Peace fam, I think being dishonest and leading people on is very wrong. So any man that would be with a women for years and have her believing that you will get married one day, but then you flip on her and use my pre paid analogy is not cool. I'm very honest so this would be spoken about from the very beginning so there would be no confusion. You say women will not go for the ceremony without the paper, but it's pretty clear that women are doing that anyway
. So many people are playing house and shacking up as they call it, that women are losing there leverage when it comes to getting guys to legally marry them. So maybe you can enlighten me, but what does a guy get that is legally married? that I can't get by being in a long term relationship?. Also marriage isn't mandatory as we all know, so if that's something you wanna pursue then more power to you fam, I hope it works out. I would just say there are other options if you feel like you are being pressured into doing something you don't wanna do
You know when I read this, it seems like you have a fear of being alone? and you are projecting that out to other people. This might shock you, but there are millions of people who choose to be single and are living great lives because they realize that happiness is something that comes from within. Now that doesn't mean they don't find people or activities that can ADD to there happiness, but if you are looking for people to make you happy then you are gonna be very disappointed.
First, peace family!...I'm married, don't fear being alone, but I fear DYING alone. I said nothing about happiness in that. Single, as in life is harder to live alone, especially when you start to get up there in age. You have to find happiness
FIRST in WHATEVER you do! I just tend to be happier WITH someone, or with my wife/partner/best friend around, but trust I'm happy just being me. (i know this is at least partially true b/c my wife is on deployment as I type, for a yr) My wife and eventually, kids (when I have them) will give me the rest of the love and happiness that I can't give myself, that I CAN'T give myself.
Just gonna be tough, when your (in general) parents eventually die (they will!) and then there's nobody but YOU and possible siblings. Nobody to support you til the end like a husband/wife will/would/is supposed to. I ain't hating, I'm sure people do this, I just don't wanna be one of them. I WANT to be with my wife until we die...
Yeah, I'm sure if you tell the female you begin a serious relationship with, that you don't wanna marry and all that upfront, the results would be better than if you did it later on. I STILL think it would be tough to sell somebody that outright. Most cats just keep feeding their partner that marriage narrative until they are forced to make a move or they up and leave, they don't just come outright and tell them "I don't wanna marry you, but I want you around until the end baby." Props if you do though. I can only give you the side of being married cuz I am...Benefits? Gov't recognizes marriage and makes things better/easier for married people...keeping/passing money gifts, tax benefits, health coverage (for those that need it), having/keeping children much easier when you're married. Tougher when parents aren't married to do things with and for the kids (putting them on one persons insurance for example)...I like and wanted to be married, and Im happy I am...
Again peace to you fam, hope that helps understanding what I meant in my original post...sorry for the book
