My brain jumps around. I’m actively avoiding education shyt right now b/c I’m stressed with it on my day job. But I’ll muster up the courage to tighten up in that thread at some point…I didn't forget about that pending education thread...But I'll allow it
Relationship Skills vol 1: Self-Love and Unresolved Traumas
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Forgiveness is a strange bird. It feels passive in the moment. In fact, in my more vengeful modes I’ve often told people that I wanna be the one forgiven, not forgiving.
But I do recognize how necessary it is to personal growth. You let it go because it hinders you if you don’t. And you run the risk of ruining good shyt in the future as well.
Imma try! We’ll dig deep into our psyches and lay it all out on the table.
Growing up having to caretake for a mentally ill mom fukked me up in ways that I'm literally just starting to realize at age 30. I stay trying to fix these women out here.
I'm slowly but surely making progress tho.
I'm slowly but surely making progress tho.
There are many reasons why I have a healthy disdain for p*ssy-envying fakkits that regurgitate age-old racist tropes about blk women/respectability politics and other toxic bullshyt. But this isn’t about her.I dunno OP, you hate Kevin Samuels even though I guarantee you will mention things he mentions
I don't see "Accountability" anywhere either
I've never had a woman give good direct advice. Most of em will tell you to never trust a woman
Instead, we will do some real work that has nothing to do with finger pointing and blaming others. This is about what we need to attend to prior to being in a healthy relationship. That’s true self-accountability. Change in others starts with yourself.
Yes. I’ve encountered SOOOO many people still holding onto to stuff from grade school. It’s insane.
Lmao! The scope of this thread is less about how to get others, and more about how to improve one’s mental health and social acumen by sorting out the crazy in ourselves.Clearly biting off my Relationship 101 threads...
But since Books is my coli baby, I'll allow it
With that being said, I warn every man to be extremely careful with trusting women to give you advice on relationships and bagging chics.
As someone once told me, would a fox trust a chicken to tell him how to hunt chickens?
Even if the chicken had every good intention imaginable, they couldn't tell you how to hunt chickens. They know nothing about the hunt and about hunting chickens, so how could they teach you how to hunt?
Thanks for the endorsement good sir! Imma try and do you proud.
Awwwwww wish I was where you were! Hugs are life! Let’s see if we can work through some stuff.
Not sure this topic can be adequately discussed here but subscribed
We gon see!
I think you’re on to somethingGreat example. While I started with abandonment issues, you provided another trauma I’ve seen both in myself and others
Imma call it
“Put My City On My Back” syndrome. “Mule” syndrome.
A lot of us have been responsible for everyone other than ourselves for a LOOOOOONG time. We are conditioned to always putting in work for others but rarely demand reciprocity.
But watch how hateful people get when you start reclaiming your time and energy for yourself.
Take baby steps. Learn to help others without overextending yourself. Put you first and don’t feel guilty about it. We can’t help anybody else if we dead from stress.
You said accountability though so fair enough
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Every self help book, program (ACA, AA,DA, etc), therapist is going to have you speak on your childhood.
It's where the foundation of your life starts to build and your parents are the harbingers of your growth (initially)
You learn how to love from your parents and if that process is messed up whelp
You ever hear of ACA? Good program.
Grew up with my mom, but both my parents were emotionally distant with me.
When she became sick in my teens, I was the caretaker.
Im also 30, so yea, it comes up eventually.
Someone had to ask
“Put My City On My Back” syndrome. “Mule” syndrome.
This is a very important issue I’ll expound on in depth because it is super connected with a lotta other issues.
This is a very important issue I’ll expound on in depth because it is super connected with a lotta other issues.
Lol not at the moment, but I’ve had pretty stable/healthy relationships in the past that didn’t work out because timing and location wasn’t really on point. It happens. Edit: I’ll add I had maybe one emotionally painful experience in the past with a lover but now it seems like that shyt wasnt even that big of a deal.
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