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Serious thread: I'm 90% my GF isn't sexually attracted to me.
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SuperNintendo Chalmers
Send it to the friggin moon idiot
This relationship is gonna end badly for you both.
I'm high off that purp. The herb never lies.
I'm high off that purp. The herb never lies.
The real question is what do you mean by approach? Did they walk up to me and say hello and introduce themselves to me? No. But did they eye flirt with me across the room? accidentally bump into me. sit right next to me Tand then make a proactive effort to keep the conversation going? Yes. What I described above is how girls approach.
Have you tried PIITB?
Formerly Black Trash
Philosopher, Connoisseur, Future Legend
Reading all this now....why you listening to her friends?!
Formerly Black Trash
Philosopher, Connoisseur, Future Legend
Leave her bro
You just going to resent her
Especially if u fukking with other women and it was fine before
You just going to resent her
Especially if u fukking with other women and it was fine before
Jamesmac91
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Like oral sex, fingering, foreplay and stuff.
We were both late-age virgins compared to our friends. I lost mine at 21 and she lost her's at 23 with me. It was one of the things we shared in common when we were younger, feeling like we were the only people not fukking.
Reading all this now....why you listening to her friends?!
It wasn't just because of her friends, the biggest shifting point in my feelings of being with her was my big brother telling to cuff her because she's a good woman that really cares about me. The thing is he expected me to be unfaithful, so when I talk to him about it he's like "damn I didn't expect you to do all that (be faithful)
"There are moments when I start to resent her for it, but those feelings always fade.
I usually just talk to my big brother and my two male best friends for relieve/input, but the problem is they're all serial cheaters and fukking another woman is the only solution they ever suggest.
One of them tells me that I should just cheat because there is no way she would leave me even if I got caught. The other one is in a similar situation to mine, but runs through woman like he single. He supports me being faithful but can't give me a solution either because of that. And my big brother is pretty mum on the situation, he doesn't ever tell me to cheat but he says things like "all men cheat/as long as you taking care of her/etc"
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Jamesmac91
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To the people that suggested couple's therapy, that is something both of us have talked about before, but as of right now with work and grad school neither one of us have time for that.
And here's an update. After I posted this I ended up calling and talking to her about how I was feeling. The convo was a few hours but she basically said that she was caught off guard about me feeling like this because she felt we've really been making progress.
I mentioned how she would make sexual comments but not act on them and she rebutted that a couple of the times I mentioned we actually did have sex afterwards, it would be way later in the night but she said us having sex would be on her mind since she made the comment.
I commented how our sex life isn't great, she responded "but it's not terrible anymore."
I told her "our sex life isn't terrible, isn't a compliment or good thing." And she bluntly responded "but it's better than where it used to be, because having sex with you used to be terrible for me. Now for the first time ever I can say I actually enjoy it and can think about sex in a non-negative manner."
I also brought up how I didn't know if things were actually getting better or if it was another case like those 6 months. And she told me that she regrets lying about that to this day and wishes she never brought that energy into the relationship. But she reassured me that thing are honestly getting better, pointing out recent developments like her squirting (when we use the vibrator) and her having more sexual thoughts about me: "It used to be when I missed you I would think about us doing non-sexual things like cuddling, talking, and kissing. Now, when I miss you I actually think about us fukking as one of the things I miss."
And here's an update. After I posted this I ended up calling and talking to her about how I was feeling. The convo was a few hours but she basically said that she was caught off guard about me feeling like this because she felt we've really been making progress.
I mentioned how she would make sexual comments but not act on them and she rebutted that a couple of the times I mentioned we actually did have sex afterwards, it would be way later in the night but she said us having sex would be on her mind since she made the comment.
I commented how our sex life isn't great, she responded "but it's not terrible anymore."
I told her "our sex life isn't terrible, isn't a compliment or good thing." And she bluntly responded "but it's better than where it used to be, because having sex with you used to be terrible for me. Now for the first time ever I can say I actually enjoy it and can think about sex in a non-negative manner."
I also brought up how I didn't know if things were actually getting better or if it was another case like those 6 months. And she told me that she regrets lying about that to this day and wishes she never brought that energy into the relationship. But she reassured me that thing are honestly getting better, pointing out recent developments like her squirting (when we use the vibrator) and her having more sexual thoughts about me: "It used to be when I missed you I would think about us doing non-sexual things like cuddling, talking, and kissing. Now, when I miss you I actually think about us fukking as one of the things I miss."
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Formerly Black Trash
Philosopher, Connoisseur, Future Legend
Do you give her foreplay?