Hmm... from the other perspective, usually by the time we're going on the date he and I have talked on the phone a few times at least. He has a sense of who I am, my personality, my character, etc. and he treats me accordingly.
You're not obligated to spend a lot of money on a date for sure, I just can't see myself dating a guy who would view that sort of money as a problem. I do pretty well for myself and I'm not interested in playing breadwinner. I also need to be with someone who is compatible with me... if I'm into a certain kind of lifestyle and have worked hard so that I'm able to provide that for mysemyself want to be with someone who feels the same.