I've dated and had overall good experiences with Black women. I'm just sick of this shyt where Black Women and their foot soldiers go after every Black man who dates outside the race, shyt is pathetic to me. The same ppl who go crazy about brothas dating outside the race then turn silent when the sistas do it. Amazing.
The other thing is we seem to have a lot of Black Women who loathe Black men and reserve all of their hate and anger for the Black man. And amazingly enough even tho they make it clear they hate Black men they will still get mad AF when they see a brotha with a Non-Black woman. How does that make any sense?
I remember reading this book by David Mamet, where he highlighted the reason why African Americans have the worst experience in America. He said,
"Racist America elected African Americans The Villain. Once elected, that race suffered not because it was the cause of the whites' unrest, but because it was not. Christian Europe elected Jews the cause of its distress, and fury against the Jews mounted as each pogrom proved unrewarding. Anti-Semitism flourishes today in Germany, a country virtually devoid of Jews."
What I'm trying to say by posting that lengthy quote is that the black woman is not the reason why interracial relationships are looked at unfavorably. There seems to be the notion that it's black women and "their foot soldiers" that create the hostility that surrounds interracial dating. The narrative is then that everyone has accepted interracial dating outside of those within the race who are trying to, in a sense, 'hold people back'. It's unfortunate that the black woman gets the brunt of that cross to bear. This is because the black woman is not the one who made laws against interracial dating, nor is she the one that operates under the assumption that by virtue of her whiteness, you can be tempted to do the white man's bidding.
I distinctly remember sitting in a class where we were reading a novel of Baldwin's, coincidentally, and his main character- who almost always reads as himself- remarked that he had apprehension over telling his sister of his new girlfriend- because that girlfriend was white. He then said that his sister would most likely say that he hated being black and that she was a plain white woman- and he would never give a plain black woman a chance. The sister didn't have a chance to say this, but the thought of her saying this was enough. He later kills himself because of the pressures of being black within a very racist America.
The pressures of being a black man in America- those pressures I know nothing about but can imagine- often have very very little to do with the woman counterpart of the black race. Because- it is not the black woman that oppresses the black man. But, to be given the burden to carry, when oftentimes not having done anything deserving of that burden, is unfair.
TLDR: I understand where your frustration is coming from, but it's directed at the wrong demographic.
I'm just asking you a question.
I don't want a son.
