relationships are a pain man....like am i wrong here?!!

[Serious]

awwwwww shyt

It’s over

nikkas really scared to be alone

Hope op keeps us updated

 

[ABlackMan]

She went to Vegas by herself and she’s complaining you don’t make her feel special anymore

Thread

 

[MicIsGod]

You won bruh. Let her go.

 

[BigMoneyGrip]

Relationships are constant work and if she’s the right one you have to put in the work.. anyone can go on vacation.. ask yourself how did you meet her? Did you court her then? Of course you did so why stop now that your in a relationship and living together?

It don’t take much to court ya lady, every now and then bring home some flowers and candy for her.. buy her a card letting her know how much she is appreciated.. do the little things bro

It goes a long way, don’t listen to these coli nikkas they don’t get no p*ssy

Just had a 90 minute plus convo. She wants us to get therapy. Apparently she feels like I dont love her because I don't do the little things like get her flowers(I do for valentines day) random surprises, plan fun dates to keep her happy. I am not romantic enough but everything else i am good at, being there for her, listening to her blah blah but I am not emotional enough. She even said I am one the few guys she know she can trust 100 percent(I have passed up easy ass multiples times)

Pretty sure this is going to crash and burn at this point. I am going to therapy route and attempt to do better and "tap in to my emotional side" but at this point looking bad.

As a single male, I did not have to worry about this n being put on a emotional roller coaster. Like I dont know....I legit think if this fails, that my next move is a 30 plus, being single for a minute, has a dog , woman who just appreciates a man being there for her.

Also think its because my source of happiness doesn't really depend on someone while hers does.

I will see how this goes.

 

[Serious]

Just had a 90 minute plus convo. She wants us to get therapy. Apparently she feels like I dont love her because I don't do the little things like get her flowers(I do for valentines day) random surprises, plan fun dates to keep her happy. I am not romantic enough but everything else i am good at, being there for her, listening to her blah blah but I am not emotional enough. She even said I am one the few guys she know she can trust 100 percent(I have passed up easy ass multiples times)

Pretty sure this is going to crash and burn at this point. I am going to therapy route and attempt to do better and "tap in to my emotional side" but at this point looking bad.

As a single male, I did not have to worry about this n being put on a emotional roller coaster. Like I dont know....I legit think if this fails, that my next move is a 30 plus, being single for a minute, has a dog , woman who just appreciates a man being there for her.

Also think its because my source of happiness doesn't really depend on someone while hers does.

I will see how this goes.

Wait hold up you tolerating this disrespect from a younger chick too.

No wonder she’s delusional as heck.

I’m not saying your Scott free because you definitely could be doing more to make her feel special if she’s your girl.

 

[EffYou]

You won bruh. Let her go.

He gets it

 

[African Peasant]

@African Peasant Tell OP we’re social animals and that he needs to stop his bytching and meet that womans needs or he’ll be in an even worse situation

Men lead women, they don't follow them.

And yes, we social animals. Why do you think OP came to tell us this?

 

[MicIsGod]

He gets it

It ain’t everyday a women gives you this clear of a sign that it ain’t gon work. He’s never gonna want to be out all the damn time so let it be what it is.

 

[EffYou]

Men lead women, they don't follow them.

And yes, we social animals. Why do you think OP came to tell us this?

Easy, a dear diary entry post like a lot of these guys use this forum for? He don’t care about the opinions… he knows the inevitable, nikka knows the situation better than us.

It’s like that thread about our inner voices and some folks not having one , bruh just wanted to let it out… he could’ve hit a family member or friend and get some of these same responses

 

[ucanthandlethetruth]

She went to Vegas by herself and she’s complaining you don’t make her feel special anymore

It's ova

 

[jilla82]

she went to Vegas by herself!?
and wants to do a road trip?

I got a buddy in Vegas that works as a manager in a restaurant/bar.

big fat loud white boy.
told me about this chick he came up on while at work.
went to her hotel room after his shift and smashed.

showed me picks of her...
...light skinned black woman with African pendent earrings from Chicago.
Ol girl even showed him a photo of her boyfriend (a breh)

she went back to Chicago and breh had no idea.
im sure if I called my guy right now he could pull up photos of ol girl and her boyfriend on social media all hugged up for the holidays.

shyt like that is normal for my people in Vegas.
women go out there for work or a girls trip and if a dude with a mouth piece starts talking to them its over.

im not saying thats what OPs girl did...
...but I wouldnt be surprised if she's already getting curious

 

[EffYou]

It ain’t everyday a women gives you this clear of a sign that it ain’t gon work. He’s never gonna want to be out all the damn time so let it be what it is.

We might lie to ourselves more than these bytches and be thinking “nawwwww she would never”

But man when a chick ain’t feeling you it’s going to be as easy as if you knew she was into you… it’s over no point in “trying harder”… fukk that sunk cost fallacy/ catching a falling knife philosophy we grew up hearing.

 

[Ohene]

Relationships are constant work and if she’s the right one you have to put in the work.. anyone can go on vacation.. ask yourself how did you meet her? Did you court her then? Of course you did so why stop now that your in a relationship and living together?

It don’t take much to court ya lady, every now and then bring home some flowers and candy for her.. buy her a card letting her know how much she is appreciated.. do the little things bro

It goes a long way, don’t listen to these coli nikkas they don’t get no p*ssy

this some real og advice

 

[360dagod]

It's about to be 2023...

End it now...

Take that L and start getting your life back together so the momentum is building positively for the new year

 

[African Peasant]

Easy, a dear diary entry post like a lot of these guys use this forum for? He don’t care about the opinions… he knows the inevitable, nikka knows the situation better than us.

It’s like that thread about our inner voices and some folks not having one , bruh just wanted to let it out… he could’ve hit a family member or friend and get some of these same responses

He could've talked to his wall, like all of us could. But we come here for an obvious reason: company. Thecoli is not a diary, a diary don't talk or talk back. We here because other people are here.

And OP should discipline his girl or drop her.