Serious question about settling down and getting married :(

[Mirin4rmfar]

I am turning 33, my gf is 26...She is a good woman, comes from a good family, family oriented, can cook etc. We went from dating to friends, to now a serious relationship.

I thought it would be a easy decision to make, get married, have kids but it is a real hard decision to make. I am not getting younger but I am one of those dudes that enjoy responsibility free life but with marriage and kids come more responsibility . I legit thought I would be ready already but I am not.

I am definitely not trying to hit at papa pimps age still trying to holla at woman "you got some pretty eyes" .

It is so many trash women out there that I may as well just settle down now. Married brehs are you happy ?

 

[Cattle Mutilation]

Don't get married and don't have kids.

 

[Uitomy]

I’m happy, your girl still got a few years before pregnancy becomes more dangerous and less likely for her. I’d say keep taking your time, but also remember this. I feel like in this country people are equating kids with responsibility in a way that seems hyper negative. It always sounds like that responsibility is a CHORE rather than a blessing. You’ve got to see taking care of kids as a challenge but an investment in people. Responsibility can be fun. Teaching them how to speak, read, ride a bike, cool food, workout. Etc. you know the more you educate your kid about knowledge of self and life the faster they take up on your responsibility too cause they’ll want to raise themselves up along with you so, just remember, child rearing is what you make it.

 

[gho3st]

I am turning 33, my gf is 26...She is a good woman, comes from a good family, family oriented, can cook etc. We went from dating to friends, to now a serious relationship.

I thought it would be a easy decision to make, get married, have kids but it is a real hard decision to make. I am not getting younger but I am one of those dudes that enjoy responsibility free life but with marriage and kids come more responsibility . I legit thought I would be ready already but I am not.

I am definitely not trying to hit at papa pimps age still trying to holla at woman "you got some pretty eyes" .

It is so many trash women out there that I may as well just settle down now. Married brehs are you happy ?

sometime the grass aint always greener. go see a therapist and maybe you can get right

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

If you think getting married to this woman is 'settling', then stay single.​

 

[Rawtid]

At least you’re truthful. If you’re fearful of responsibility, then don’t get married and especially don’t have kids. Let her find a man who is ready and you can figure yourself out.

 

[jdubnyce]

I am turning 33, my gf is 26...She is a good woman, comes from a good family, family oriented, can cook etc. We went from dating to friends, to now a serious relationship.

I thought it would be a easy decision to make, get married, have kids but it is a real hard decision to make. I am not getting younger but I am one of those dudes that enjoy responsibility free life but with marriage and kids come more responsibility . I legit thought I would be ready already but I am not.

I am definitely not trying to hit at papa pimps age still trying to holla at woman "you got some pretty eyes" .

It is so many trash women out there that I may as well just settle down now. Married brehs are you happy ?

Your relationship won't last
Seek a new partner if you have to settle with the one you have

I am married (over a decade, together for 15ish, lost count ) and I am happy

 

[Da_Eggman]

 

[Sex Luthor]

My rule has always been until I'm financially and mentally stable in my life I can't support a wife and kids. That's probably why I been with my girl for almost 17 years and we still not married or have kids.

When it's time you will know. You won't have any doubts about it. Kids are gonna come unplanned

 

[Ya' Cousin Cleon]

Marriage just ain't for you breh

simple as that.

 

[Sex Luthor]

I am turning 33, my gf is 26...She is a good woman, comes from a good family, family oriented, can cook etc. We went from dating to friends, to now a serious relationship.

I thought it would be a easy decision to make, get married, have kids but it is a real hard decision to make. I am not getting younger but I am one of those dudes that enjoy responsibility free life but with marriage and kids come more responsibility . I legit thought I would be ready already but I am not.

I am definitely not trying to hit at papa pimps age still trying to holla at woman "you got some pretty eyes" .

It is so many trash women out there that I may as well just settle down now. Married brehs are you happy ?

Do y'all live together yet? If not that's something that has to happen before marriage. At least a few months

 

[BlueHeffner]

Disclaimer: Been married for 3 years now


My advice is, if you arent 100% ready for that responsibility, DONT DO IT.

Having a wife is like being responsible for a grown ass kid in a way. It has its pros (life partner, someone to experience life with etc.) but you will find yourself at times tending to her needs more than your own.

Im the type of guy that likes time to myself and make moves on my own time/schedule, but with a wife that gets bushed.

 

[LOOPY]

*in life don't do anything that you aint feeling, especially something as heavy as marriage.

*If this is your mentality potentially going into it then it's doomed from the start.

*imagine if yo wifey was making this exact same thread word for word on LSA and u stumbled upon it would u be excited to proceed with marriage?

£

 

[colicolicoli]

Man if you don’t breakup with that girl now instead of wasting the last of her 20s

 

[2 one 3]

One thing I can say, is that if you have a really solid good woman. Lock it down. The older you get the more you realize that the streets are cold as hell and the majority of these bytches aren’t worth a damn.