Relationships seem to just be about doing a lot of shyt you don’t want to do..

[Deep_Black_Conscious]

No.

This isn't gonna go over well, but trust me when I tell you that if men acted the way women act in relationships, you wouldn't want to be in a relationship either.

I'm not even talking about bad women or bad relationships. Just the constant need to be entertained, and expecting the entertainment having to come from the man's side... is fukking draining.

It'd be cool if, like you said, it was shyt that I wanted to do. But... it's not. It's never shyt that I wanna do. Never in the history of manhood has a dude wanted to go thrift shopping for bedrames and curtains after hiking at 6 am on a Sunday morning. But we do that shyt because ya'll cry if we don't.

Imagine if your breh woke you up on the weekend like, "Baaaaabe! We gonna go to my boy's house 2 hours away and play Dungeons and Dragons till the sun comes up! Get your shoes on and grab your keys, you're driving. Oh and let's stop off at the Popeye's that's half an hour out of the way before we get on the road!!! There's probably gonna be traffic cause they're tearing up the road in that direction so let's hurry!!! "

That's what it's like to be a dude, every weekend.

Ya'll gotta chill with the horrible ideas, brehette.

Imagine married life.

 

[skeetsinternal]

Falling in love is easy, it's the LABOR of love that either unites or breaks you

 

[Afro]

nikkas only want women around for sex

nikka fukk that shyt too. She wants to fukk 4x a day. nikka I'm 40... fukk I look like trying to have marathon sex.

Oooohh man, I'll never leave this place

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

You’ve made a few threads complaining about this girl, she wants to talk on the phone, now she wants to go places..gasp, heaven forbid . It really seems like you’re either not into her enough to be in a relationship and/or you simply don’t want one. So why not drop her and just keep a no strings attached cut buddy...

you come across kinda stubborn, introverted and selfish with the pettiness of these complaints...what’s the deal?

 

[BaldingSoHard]

No offence something don't add up. Sounds like your dad snatched a unicon. 400K, cooks everyday, put up with cheating.

What she look like?

On god, she was a dime in her prime. I'll see if I can get a scan of their wedding photos tomorrow cause I know ya'll think I'm bullshyttin.

We all used to make fun of pops cause there was no way he could've pulled her in the current era.

 

[Deep_Black_Conscious]

without kids they have nothing to do but watch shows and social media. They have zero hobbies. I'm serious one day just secretly pay attention and analyze. Watch what they do the whole day. Its TV series, fb/ig and sleep. Occassional make up tutorials if they have a party coming soon. Thats it.

They are a one tab at a time type of people. theyll video chat with nothing to say and lots of dead space in between conversation. have you ever ear hustled on their conversations for a second? Its about nothing. When men chat its to set plans and link up. That's it. Women can video chat and listen to each other breathe for 3 mins. I decline most female attempts and they still be trying to video chat. And the few times I do accept as soon as I hear "what you doing" I know it's gonna some bullshyt. Imma start saying if you aint naked dont be jumping on my video line.

 

[Deep_Black_Conscious]

FACTS. Especially when you got to take hold of the conversation all the time. I would love to be in a relationship and infatuated. Besides sex and cuddling, I haven't met anybody that brings more to the table than just that.

Most of the females I fukked with have been basic as fukk. Nothing necessarily wrong with that. Sometimes you just want a home body to fukk and chill with.

 

[Deep_Black_Conscious]

Everytime I look over and see a bro sitting with his girl/wife, kids and shyt... nikka never looks happy lol.
Be at the mall and can't even look at all the nice ass and titties just bouncing around... I look for him tho.. then give him the look like
He be like

Do you think a lot of people get in relationships because of the fear of being alone for the rest of their life or people looking at them funny?

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

She basically is tho.

We’re not acting, I just made the thread.

This isn’t someone I just kick it with here and there. I told her I didn’t want one and she didn’t care. She imposed herself into my life daily so now it’s normal.

You’re a grown ass man, if you didn’t want a relationship you should have dipped. Seems like you’re in one and just like to put up a front of complaints here. Either be in or be out...

 

[mortuus est]

Stop getting in relationships.,.. the shyt is Stupid.
As soon as u wife her up... U lose a level of respect in her eyes...
Have u doing all kinds of dumb shyt. Doing a bunch of shyt u don't want to do... Just for in house p*ssy.
That's the realest shyt I've ever wrote write there.. if u know, then u know

in house p*ssy and mouth is very helpful tho

 

[mag357]

in house p*ssy and mouth is very helpful tho

U could have basically consistent p*ssy without wifing her up. And having to do all the shyt u dont want to.

 

[mag357]

Do you think a lot of people get in relationships because of the fear of being alone for the rest of their life or people looking at them funny?

I think it's more of the former than latter... But it's a mix of alot if things...
Mainly, the fear of not being able to secure enough sex. I keep stressing how sex to a man is basically a neccessity like food and water...
A human will always make sure they have enough food and water to be good, especially through a disaster, bad blizzard or something.
That's what men are doing when they wife up. Scared to not have it, in those moments when they really needed it, they get in-house p*ssy to survive droughts... But you can't live how truely wanna live doing that. That's the trade off

 

[GhettoTeK]

Not mine.

 

[Coli Bot]

Contemplated leaving my relationship a few times but I'm 7 years deep and stuck.

I just have to live vicariously through my single friends.

So many factors in modern living contribute to why relationships are just a pain in it the ass these days.

As a 30 yr old nikka I'll give you young nikkaz some advice. Focus on your money, self improvements, investments, fitness, public speaking skills etc... and enjoy and utilise this thing we have called testosterone. Do not even think about getting in a serious relationship until 30 plus and only with women who are on the same level as you financially.

 

[mag357]

Relationships often involve some level of sacrifice and compromise--then again that doesn't just extend to romantic relationships, nearly any close relationship you have with anyone will require you to do things that you don't want to do from time to time. That being said, it sounds like you're in the wrong relationship, if it's a common thing for you two to be doing things that you dislike doing. I was in one relationship like this, where I found myself always doing activities that I know I would not do if I were not with him and it was annoying tbh. We weren't compatible.

But I've been in relationships that were the opposite(we often enjoyed some of the same things, or when we tried the other's hobbies we ended up having fun) so I know that your conclusion isn't true. It's true for your relationship because you aren't with the right person lol. It is possible to be in a relationship where you do things you both appreciate, even though there will still be times where you have to do something you don't like, but you need to be with the right person. sounds like you aren't.

No disrepect but ur perspective will always be a lil fukked up because ur a woman... Ur life is filled with illusions because most ppl aren't honest with u...
Ur saying that relationships are about compromise... But men usually are the ones sacrificing and compromising all the time in relationships... Thats what everyone in this thread are saying... If I had a thousand men in a room... 900 of them would be saying the same thing... 50 of them would be lying and the other 50 are the no good nikkaz bytches be taking care of (my numbers are a bit off but u get it lol)
And ur last paragraph is the most important part about ur perspective... U said that u and ur partner did things that both y'all wanted to do... Or he did things that you wanted to do, And he enjoyed himself...
I'ma just make this face on that lol
If he smiled thru shopping with u at bed bath and beyond and told u he was having a good time, that's him compromising and sacrificing for ur feelings...
It's not about being with the wrong person... This is just what it is when dealing with women. If u had a dikk u would know ( again, no disrepect)
This thread is a good time to just listen to men vent, sis