Reverse Marriage Proposal Gone Wrong. Get Married Brehettes

[TallMan_J]

That just depends on the couple. It can have importance and not be bad thing

That’s true, but marriage is more than that material stuff. I know people that dropped big bands on that bullshyt, and are divorced three years later. Disastrous.

If those are the things that are most important to you and your significant other, then you probably shouldn’t be getting married.

 

[Dynamite James]

I could never turn down a marriage proposal in public.

Of course there's the "cringe" of a woman proposing to a man but I'd say yes, then let her down privately.

I’ll pull her to the side and have a discussion about how disrespectful it is to put a man on the spot like that….

 

[The ADD]

That’s true, but marriage is more than that material stuff. I know people that dropped big bands on that bullshyt, and are divorced three years later. Disastrous.

If those are the things that are most important to you and your significant other, then you probably shouldn’t be getting married.

That’s true, but marriage is more than that material stuff. I know people that dropped big bands on that bullshyt, and are divorced three years later. Disastrous.

If those are the things that are most important to you and your significant other, then you probably shouldn’t be getting married.

Right but do you know that was that the most important thing to them or did they just do something you didn’t and it didn’t workout the same?

 

[Gloxina]

This is where those old school lessons come in handy. What type of family do you have that would let you embarrass yourself like this lmao

 

[LadyJ2]

Id kill my daughters if they ever stooped so low.

And he looks exactly like the type to have a fat bytch as his desperate main.

 

[Coco Loco]

SMDH. Mfs gotta stop being so cringey for clout. This is another case of not knowing your partner and not knowing their response before publicly proposing. 1) Does this man want to get married to her? 2) Is he a man okay with his woman proposing to him. 3) Would he want it done publicly? If she didn't have the answers Sway, she's a legit fool like these men who do this

DO NOT PUBLICLY propose to someone without discussing it beforehand. Surprise proposals are a toss up, if you don't know if theyll say yes, ask them at the house

 

[The Intergalactic Koala]

Mans screaming for the music like Vampiro:

 

[Lootha VanDraws]

Gah'damn

I'm preparing my public proposal for you, dear (Should I play "Share My Love" by R. Kelly or "Always" by Atlantic Starr in the background?)

 

[Kasgoinjail]

I'm preparing my public proposal for you, dear (Should I play "Share My Love" by R. Kelly or "Always" by Atlantic Starr in the background?)

Forever my lady

 

[Lootha VanDraws]

Forever my lady

I might even sing it myself

Forever my ladayy, it's like a dreeeeam!! (Okay, I'll leave the singing to K-Ci and Jojo)

 

[Da King]

I could never turn down a marriage proposal in public.

Of course there's the "cringe" of a woman proposing to a man but I'd say yes, then let her down privately.

You think you’re doing her a favor by saying yes and making her dreams come true then shatter it later?

So chivalrous of you

 

[Tres Leches]

 

[ThrobbingHood]

The reason why the proposal is made in public when they have no clue if the person wanted marriage is to force the one who receives the proposal into a situation that makes them look bad if they reject the proposal. It is a manipulation tactic.

The truth is that the discussion about marriage should have already happened multiple times, and the person preparing to propose should already know that the answer will be yes before the public proposal is made. The public proposal is just suppose to be an open declaration of their love and move towards marriage for everyone else who does not know, it is not suppose to be the time you find out if marriage is on the table or not. That question should already be answered before the public is brought into it.

So no, rejecting a proposal in public when it was not agreed to already in private is not some low emotional EQ act or the person being devoid of empathy. It is instead not allowing the person to emotionally blackmail you into accepting something, in this case marriage, you never agreed to in the first place. Like I said before, it is a manipulation tactic, hoping you will not allow them to look bad in public and so in turn hoping to force you into accepting something you never stated you wanted.

Just because a woman made the proposal does not change anything I wrote above.

One of the best posts I’ve read on here. If we’re being honest, pushing for marriage is emotional manipulation. I’m not saying people shouldn’t but most men are coerced into doing it, by their spouse and society, if not on their own accord.

After living together for about two years, my wife admitted to me that she wanted to get married and have a family. I contemplated on it for a few weeks after she told me that. Talked to my parents about it, just to get their input.

I then proposed to my wife in our bedroom one random morning while watching TV. Nothing romantic or extravagant about it at all. Got married in Vegas later that year. No big expensive event that would put us $50k in debt. Just us two in Vegas and at The Cosmopolitan for a few days. Been happily married for ten years.

People make a big deal out of proposals, rings, engagements, weddings etc. All of the unimportant shyt. Many of whom end up divorced a couple of years later anyway.

I agree with the last paragraph especially. When you have a woman who’s more concerned with the aesthetics of the engagement ring and wedding… not saying that it isn’t important but, when the focus is mainly on that as opposed to the marriage, it’s already doomed for failure.