the thing about being a nice guy is you have to capitalize on the (good) opportunities when they come, and you need to be aware of them when they happen. i think that's the difference between someone who actually is just cool with a lot of women and someone who concentrates of just fukking them and not being cool with a whole bunch of them. i would consider myself of this realm (nice guy). it'll get you a lot of play, but if you don't capitalize on it, it's worthless. you have to recognize when a woman is actually putting herself out there. it's not hard to do either, if you're being nonchalant about things. the real struggle comes when you try to get hooked up and you're nonchalant about it. there's so many women i've dealt with in a nonchalant type of manner that i've could have hooked up with. it was never a "close but no cigar" matter either, some women have either blatantly put it out there or have given so many signals that they were down to fukk.
like, i can think of one personal instance in particular. on sunday, i was playing my gig and i met these two women from austin, a mother and daughter, even though they didn't look like it. the mother was all in my face asking for my number, trying to be my facebook friend, trying to go to some other places to listen to some music, telling me to come to austin and i could stay with her, play some places, etc. we talked for a good half an hour and she kept feeding me drinks. honestly, i could see that she was down but i wasn't sure about pursuing her because she was talking about how she had a boyfriend and shyt. now a guy that's not nice wouldn't give a shyt about that. but seeing how i am nice, i was reluctant. that's generally the situations i face. there's always a little hitch that makes me not want to do things because of my value system. i should have did it, but i didn't out of respect.
i say the advantage to being a nice guy is you'll get a lot of women to approach you. the only difficulty is knowing when to switch gears...
