Serious question: How do you feel about wishing family, friends, etc. “Happy Birthday” despite them not ever returning the gesture on your birthday?

[Unbothered]

Aight, so today's my cousin's birthday; my first cousin and she's the oldest, to be exact. She's turning 31 years old, and y'know, I always wish her a Happy Birthday, but last year on my Birthday, she didn't text or call me at all to return the gesture.

I felt kinda jaded but didn't stress about it, and the year before that, the same issue occurred. I felt salty about it, and the next day, I texted her a message pointing it out. To be clear we're on good terms otherwise, but it's just something I noticed on birthdays, holidays, etc.

Whether it's family, friends, coworkers, associates, etc what would you do if you were in my shoes ?

Sometimes, I get tired of reaching out to people, being kind, etc, and they never recuperate when it's something related to me I've been thinking about this for days leading up to today, and I don't know what to do.

 

[Solomon Lurke]

I don’t do things for people with the expectation of reciprocity. Especially stuff like wishing happy birthday. It’s no big deal to me. One of my closes homies forgets the day of my bday every year. Who cares, doesn’t negate any other actions he does. The real question you should ask yourself is if you really care about what you’re doing or are you doing it because you think you should.

 

[Coco Loco]

I don't really care. If I do it it's because I love them/want to give them love

Now on the off chance I don't do it and they feel a way about it, then I'm going to get petty about reciprocity

 

[Uchiha God]

I don't care, but my brother is bad with remembering birthdays/dates etc so sometimes he misses or sends him late in the day/day after etc

doesn't matter to me, our bond's strong, and reciprocity and care can come in more ways than one. in any case I shoot him a call/message on his birthday every year

you do things because you want to/it's the way you are etc - rather than strictly because you want them to be done for you

 

[The Wolf Among You]

Reciprocity is an important part of any relationship. Do not allow people to tell you differently.

Stop sending her birthday wishes.
Either two things will happen:
She won’t give a fukk. Which means you were wasting your breath anyway.
Or she’ll feel a way. Which will tell you everything you need to know.

 

[Dirty Mcdrawz]

If I’m personally sending someone text or calling them to wish them happy birthday it means I’m extremely close to them. If they don’t do it back it’s fine because that’s my feeling behind the gesture and I understand it might not be theirs. If I’m being completely honest I don’t care about my birthday. Most of the time I just want to be left alone and unbothered on my bday.

 

[987654321]

I don’t care. I even hide my birthdate at work, on all social media, and anything that might cause me to receive a bunch of notifications.

 

[Sly Cookin]

That's that tit for tat logic. When you do something out of love, you don't expect anything in return.

If you have expectations when you do something for someone, the expectation part is what makes you develop resentment towards that person.

Expect nothing, be pleasantly surprised if you get something in return

 

[get these nets]

Sometimes, I get tired of reaching out to people, being kind, etc, and they never recuperate when it's something related to me

*just jokes

 

[Cryptocurrency Scarface]

I don’t wish anyone happy birthday and no one wishes me it back

That way I don’t have to to feel upset or guilty about anything

 

[Mandarin Duck]

OP not living up to his name

 

[Kunty McPhuck]

It's a thing where it annoys you when you're younger but the older and more you get. You realise that not everyone is good at remembering things like dates time etc... and have to be reminded about stuff all the time.

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

I can't see myself as a man getting mad about some bytch ass shyt like that.



I've literally had both my parents forget my birthday and I didn't say shyt. I don't be giving a fukk about a birthday!

 

[FlyGuy]

Perfectly fine, I love to show love but hate to have any sort of fuss made over me

 

[The Wolf Among You]

I can't see myself as a man getting mad about some bytch ass shyt like that.



I've literally had both my parents forget my birthday and I didn't say shyt. I don't be giving a fukk about a birthday!

Cope.