ain't no classic here. move along
Reps to all! My narcissistic abuser is collapsing in real-time
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Mordith
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Be a grown man that's bullied by your brother soft brehs... 
Toxic family members are so difficult to deal with, having ties to someone that acts and reacts in pathological ways. It can feel like thereās no way out. I was so happy once I got out from my families control.
i had to learn the hard way, as did they. They've invalidated me enough and even got at me for not visiting my brother in the hospital in his potential death bed. Think about how sh*tty of a sibling you gotta be for that to happen to you
I ain't gotta think about it.
but yeah, people will try to force you to follow rules that are there to keep YOU in line.
you protect yourself by not following said rules, they'll punish you for it.
But they'll sit there like
while somebody else takes advantage of them for following those same rules.Family aint family unless they treat you like it. Everything else is just titles.
i've experienced his narcissistic abuse mostly as a kid. It wasn't as strong in adulthood, because i moved far away, and i had much more maturity. You also gotta take into account that if you're abused for decades since birth when you don't even know any better, your brain is at where it's at and you can't just "snap" out of it. It takes work. Most people live life on autopilot and don't even know why they're the way they are....they're just acting out the programmed script of their brainBe a grown man that's bullied by your brother soft brehs...
I'm glad you've never had to deal with something like that to make such a statement though
Long story short :
-my brother is a narcissist who abused me
-brother has a baby and uses our parents to take care of him but never shows appreciation
-brothers own baby doesn't like him and cries when he holds him, but runs to grandpa (our stepdad) and calls him "dada". Brother tried to crash out over this and stepped to him physically in front of our mother too
-they kick him out
-those same enablers only now are understanding everything I've been going through for YEARS and I can finally talk to them about it
-brother continues to spiral
You seem way too happy watching your own brotherās downfall
I know I should feel some kind of empathy for him and his narcissistic condition (which i do to an extent), but you have no idea what i had to go through in life because of his waysYou seem way too happy watching your own brotherās downfall
i honestly doubt i'd cry if he was on his death bed
and if you can't relate to that, then think of yourself as blessed
Uchiha God
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Abstract83
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I didn't experience the same as you. But I've dealt with a few narc ex's. It's really hard to break out of that trauma bond mentality and emotionally. Been out for 2yrs. I have a beautiful fiance' now.I know I should feel some kind of empathy for him and his narcissistic condition (which i do to an extent), but you have no idea what i had to go through in life because of his ways
i honestly doubt i'd cry if he was on his death bed
and if you can't relate to that, then think of yourself as blessed
Vindication comes slowly, but it comesā¦Long story short :
-my brother is a narcissist who abused me
-brother has a baby and uses our parents to take care of him but never shows appreciation
-brothers own baby doesn't like him and cries when he holds him, but runs to grandpa (our stepdad) and calls him "dada". Brother tried to crash out over this and stepped to him physically in front of our mother too
-they kick him out
-those same enablers only now are understanding everything I've been going through for YEARS and I can finally talk to them about it
-brother continues to spiral
Iāve had a front row seat with the toxic couple in my family for years because I live close to them, but people REALLY started to see how crazy shyt is with them in the past 1.5 yrs.
I was like āI kept trying to tell yāall that something is off and it isnāt me, but I didnāt think anyone fully believed meā.
Now they crashing out and the other elders are like āwell, all we can do is prayā
My cousins are all on the same page tho.
Really tho, Iām happy for you because these people know how to pull the wool over 98% of peopleās eyeās because a LOT of people are blind to this shyt and want to see the best in everyone.
I pick up on antisocial behavior pretty quickly because I grew up with it, and I very subtly make it clear that I see it, and wonāt necessarily rock their boat if they donāt rock mine. I am very cold and callous with those types because they are fishing for sympathy and warmth from people who are weak or too blind to pick up what they are doing.
I LOOOOOOVE sitting in silence and having a staring contest with those people
.Cuz bytch I see you, and I can do all that shyt too. I just choose to be a good person and shield the naive folks around me from falling for the BS. They either canāt tell if I figured them out or if Iām such a ditz I canāt pick up on their attempt to milk me for attention and sympathy.
Grey rocking is a life skill.
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MajesticLion
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None of that is making you breathe even one extra breath, nor making you less hungry when that hits.
Let it go. Live your life.
Let it go. Live your life.
