Recent study finds that 60% of men under 30 are single due to social media and the internet

[Formerly Black Trash]

Here is my counter to that whole video.

him describing himself and his nose…. Don’t do that. Women care about their feature. Breh looks like he got a good car. His whole game should be “get women in that passenger seat”.

When that bytch said Eww to him in the club. He should have said “fukk you bytch” and then went back to partying with his friends. Don’t let some random bytch snatch your soul. She is a stranger who happens to have a p*ssy. Check her

All that social media shyt …. Bird babble. Women said bird babble and you got to ignore it. Peep their actions. bytches will say they hate men, run into a man they like, and delete all these posts. Also Dudes need to stop comparing life to social medial. All social media will show you is what you don’t have,

When talking about the economy he is right, but happy hour is a thing that more people should lean on. Also stop trying to take them down that night, buy a woman a drink to get their number/social and then hit them up there where it’s free. Like don’t get me wrong buying a woman a drink is a great way to get her attention, but if you can’t afford that, don’t do that, or limit yourself to one drink to start the conversation. He’s doing the math for a one night stand. One night stands/first day lays are a lot harder to pull than any other maneuver. They get expensive because you got to sweep her off her feet. Why attempt that if you’re not balling? shyt why attempt that with a stranger if you’re not on a date to begin with.

Basically none of this is new. The resentment isn’t new either. However, this defeatist attitude is new.

Bruh a lot of this is new

Ppl acknowledge the way men are being radicalized over the internet but when it comes to dating it's just "git gud"

 

[AAKing23]

Interesting. Rejection is a part of life. People on social media spout bullshyt 90% of the time. The price of drinks is valid, but buying drinks for the possibility of a one night stand is always risky. Ghosting the day after giving out her number could be a variety of reasons. It could be ego as some women are just looking to have a good time when they go out and nothing, it could be because she didn't like the way the interaction went in person, it could be that he sent the driest text known to man, or she simply was drunk and does not remember who she even gave her number out to. It's a numbers games. Every woman that gives out her number to man isn't necessarily going to get a text back, a date or even relationship. That's life.

100 percent, rejection is a part of life.

However repeated rejections will have an effect on someone's mental eventually. You gotta have the confidence to be able to absorb the impact of that rejection so that you don't take a serious hit to your self esteem.

For guys like myself or others that have a history of suffering from low self esteem, I don't think continuously subjecting yourself to that is sustainable long term. You pretty much gotta take yourself out the game and get right

 

[folasade]

100 percent, rejection is a part of life.

However repeated rejections will have an effect on someone's mental eventually. You gotta have the confidence to be able to absorb the impact of that rejection so that you don't take a serious hit to your self esteem.

For guys like myself or others that have a history of suffering from low self esteem, I don't think subjecting yourself to that is sustainable long term. You pretty much gotta take yourself out the game and get right

Which is why you work on your self esteem and always keep working at it. It's not sustainable if you don't build, maintain your self esteem and adapt. We all get knocked down, but you gotta get back up to keep walking. Do things that make you feel good about yourself. And you do not ever let your social skills atrophy, or slack on your physical appearance. Seek out a therapist or counselor to help with that do it and go consistently, if you don't have friends to talk you through when you're feelin low. You never stop working on yourself.

 

[Wargames]

This isn't motivational for young men its a horror plot. Dude was still getting attention from a committed woman, when he was down. His consolation for levelling up and pursuing her was switching places with her old man. With no guarantee the next him isn't coming along. This is what the average dude believes his fate is.



It should be as it seems virtually impossible for older men to understand the shift in dynamics. Intrinsically men know were not women - our messaging isn't be you & they'll love you for you. Rather you need to undergo adversity learn skill, develop, grow. However, the internet's hypervisibility has shown men that "not everyone struggles when younger" "needs to work on themselves to score" "working on yourself doesn't guarantee success," "easier is relative". Its such a simple concept but it'll be disputed because [ insert personal anecdote ]. Ignoring data that show dating's turned into a gamified marketplace where average user is competing with endless options. In the most common way couples meet today there is 1:9 to men ratio and in society at large its 1:3. Hence them making up that 60%.

Yes, women are gatekeepers of sex/relationships and men marriage/commitment. Yet, we know less men are having sex or in relationships. Given the accelerated cost of living / housing relative wages, dual income households should have garnered greater appeal. Historically, men out earn & settle for lower income women. This doesn't happen vice versa & with women's economical stability improving its not stopping. Hesitance amongst committed men to marry arises from cost: blowback of failed matrimony. This is happing across most developed nations. Fatherhood which was a key pillar of masculinity isn't even as lauded as motherhood, lol.

I don't complain about women. If anything I've left spaces & blocked posters who keep crying about that. However, I am fair and certain brehs will never get it. I lean left & observe all this with fascination as its capitalist hell hole. At 30, I've seen all these movements & shift come about. From when I started uni - seeing people move from pua to redpill which fracture into mgtow & "race realism" to "blackpill". I've said dating endemic of a wider issue. Be it education, finances boys are struggling long before they even become "men". Going to work and school and church doesn't give you a 25% chance to meet women. The people who dominate that group are 35-45, those in < 35 make the LEAST. There's still 2x likely to met woman online. Proximity is no longer a guarantee for attention.

I cannot stress this enough, there has been less focus on socialization & men who're expected to initiate bear the brunt of this. There's an entire age group that's been told approaching is microaggression, don't approach without choosing signals, peacocking ( which by itself is masquerading to be something you're not ). On the subject of don't go to college. This was pushed to drive entrepreneurship which coincided with a period where there was high demand for blue collar work & social media as a business model. If you went to college the advise was pursuit financially rewarding fields like STEM. Its why although there's less men with degrees, those fields are still dominated by them. Nonetheless. here's comes the crux, men have been pushed the idea work on you, the women will come, put yourself out there. Most are finding out its not enough.

The largest marketplace for relationships - sexual, romantic, platonic, business is online and continues to trend upwards. Those women in school/church/work are on socials.

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You’re pointing to disillusionment with a world based on a Dating scene that is developed on economic transactions. I said this before everything is numbers before it happens to you. This over valuing of statistic and denial of lived experiences of others is just you placing a higher emphasis on quantitative data over qualitative, when it has been shown often quantitative data is not a substitute for lived experiences.

That story I gave is life…. You don’t own a woman. Even if she was a virgin when you get married and you have three kids, she can divorce you and leave you for someone else. You got to go out there and figure it out, saying he became her new provider…. Yes, but she has her own money. She doesn’t need his money but he used it to get her. Did he prioritize physical beauty to her being available, yes but that is his choice. Ya’ll can find a regular woman.

That’s the whole point.

Also I think this idea I am trying to be motivational is being over represented. I think as a generation Gen Z became haters because all they see are things that their algorithms and social media tell them they can’t have. We’re black men. We were struggling forever. The idea we can’t have stuff isn’t new. In fact this is the first time in modern US history we can Lowkey have anything we want. These recent trend of “boys are struggling” is aimed mostly at the white boys who are struggling. That is especially why you don’t see sympathy from older black men. For us to have anything means we had to work harder than our white peers. We see ourselves distinct from them and have always moved differently. Hell if you look at the data for us to have anything we had to work harder than our white, spanish, Indian, Asian, and Native American peers too. Read the book by Dr. Jawanza Kunjufu “The conspiracy to destroy black boys”. It was written in 1984 about programs put in place since the 1960’s. The system been out to get us since we been here and saying we have a New issue is ignoring that fact. Personally I don’t give a fukk about white people. shyt just got bad for them.

Bruh a lot of this is new

Ppl acknowledge the way men are being radicalized over the internet but when it comes to dating it's just "git gud"

No not get good. Go out there be bad, and improve by learning from your mistake. Like if they can play a video game and start from level 1 why is the idea of dating and learning from level 1 so foreign to them? It’s the same principal learn the game and learn your role in it.

Being radicalized by the internet to think you’re inferior is a clear sign you need to switch the places you go on the internet. Including this site, though considering we’re black men here at least you know we aren’t racist against you. Just Like in real life if the place is full of white people peep how they act and if they get out of pocket go somewhere else.

 

[Wargames]

100 percent, rejection is a part of life.

However repeated rejections will have an effect on someone's mental eventually. You gotta have the confidence to be able to absorb the impact of that rejection so that you don't take a serious hit to your self esteem.

For guys like myself or others that have a history of suffering from low self esteem, I don't think subjecting yourself to that is sustainable long term. You pretty much gotta take yourself out the game and get right

I legit recommend therapy. It’s 2025 everyone knows it can be effective. If low self esteem is affecting your ability to deal with rejection talk to someone who can help. Don’t let that limit your ability to find companionship. Life is surprisingly short.

 

[Wargames]

That's my biggest gripe. Why are these brehs trying to listen to these women when reality shows they contradict themselves constantly. I'm in a financially great place and I'm not taking no chick on a extravagant first date especially if I don't know her or gotten to understand who she is. I've had women try to pull that move on me and I've gotten called broke a few times but guess what she still didn't get that meal outta me. It's certain hoops and shyt tests that brehs should peep immediately and just stop dealing with the chic completely. But like you said they're too pressed to have sex as quickly as they can which is why the women are running circles around them out here. They know y'all are horned up so they're using that leverage to get as much as they can and sometimes they still ain't letting you smash lol

Yeah women can be very cruel with their words, and they have that advantage because men are not subtle. It’s just….nthere are so many women out there eventually one is going to give you a shot.

Like when I think about these kids I think about that Dragonball Durag music video by Thundercat. It’s fiction but it’s real in that he kept spitting his story and eventually somebody bit. That is the real level of PUA and why it started to die and had to remake itself. At a certain level all your doing is being you around enough women and some will choose You based on you being you.

 

[Scaaar]

You’re pointing to disillusionment with a world based on a Dating scene that is developed on economic transactions. I said this before everything is numbers before it happens to you. This over valuing of statistic and denial of lived experiences of others is just you placing a higher emphasis on quantitative data over qualitative, when it has been shown often quantitative data is not a substitute for lived experiences.

That story I gave is life…. You don’t own a woman. Even if she was a virgin when you get married and you have three kids, she can divorce you and leave you for someone else. You got to go out there and figure it out, saying he became her new provider…. Yes, but she has her own money. She doesn’t need his money but he used it to get her. Did he prioritize physical beauty to her being available, yes but that is his choice. Ya’ll can find a regular woman.

That’s the whole point.

Also I think this idea I am trying to be motivational is being over represented. I think as a generation Gen Z became haters because all they see are things that their algorithms and social media tell them they can’t have. We’re black men. We were struggling forever. The idea we can’t have stuff isn’t new. In fact this is the first time in modern US history we can Lowkey have anything we want. These recent trend of “boys are struggling” is aimed mostly at the white boys who are struggling. That is especially why you don’t see sympathy from older black men. For us to have anything means we had to work harder than our white peers. We see ourselves distinct from them and have always moved differently. Hell if you look at the data for us to have anything we had to work harder than our white, spanish, Indian, Asian, and Native American peers too. Read the book by Dr. Jawanza Kunjufu “The conspiracy to destroy black boys”. It was written in 1984 about programs put in place since the 1960’s. The system been out to get us since we been here and saying we have a New issue is ignoring that fact. Personally I don’t give a fukk about white people. shyt just got bad for them.


No not get good. Go out there be bad, and improve by learning from your mistake. Like if they can play a video game and start from level 1 why is the idea of dating and learning from level 1 so foreign to them? It’s the same principal learn the game and learn your role in it.

Being radicalized by the internet to think you’re inferior is a clear sign you need to switch the places you go on the internet. Including this site, though considering we’re black men here at least you know we aren’t racist against you. Just Like in real life if the place is full of white people peep how they act and if they get out of pocket go somewhere else.

It's the same thing as the drug epidemic now. It wasn't an issue during the crack era because it was primarily affecting blacks. But once the white people started dying from fent and meth now all of a sudden it's a pressing issue. The same with the feminist movement and the manosphere. These were issues that white men and women were having with each other that they roped us into to be flag bearers to further their agenda

 

[Wargames]

It's the same thing as the drug epidemic now. It wasn't an issue during the crack era because it was primarily affecting blacks. But once the white people started dying from fent and meth now all of a sudden it's a pressing issue. The same with the feminist movement and the manosphere. These were issues that white men and women were having with each other that they roped us into to be flag bearers to further their agenda

Exactly…. This whole feminist agenda shyt is nonsense. Black women have made more money than black men statistically because white people refused to hire us out of fear so we were more likely to be unemployed. Yet black men and black women have always and are still more likely to marry each other than anyone else.

There is a lot of things being conflated in this thread, but I really want to emphasize the fact that white people being sick does not make us sneeze, but the will always do their best to try and make us go and get them some tissues. They did to themselves things they been doing to us for decades.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

As long as these young men are respectful to women and don’t cross boundaries, they can do whatever they see fit in this new dating environment.

 

[Legend27]

While I agree that the best course of action is to diversify your ways to approach women, Mfs in here need stop saying to get off dating apps/online when they are by far the easiest and best way to meet women especially for young men. the solution isn’t to abandon online dating it’s to use it more effectively. Men who struggle on apps often lack the skills to present themselves well like poor photos and generic azz bios. online platforms are easier as they provide access to a vastly larger pool of women than any social circle, workplace, or local venue. For men under 30, who may have limited social networks due to career focus and/or geographic mobility and just less to no friends period this is heavily needed and they are more intentional as most users state their intentions and this reduces the ambiguity of in-person encounters, where someone might not be looking to date at all and low entry cost (often free to start) all you have to do is make an account and upload some pictures compared to social settings making it more cost efficient, much more convenient reducing fatigue especially of repeated rejections in person and better compatibility matching using algorithms to match based on preferences, values, and goals compared to random in-person encounters. bonus it makes it easier for women when approach online as it’s less annoying and scary and convenient than when guys comes up to them randomly throughout the day. One final note I wanna say is it’s ok to be mostly average as you don’t have to be exceptional at everything but keyword is mostly. you can’t be average at everything and some things should be non negotiable for example emotional intelligence when really all it is having kindness, being supportive and considerate, empathy, non-toxic traits/masculinity, good hygiene for the most part. Just like in politics with voters blaming political parties (particularly democrats) for not talking to them nicer and say just try harder when the vast majority of people don’t read past headlines of news articles, don’t want to inform themselves, push back against any other conflicting info or think social media is a credible source and any other is “fake news” and statistically cannot read at high school level. Just as voters blame politicians without informing themselves, many men blame everyone else for their struggles without addressing their own shortcomings. Dating apps are the easiest and best way to meet women and if your confidence and/or self esteem gets shattered then quite frankly neither of those weren’t shyt to begin with and you need to work on those with actual self improvement and not just going to the gym. If rejection on an app shatters your self-esteem, the issue isn’t the app—it’s your self-worth.

 

[Dwayne_Taylor]

When that bytch said Eww to him in the club. He should have said “fukk you bytch” and then went back to partying with his friends. Don’t let some random bytch snatch your soul. She is a stranger who happens to have a p*ssy. Check her

All that social media shyt …. Bird babble. Women said bird babble and you got to ignore it. Peep their actions. bytches will say they hate men, run into a man they like, and delete all these posts. Also Dudes need to stop comparing life to social medial. All social media will show you is what you don’t have,

Interesting. Rejection is a part of life. People on social media spout bullshyt 90% of the time.

I think you guys are missing his point. He wasn't trying to approach that woman and he wasn't concerned about her rejection. It was the rudeness that offended him. It also speaks to her ego.

He went on to talk about the bear versus man in the woods trend because it's an example of how many young women raised on modern feminism are low key misandrist and have other off-putting qualities, that young men don't want to deal with.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Facts.

Zoomers struggle because they're the first generation where the women CLEARLY outperform the men in almost every metric, especially education. Gen Z women have become more liberal because of an expanded worldview....while all the manosphere/UFC/Joe Rogan shyt that was aimed at younger Millenial men, actually reached the Gen Z men. Millenials were already grown when that shyt started popping while Z was exposed since they were kids and teens.

Rather than leveling up, they want the women brought down to them.

Most of the problem comes from underdeveloped social skills. Too much screen time, soft parenting (mom AND dad) and a nihilistic attitude towards everything. Say what you want about Boomers but they instilled fire in their 80s/Reagan Baby offspring. Gen X coddled their kids too much and allowed rebellion instead of discipline. The girls are fine but the boys.....

You hit the nail on the head. That pretty much sums it up.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

You’re pointing to disillusionment with a world based on a Dating scene that is developed on economic transactions. I said this before everything is numbers before it happens to you. This over valuing of statistic and denial of lived experiences of others is just you placing a higher emphasis on quantitative data over qualitative, when it has been shown often quantitative data is not a substitute for lived experiences.

That story I gave is life…. You don’t own a woman. Even if she was a virgin when you get married and you have three kids, she can divorce you and leave you for someone else. You got to go out there and figure it out, saying he became her new provider…. Yes, but she has her own money. She doesn’t need his money but he used it to get her. Did he prioritize physical beauty to her being available, yes but that is his choice. Ya’ll can find a regular woman.

That’s the whole point.

Also I think this idea I am trying to be motivational is being over represented. I think as a generation Gen Z became haters because all they see are things that their algorithms and social media tell them they can’t have. We’re black men. We were struggling forever. The idea we can’t have stuff isn’t new. In fact this is the first time in modern US history we can Lowkey have anything we want. These recent trend of “boys are struggling” is aimed mostly at the white boys who are struggling. That is especially why you don’t see sympathy from older black men. For us to have anything means we had to work harder than our white peers. We see ourselves distinct from them and have always moved differently. Hell if you look at the data for us to have anything we had to work harder than our white, spanish, Indian, Asian, and Native American peers too. Read the book by Dr. Jawanza Kunjufu “The conspiracy to destroy black boys”. It was written in 1984 about programs put in place since the 1960’s. The system been out to get us since we been here and saying we have a New issue is ignoring that fact. Personally I don’t give a fukk about white people. shyt just got bad for them.


No not get good. Go out there be bad, and improve by learning from your mistake. Like if they can play a video game and start from level 1 why is the idea of dating and learning from level 1 so foreign to them? It’s the same principal learn the game and learn your role in it.

Being radicalized by the internet to think you’re inferior is a clear sign you need to switch the places you go on the internet. Including this site, though considering we’re black men here at least you know we aren’t racist against you. Just Like in real life if the place is full of white people peep how they act and if they get out of pocket go somewhere else.

So blah blah blah anecdotal evidence over numbers?

 

[folasade]

I think you guys are missing his point. He wasn't trying to approach that woman and he wasn't concerned about her rejection. It was the rudeness that offended him. It also speaks to her ego.

He went on to talk about the bear versus man in the woods trend because it's an example of how many young women raised on modern feminism are low key misandrist and have other off-putting qualities, that young men don't want to deal with.

Some people are rude. If that's all it takes to him to forego dating altogether then he ain't really built for this world. And those women either aren't dating or don't actually behave that way with the men they like.

 

[Wargames]

So blah blah blah anecdotal evidence over numbers?

You know what, what I said ain’t for you, continue to do what hasn’t been working for you.