Quick Little Gems on Dealing with Men Thread
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If you go in thinking it's not realistic, then chicks will always try to run you. If men just said no (before they've been doing it for several months) they may realize that gold digging whore is not for them from the jump.
BedRoomI'z
All Money In
Everyone has been fukked over by the opposite sex at least
once or twice in their lives. And they would be lying if they say
they haven't. It's what you learn from those mistakes that count.
Sure I can choose to be bitter or feel sorry for myself, but that would
be pointless and counterintuitive. When you know better, you do better
and that starts from within.
Ashley Banks
All I ever wanted was the world
First off, I'm not in my 20's. And I don't know what that viewpoint has to do with age. Those are basic needs that any man looks for in a woman, and yes men want to be taken care of. I didn't know that all grown men cook for themselves while they're in a relationship with a woman. Any good woman wants to take care of her man.
Andand some bytch asking me for a STD test before I get the beats. Secondly, if you choose to not give up the puss, that's your decision and you are well within your rights to do so. Understand that when you are dating a guy and you are not exclusive, you are not the only girl he is dealing with. And while you need to hold sex over his head until you "know him better" there are other females willing to do what you are not. Don't fool yourself into thinking he is practicing celibacy just because you're "special." You are probably in competition with several other females, whether you realize it or not.
So you're telling us to have sex with someone (before we get to know them) that's having sex with multiple people so he won't cheat on us? and you'll laugh at any female that wants to make sure you don't have any stds before she has sex with you? 
Maybe I'm not understanding. How is this even good advice?
I'm not saying you have to. Obviously it's your body and you have the choice. But I don't see how the logic of absolutely making a guy wait until you're in a committed relationship makes sense either. Waiting until you're in a relationship isn't any more stable.
I understand a lot of you females in here are bitter, paranoid and completely mistrusting, but I aint taking an STD test. If I say I"m clean, I'm clean. I'm sure it is also justified for you to go through your man's email, facebook, cell phone, etc.
god shamgod
Veteran
What's a very long time to you?
Ashley Banks
All I ever wanted was the world
Dude stop, I'm not bitter. I don't even understand how you're calling people bitter because they want to wait to know the person they have sex with and they want to make sure they don't have any stds. I hope you don't give this advice to anyone irl.
@ the bold, Wrong.
Dude stop, I'm not bitter. I don't even understand how you're calling people bitter because they want to wait to know the person they have sex with and they want to make sure they don't have any stds. I hope you don't give this advice to anyone irl.
@ the bold, Wrong.
I wasn't giving general advice, just how I would react if asked to do that. The main topic of conversation was when sex is introduced in a relationship. I just think most guys would be insulted to have to give you a paper showing they are clean.
Boy, bye. You're probably in your 20's.
Sex shouldn't even be introduced into a relationship until you've known each other a VERY long time AND you've agreed to commit to each other...and after a thorough STD/AIDs test. (Don't just swab the cheek, get that blood work done, b) People's true intentions and character will be revealed with time. "it's only so long fake thugs can pretend". You can date someone without fukking them and if you feel you can't, then keep it moving.
and LMMFAO at feed you. Boy, bye 3 times over. fukk I look like? Your mother. You can feed your own self because you've been eating before I came in the picture so you shouldn't be starving now.
Here's a quick lil gem:
Feed us. fukk us. Shut defukkup.
No need for endless pages of thread. It's simple science.
I already covered that, breh. This is the reaction you'll get in here.
AlreadyKnow
Southern Belle
Ladies, NEVER fall for the "if you do this he'll be faithful/don't do that he will cheat." That's just another tactic into blaming women for the actions of men.
If you can dodge single parent home guys, dodge them. You will see the affects of a fatherless man when you are in a marriage with him. A lot of rough spots in my marriage were worked through because my husband had a blueprint on what to do. He had seen up close the ins and outs of marriage from a man's perspective. He knew how to juggle being a father with a husband. Marriage is hard enough. Don't make it harder with a guy who doesn't have a clue.
Never bend on your standards. If you don't want to have sex until you know him better, then don't. If you don't want to cook and clean before marriage, then don't. I had the standard of never paying for anything and never driving anywhere while dating. I was the prize and made it clear that's how things were going to be. I didn't have any problems dating since I wasn't interested in men who didn't want to court women the proper way.
Never start off a relationship trying to impress a man. That's twisted. You should show your qualities, but not go after him trying to prove yourself. The man should be showing you that he's worth your time. And if you set the standard of running behind him, he will expect that for the rest of the relationship.
If you can dodge single parent home guys, dodge them. You will see the affects of a fatherless man when you are in a marriage with him. A lot of rough spots in my marriage were worked through because my husband had a blueprint on what to do. He had seen up close the ins and outs of marriage from a man's perspective. He knew how to juggle being a father with a husband. Marriage is hard enough. Don't make it harder with a guy who doesn't have a clue.
Never bend on your standards. If you don't want to have sex until you know him better, then don't. If you don't want to cook and clean before marriage, then don't. I had the standard of never paying for anything and never driving anywhere while dating. I was the prize and made it clear that's how things were going to be. I didn't have any problems dating since I wasn't interested in men who didn't want to court women the proper way.
Never start off a relationship trying to impress a man. That's twisted. You should show your qualities, but not go after him trying to prove yourself. The man should be showing you that he's worth your time. And if you set the standard of running behind him, he will expect that for the rest of the relationship.
PartyHeart
All Star
Don't take relationship advice from men who don't love you or even know you personally. Men will either do one of two things: tell you whatever you want to hear or protect the status quo for other men. But if you get advice from a man who loves you like your brother or father or a close cousin or even long time friend you know they have a vested interest in your happiness, and aren't just telling you to do stuff they wish a girl they were dealing with would do so they could take advantage of her.
QFT.
QFT.
If you gotta nag them through text to get an answer back, they clearly have lost interest.
Poh SIti Dawn
Staying Positive, Getting Better Everyday. Holler!
Yeah I'm not tryna be in here looking bitter. Really y'all should just play it as you go with men. Cuz losing ain't the end of the world and u should be who you wanna be huh