Real talk. Have you ever been in love?

[patscorpio]

i've been in love and it was the most painful lesson I was ever dealt with regarding females and relationships..my ex who i met when i was 23..she was my first adult relationship and i jumped in head first into the relationship..first gf i ever said i love you to and everything..no strings attached..problem was she didn't jump in no strings attached..problems eventually came and finished that relationship...ever since then ive had 2 relationships including my gf who ive been with for 5+ years but i never jumped headfirst like that ever again

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Wouldn't call it love but I did seriously care about her.

 

[MikelArteta]

i've been in love and it was the most painful lesson I was ever dealt with regarding females and relationships..my ex who i met when i was 23..she was my first adult relationship and i jumped in head first into the relationship..first gf i ever said i love you to and everything..no strings attached..problem was she didn't jump in no strings attached..problems eventually came and finished that relationship...ever since then ive had 2 relationships including my gf who ive been with for 5+ years but i never jumped headfirst like that ever again

slow and steady
anything you jump in fast ends fast

 

[ℒℴѵℯJay ELECTUA]

I respect gays, my cousin is a proud gay man with kids. How do you cope with the homophobia here

This Is a message forum, it has no pressure to my life.

 

[Rawtid]

Nope.

 

[BigMan]

Nope

 

[Tropical Fantasy]

Yes...


I'm very quirky and have very different interests so it's hard to find people I have a lot of things in common with, much less black people, much less black women. We connected with each other spiritually, emotionally, physically, and sexually. She accepted me at my absolute lowest and still rode for me when I treated her like shyt . Through all the emotional abuse, cheating, drug abuse, etc she still remained loyal to me... She helped make the transition from teenager to man and loved me through the ups & downs. Ultimately I left her because I didnt deserve her, she was an angel and I was injecting her with my devilish ways

It took me almost 2 years to really get over her, it really fukked me up... If it wasnt for my current girlfriend I probably would try to get back with her too

 

[Couth]

Just found out i'm in love with the female i'm currently with. Woke up one day looked at her and boom i was in love. I was always really infatuated with her. We knew each other for a long time and i always treated her like just another bytch. Would just randomly cut her off when i was bored, then come back to smash months later. But she always treated me like i was her king or something. And i disliked her for that. Felt like she was weak for letting me walk all over her when she obviously deserved better. But i recently realized that shes not weak shes just that in love with me. Also realized that girls like her are rare. And even though i know its completely illogical i still feel like i should be building shrines to her and putting her on a pedestal lol. We've gotten to the point where her being happy, makes me happy. And thats like a huge step for me cuz i'm super selfish.

I think thats what love really is. Throwing away logic and just allowing yourself to really grow close to someone. So close that making them happy is what makes you happy.

 

[patscorpio]

slow and steady
anything you jump in fast ends fast

I wouldn't say it was fast...we met randomly at a party in the fall of 2005 and there was no connection other than we had a mutual friend and reconnected on New years eve 2005 on myspace during a snow storm which kept me in that night..the talking stage lasted 5 months before I jumped into the relationship

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

@Ms.CuriousCat I assume you asking this question to gauge whether or not a guy is in love with you?

No I'm trying to see it from a male perspective, Cinna pretty much summed up what I think most females feel or how we'd describe it (pretty much summed up my description word for word) but from what some of the guys have said "being happy that she's happy", maybe love is just love

 

[wet landscapes]

What made them more than a jump-off?


How did you know it was more than just casual?

Them being a "jump off" would imply that I got to have sex with who I fell in love with

 

[Dwolf]

Nope.

 

[Rawtid]

 

[Dwolf]

Need to get you a medical procedure to get that ice water out your veins

 

[MikelArteta]

Yes...


I'm very quirky and have very different interests so it's hard to find people I have a lot of things in common with, much less black people, much less black women. We connected with each other spiritually, emotionally, physically, and sexually. She accepted me at my absolute lowest and still rode for me when I treated her like shyt . Through all the emotional abuse, cheating, drug abuse, etc she still remained loyal to me... She helped make the transition from teenager to man and loved me through the ups & downs. Ultimately I left her because I didnt deserve her, she was an angel and I was injecting her with my devilish ways

It took me almost 2 years to really get over her, it really fukked me up... If it wasnt for my current girlfriend I probably would try to get back with her too

you are worthy breh DONT ever think you don't deserve anyone