things, but I don’t need to know someone’s financial business and we haven’t established rapport yet.

Any question can be deemed intrusive, but some things should not be discussed at the beginning. For me, FICO scores, how much someone makes and sexual type questions should be off limits at the beginning. Just my opinion...

 

[MollyGalaga]

These days that really isn't a big deal because of so many parents that are substance abusers. Can't knock a chic just because she distanced herself from disfunction.

it's not really about how they would act but how she might act.

 

[skokiaan]

Everyone lies in interviews..so it's easier to just have a normal convo with them..let they guard down and watch them run they mouth.
Buzzwords: certain number of hits determines whether someone is smash n pass status or deserves on the job training to obtain the required skills to hold hands in public. Further training and development then provides them an opportunity to be introduced to the family.

Unfortunately social media has made everyone an idiot and now more than 85% are automatic smash n pass status coz they forgot how to act.